It Bears Repeating (or What NOT To Ask During Your Initial Contact)

[Caitie Mae]

I love getting PMs and emails from hobbyists I've never met before and I open them with eager enthusiasm, excited about responding to them even before I read the message.

Unfortunately, I don't always get a chance to respond to a hobbyist's initial contact because his message implies that he would like for me to participate in illegal activities with him. Anyone who has read my website or my showcase should know that I send all such inquiries to the circular file unanswered, regardless of how eager I am to meet.

Lately, over the past 2-3 months, inquiries like I'm talking about have become the norm and I feel it should be addressed in an open forum, to explain the cold shoulder so many have received from me. To that end, I have resurrected a post I made long, long ago, on a board far, far away, in hopes that... well.....

Maybe this will help those of you who don't get it... well... GET IT!

If a review of time spent with me comments that I give great medical advice, do not email me asking if I will give you great medical advice as well.

If a review of time spent with me reveals that I am a dental diva, do not email me asking if I will give you a root canal as well.

If a review of time spent with me reveals that I prepared a gourmet meal beyond compare for his weekly poker game, do not email me asking if I will cater your event as well.

If a review of time spent with me reveals that I found a buyer and helped him close his real estate deal for an amazingly low commission, do not email me asking if I will list your house as well.

If a review of time spent with me reveals that I joyfully notarized any documents, do not email me asking if I will give stamp your documents without proof of ID as well.

If you do email me asking if I will do any of these things or a host of other things that might cause even the slightest legal discomfort, YOU WILL NEVER, EVER, EVER UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES SUCCESSFULLY BOOK A SESSION WITH ME.

NOT EVER.

I would suggest that (if you can't control your desire to really know if I am a great attorney, a fabulous CPA or an amazing tattoo artist) you CONTACT THE AUTHOR OF THE REVIEW WHO WROTE ABOUT HOW FUCKING GREAT I AM IN THE FIRST PLACE!

Assuming you are a credible and contributing member of this community, the reviewer in question will probably give you more detail, more accurately, than you would ever get from me even if I would answer your email. (Which is something else that will never happen.)

This is neither brain surgery nor rocket science; don't think about it so much and you just might get it. Well think about it all you want, but don't email me to say this:

Sorry, Mods, if I am out of line. It just felt a bit like a community service.

Happy Hobbying

So, there you have it. Any questions?

~sweetness~

[johnnylongcaulking]

QFT. It goes both ways though. If you're a provider and you ask for "proof of employment", my answer is going to be, "Yes. I have money. That's all the proof of employment you need." Anonymity is important in this social scene. Don't ask me to give you information that could get me in trouble later should I accidentally (or on extremely rare occasion, intentionally) piss you off. Not directed at you Catie. Just had someone grill me for personal information.

[L.A.]

Originally Posted by Caitie Mae

I love getting PMs and emails from hobbyists I've never met before and I open them with eager enthusiasm, excited about responding to them even before I read the message.

Unfortunately, I don't always get a chance to respond to a hobbyist's initial contact because his message implies that he would like for me to participate in illegal activities with him. Anyone who has read my website or my showcase should know that I send all such inquiries to the circular file unanswered, regardless of how eager I am to meet.

Lately, over the past 2-3 months, inquiries like I'm talking about have become the norm and I feel it should be addressed in an open forum, to explain the cold shoulder so many have received from me. To that end, I have resurrected a post I made long, long ago, on a board far, far away, in hopes that... well.....

Maybe this will help those of you who don't get it... well... GET IT!

If a review of time spent with me comments that I give great medical advice, do not email me asking if I will give you great medical advice as well.

If a review of time spent with me reveals that I am a dental diva, do not email me asking if I will give you a root canal as well.

If a review of time spent with me reveals that I prepared a gourmet meal beyond compare for his weekly poker game, do not email me asking if I will cater your event as well.

If a review of time spent with me reveals that I found a buyer and helped him close his real estate deal for an amazingly low commission, do not email me asking if I will list your house as well.

If a review of time spent with me reveals that I joyfully notarized any documents, do not email me asking if I will give stamp your documents without proof of ID as well.

If you do email me asking if I will do any of these things or a host of other things that might cause even the slightest legal discomfort, YOU WILL NEVER, EVER, EVER UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES SUCCESSFULLY BOOK A SESSION WITH ME.

NOT EVER.

