If I Wasn't Controversial... Who Would I Be?

[royamcr]

I am sure most guys will support you in the change. Just think how many more single (or soon to be single) guys you will now have more time for.

[Grizzly]

Really happy for you, you have to do what you feel comfortable with. It is your business, thank you for your courage to post this.

I wish you the best and strength when things get tough.

[dirty dog]

Originally Posted by alwaysonthemove

This works out great, as I have a policy to never visit religious providers.

Is it necessary to attack her for a decision she has made that in the end only affects her.

[alterego1]

Interesting moral and philosophical issues here. So you expect married men who have been dishonest with their spouse to be honest with you? I bet I know their answer. It sounds as if you agonized over this decision. Which I think is too bad as there are so many other societal issues.

This is a bit of a slippery slope. If you're doing this as a form of enlightenment, then you have to ask yourself how your work as a provider is affecting you. God does have bigger plans for you. But you have to uncover that plan.

Cutting married men out of your business model really doesn't change the model. Only you can control you. If they lie and you believe them you are still servicing a married man.

Meditate on your future and try not to agonize over it. Good luck in your journey.

[BobsAlias]

I can be as single as you need me to be.

... just don't tell my wife.

;-)


But seriously, how would you know the difference?

[Urban Dahlia]

Originally Posted by BobsAlias

I can be as single as you need me to be.

... just don't tell my wife.

;-)


But seriously, how would you know the difference?

I won't lol. But... that's not my problem to worry about. The person who lies will reap the bad karma (negative consequences). Not me. I am just responsible for myself. I will ask everyone. Only that person gets to decide whether to tell the Truth, or lie.

I will tell you this. Those who have wronged me in the past will attest that it was not the wisest of choices. Karma will find you anywhere. Every decision comes with an automatic consequence. Positive or Negative is based on which decision you chose.

I believe in the Honor System. If someone lies, that is their problem to deal with... not mine.

Thank you to All of you who understand the Journey of Life, and its value.

[royamcr]

She's gonna be checking ring fingers closely.

[bigcockpussylicker]

Originally Posted by Urban Dahlia

I won't lol. But... that's not my problem to worry about. The person who lies will reap the bad karma (negative consequences). Not me. I am just responsible for myself. I will ask everyone. Only that person gets to decide whether to tell the Truth, or lie.

I will tell you this. Those who have wronged me in the past will attest that it was not the wisest of choices. Karma will find you anywhere. Every decision comes with an automatic consequence. Positive or Negative is based on which decision you chose.

I believe in the Honor System. If someone lies, that is their problem to deal with... not mine.

what if someone is still married but only cause of his kids? otherwise a sexless marriage?

Marriage is a promise between person A and person B, why do you (as person C) care if someone is married?

[JS42]

Originally Posted by bigcockpussylicker

what if someone is still married but only cause of his kids? otherwise a sexless marriage?

Marriage is a promise between person A and person B, why do you (as person C) care if someone is married?

Why don't you try reading her original post, it's right there to see.

[CaptainKaos]

Kudos to you.

[dirty dog]

Originally Posted by alterego1

Interesting moral and philosophical issues here. So you expect married men who have been dishonest with their spouse to be honest with you? I bet I know their answer. It sounds as if you agonized over this decision. Which I think is too bad as there are so many other societal issues.

This is a bit of a slippery slope. If you're doing this as a form of enlightenment, then you have to ask yourself how your work as a provider is affecting you. God does have bigger plans for you. But you have to uncover that plan.

Cutting married men out of your business model really doesn't change the model. Only you can control you. If they lie and you believe them you are still servicing a married man.

Meditate on your future and try not to agonize over it. Good luck in your journey.

Yes you are correct but if they lie then the lie is on them and she can continue to enjoy the decision she has made.

[dirty dog]

Originally Posted by bigcockpussylicker

what if someone is still married but only cause of his kids? otherwise a sexless marriage?

Marriage is a promise between person A and person B, why do you (as person C) care if someone is married?

Why do you care who she chooses to see and who she doesn't. Go drink on one of your mold shakes and stalk your neighbor.

[Unique_Carpenter]

Originally Posted by Urban Dahlia

... The person who lies will reap the bad karma ... Karma will find you anywhere.

Exactly, and by the way, always.

The symbolism of the bhavacakra always flows and has been around since early 400s BC.
'khor ba (or Samsara) is perhaps a better presentation.
Never thought I'd mention this here.

[alterego1]

Originally Posted by dirty dog

Yes you are correct but if they lie then the lie is on them and she can continue to enjoy the decision she has made.

I'm struggling to understand the logic here (not that I should but this is worthy discussion). Maybe not open about it, but Dahlia did make a judgement here. It's implied in her lengthy explanation. "The lady doth protest too much, methinks."

I suppose this is no different that a provider who refuses to see AA men. It's their choice and must be respected. But what we are all doing here is expressly illegal. Let's be honest, we are all lying to cover the activity. Married or single. I'm just not sure singling out married men is all that effective (was that a pun?). But it is a step in the right direction.

Again, good luck Dahlia. I wish all posts were this thought provoking.

[dirty dog]

Originally Posted by alterego1

I'm struggling to understand the logic here (not that I should but this is worthy discussion). Maybe not open about it, but Dahlia did make a judgement here. It's implied in her lengthy explanation. "The lady doth protest too much, methinks."

I suppose this is no different that a provider who refuses to see AA men. It's their choice and must be respected. But what we are all doing here is expressly illegal. Let's be honest, we are all lying to cover the activity. Married or single. I'm just not sure singling out married men is all that effective (was that a pun?). But it is a step in the right direction.

Again, good luck Dahlia. I wish all posts were this thought provoking.

Well I think her decision was on moral grounds not legal. While I am not trying to speak for her, what I got out of her post was that she fells that seeing married men violates her own personal moral code, not yours, nor mine but hers. She has reached a point in her life where if she continues to see married men it will begin or has began having a negative impact on her life,. I suspect that she feels seeing married men is aiding in the destruction of a marriage, and while she in the past was okay with this, she has now matured in her moral beliefs and no longer wants to be a part of this. This is not a judgement on married men, shes not saying your wrong for doing what you do, she is just saying its wrong for HER. We all have our own levels of personal morals, we each have a line in the sand which we wont cross. As we age and mature, this line will change. I have the utmost respect for anyone who is willing to stand on their convictions, its not up to me or anyone but her to decide where that line is drawn.