I would suggest that (if you can't control your desire to really know if I am a great attorney, a fabulous CPA or an amazing tattoo artist) you CONTACT THE AUTHOR OF THE REVIEW WHO WROTE ABOUT HOW FUCKING GREAT I AM IN THE FIRST PLACE!

Assuming you are a credible and contributing member of this community, the reviewer in question will probably give you more detail, more accurately, than you would ever get from me even if I would answer your email. (Which is something else that will never happen.)

This is neither brain surgery nor rocket science; don't think about it so much and you just might get it. Well think about it all you want, but don't email me to say this:




So, there you have it. Any questions?

~sweetness~

I've figured out the confusion...the people contacting you were looking for an escort.

[Torito]

Originally Posted by L.A.

I've figured out the confusion...the people contacting you were looking for an escort.

I think other possibilities are that..................
Some people are just full of shit.
Some people have no brain.
Some people are just assholes.
Some people are fucking stupid.
Some people have no consideration for others.
I am certain that there are other possibilities.
This is just one member's (moderator's) opinion.

Torito

[ManSlut]

To the OP,

Thank you, now I know why you never responded to my PM about breaking the Guinness Book of World Record for sucking a penis, specifically mine, for a handsome fee including all necessary training sessions... I so wanted to make you famous and a small part of history.

Now I must hide my face in Internet shame.

Love,

ManSlut

[bojulay]

The only advice I would give is you might send back a PM explaining
that you don't discuss services through PM's instead of just sending
them straight to the dumpster.

That is if you think you might like to see the guy otherwise.

Reading comprehension is not a strong suit of the American public now,
just a sad reality. I blame texting, twitter, etc, a lot of people only seem
to be able to assimilate ten word messages one message at a time.


Now what was I saying??

[!VI!]

do not... FOR ANY REASON OR CODE

ask illegal questions period... no fucks given, but i have to say it almost every time

[gimme_that]

I would ask to confirm my favorite activties after screening. But I also say that in my p411 profile too. See reason not to feel comfortable confrming after screening.

Besides.....I'm sure some ladies will confirm their rates in some way prior to meeting. I see no reason not to confirm what I'm paying for.

[!VI!]

Originally Posted by gimme_that

I would ask to confirm my favorite activties after screening. But I also say that in my p411 profile too. See reason not to feel comfortable confrming after screening.

Besides.....I'm sure some ladies will confirm their rates in some way prior to meeting. I see no reason not to confirm what I'm paying for.

Because confirming a rate guarantees time with a provider

Confirming activity confirms there will be illegal actions taking place during said time

[gimme_that]

The confirmation of money is doing the same thing is it not.......

There no invisible cone of invincibility discussing rates but not discussing sex. They are mutual.

Some lades are ymmv. And some will tell you there revews were fake and they don't offer it.

Id rather not get last minute excuses myself.......especally in regards to somethng so mportant as swallowing.......

[Gluteman]

It's not rocket surgery.

Don't make it more difficult than it really is; a little research will confirm that you will get what you pay for.

It is a first class encounter with a pretty lady and possibly the most incredible blowjob you could imagine.

[Caitie Mae]

-"

Originally Posted by johnnylongcaulking

0 Don't ask me to give you information that could get me in trouble later should I accidentally (or on extremely rare occasion, intentionally) piss you off. Not directed at you Catie. Just had someone grill me for personal information.

I'm sorry, but your arguement compares apples to oranges. For starters, in order for your scenario to hold up, and you would have to have a reputation established in an open forum that includes a multitude of positive reviews posted by well-respected providers.

As for your recent grilling, decide on your own comfort level for sharing information and simply move on when your boundaries are crossed.

Originally Posted by L.A.

I've figured out the confusion...the people contacting you were looking for an escort.

Or maybe looking for intellectual stimulation. Or any of the services listed in my original post. Regardless of what he's looking for, he'll be best served by checking my reviews, my ads or asking my reviewers about specifics. If he asks me about anything that may be considered illegal, he's already blown my screening.

Originally Posted by Torito

I think other possibilities are that..................
Some people are just full of shit.
Some people have no brain.
Some people are just assholes.
Some people are fucking stupid.
Some people have no consideration for others.
I am certain that there are other possibilities.
This is just one member's (moderator's) opinion.

Torito

I think there are as many possibilities as there are members, but most of the messages seem to come from the too-busy-to-keep-track-of-every-provider's-preferences demographic.

Unfortunately, I'm probably missing out on getting to know quite a few really amazing men just because no one told them that some comments and questions are inappropriate for introductions.

Hopefully this post will help some get on the right track.

Originally Posted by ManSlut

To the OP,

Thank you, now I know why you never responded to my PM about breaking the Guinness Book of World Record for sucking a penis, specifically mine, for a handsome fee including all necessary training sessions... I so wanted to make you famous and a small part of history.

Now I must hide my face in Internet shame.

Love,

ManSlut

Thanks for the consideration, but I think I'll let the current record stand.

Originally Posted by bojulay

The only advice I would give is you might send back a PM explaining
that you don't discuss services through PM's instead of just sending
them straight to the dumpster.

That is if you think you might like to see the guy otherwise.

RReading comprehension is not a strong suit of the American public now,
just a sad reality. I blame texting, twitter, etc, a lot of people only seem
to be able to assimilate ten word messages one message at a time.

Now what was I saying??

I want to NEVER see anyone who asks me to participate in illegal activities. Not ever.

Originally Posted by gimme_that

I would ask to confirm my favorite activties after screening. But I also say that in my p411 profile too. See reason not to feel comfortable confrming after screening.

Besides.....I'm sure some ladies will confirm their rates in some way prior to meeting. I see no reason not to confirm what I'm paying for.

To be asked such thoughtless questions after screening would be even worse than on initial contact. At least if you ask up front I only lose the time it takes to read the message, not all of the time it takes to properly screen a potential playmate.

Originally Posted by !VI!

Because confirming a rate guarantees time with a provider. Confirming activity confirms there will be illegal actions taking place during said time

An absolutely perfect answer! I couldn't explain it better myself.

Originally Posted by gimme_that

The confirmation of money is doing the same thing is it not.......

There no invisible cone of invincibility discussing rates but not discussing sex. They are mutual.

Some lades are ymmv. And some will tell you there revews were fake and they don't offer it.

Id rather not get last minute excuses myself.......especally in regards to somethng so mportant as swallowing.......

Rate and activity are NOT mutual. Understanding the difference may improve your post-to-review ratio, though, so you may want to consult with your dictionary and/or criminal code in your state.

As for some ladies being ymmv and some being liars, select from ladies with enough reviews to support that she is on the up-and-up. If that's not good enough, PM the reviewer(s) and ask them about your concerns. No one on the boards is going to cover for a chick who isn't serving what she's selling.

Originally Posted by Gluteman

It's not rocket surgery.

Don't make it more difficult than it really is; a little research will confirm that you will get what you pay for.

It is a first class encounter with a pretty lady and possibly the most incredible blowjob you could imagine.

Thank you so much for the support, Gluteman. Would you mind if someone (established on the boards) reads one of your reviews of time with me and followed up with question or two about our visit?

[nicholas linnear]

Off topic but, Caitie my love.......you look GOOOOOD and I mean sexy as hell in your recent pics!

[johnnylongcaulking]

Originally Posted by Caitie Mae

-"

I'm sorry, but your arguement compares apples to oranges. For starters, in order for your scenario to hold up, and you would have to have a reputation established in an open forum that includes a multitude of positive reviews posted by well-respected providers.

You err in thinking I used my Eccie handle to attempt to set the appt. i used my p411 acct to attempt to set the appt. furthermore, I have literally dozens of ok's on that acct as i do not haggle and i am respectful of their time. You should try being a bit less snobbish. /signing out of this thread less Insay something about you that I will later regret because Inam generally a civil person. Thx for this great digital CME

[L.A.]

I was just trying to be funny on my initial post..hopefully it came across that way.

So the title of your thread states "initial contact". I cant 100% totally agree that anybody who mentions rates and activities in their initial contact should probably be blocked or ignored.
I would say there would be some exceptions but as a rule that would put up a red flag.

Now I'm not sure if you're only referring to the initial contact or if you're talking about anything in PM, text, or email even after proper screening has been done and the potential client has been given the green light.

I typically have some special things I look for and want in a session. I make contact thru PM usually, introduce myself, provide screening, provide a date and time I'm interested in, and then say once I've passed your screening I do have a couple of questions about the session. Everybody I've met seems ok with this approach. Some have preferred to continue by text or phone call but I've never been denied conveying my requests once I've been screened to the provider's satisfaction.

Either way it's your business to run however you see fit and to follow whatever process you need to do to make you feel safe and comfortable.