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Guest091813 · 08-31-2011, 10:56 PM

ever try to date while being in the hobby,,,i tried..still on the fence about it..

ya'll wanna give ..suggestions and situations of what happened..would be cool..

Im single..not a thing to gain or lose...but id like to hear ya'll's point of views of this ..i think Im one of the few out there that are single... havn't a weekend man..or chic..

also..understand I can keep a personal relationship and a working relationship
separated...my question is.. can he understand that I have this ability..

thanks..folks...for being real... man....just be real...please ..single and non single would be groovy here...

JEN OF SYRACUSE · 09-01-2011, 12:17 AM

When I first started I tried to date but I came to the conclusion that maybe right now isnt the best time to try to get into a relationship.Relationships are time consuming and its hard for me to lead a "seperate life" without the person finding out.For one im a horrible liar and for two im not sure that if I did find that sos he would be ok with me being a provider because as we all know this world is really judgmental.At this point in my life just to keep any negativity and stress out I figured its best to wait

Shayla · 09-01-2011, 12:24 AM

I tried in the beginning and it was good for the first few months. Unfortunately it just went sour afterward because he couldn't handle it. I can't blame him, it's not an easy thing to get used to.
I prefer to be single while I continue to partake in this 'hobby'. If anything unfortunate were to happen I would want it to be my problem and no one else's.

LynnT · 09-01-2011, 05:51 AM

Trying it now.. hes excepted it but I know it eats at him and I think it will demise us.. I just take it one day at a time. he nit picks and it gets on my nerves.. some days I wish I never told him what I do for extra income but Im honest with men I date...

I gave him a choice, laid all my cards on the table.. Deal or walk. He chose to deal.

I also dont really blame him for not liking it but as the saying goes you made your bed ....

Sam54 · 09-01-2011, 06:03 AM

Like having "Affairs", eventually IT WILL come out in the open....it is a tough situation! Very realistic and mature comment Jen! When you know the right time and person comes along, you'll then choose the right path!

JEN OF SYRACUSE · 09-01-2011, 11:23 AM

Im just speaking from what ive went through I know oneday I will find that someone but like I said its hard while your in this hobby

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Originally Posted by Sam54

Very realistic and mature comment Jen! When you know the right time and person comes along, you'll then choose the right path!

Das Ubersoldat · 09-01-2011, 03:07 PM

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Originally Posted by anita germane

also..understand I can keep a personal relationship and a working relationship separated...my question is.. can he understand that I have this ability..

From a guys point of view...

I may tell you I understand, that this is what you do, and that I am ok with it. Then a couple weeks go by, and I'm starting to get jealous that I'm not the only one.

So, at that point, I may ask if it is ok if I seek out another partner, perhaps amateur or pro. How will you take that? Any answer from you other than "Sure, go ahead" would make you look like a hypocrite.

I see no positive result in RL dating and providing / hobbying at the same time. A couple years ago when I was in a relationship, I dropped hobbying completely. Even though that relationship didn't work out for me, at least it didn't fail because of me seeing someone else.

Guest120615-3 · 09-01-2011, 03:35 PM

I'm one of those cosmic romantics.... if it's meant to be, it'll work. If you respect and love who you are and what you do, he will understand. Some paths in this universe are meant to cross, others will intertwine. Don't know until you try.

Guest120615-3 · 09-01-2011, 04:06 PM

I should add.... I have a way bigger problem with "Facebook" and fucking Farmville. WTF is up with the hours clicking to "harvest." It's bullshit. If you're going to play a game, play a real game!

What I'm saying is: Provider Relationship > Facebook & Farmville.

Sorry about the rant.

Guest091813 · 09-01-2011, 04:10 PM

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Originally Posted by mwebber

I should add.... I have a way bigger problem with "Facebook" and fucking Farmville. WTF is up with the hours clicking to "harvest." It's bullshit. If you're going to play a game, play a real game!

What I'm saying is: Provider Relationship > Facebook & Farmville.

Sorry about the rant.

omg!!! i play farmville..

jokacz · 09-01-2011, 04:11 PM

Hey Viv, is your thing still working. If so maybe you can share your take! Don't mean to call you out, only if you're comfortable. I've seen a couple relationships work for a while when both were in the biz doing duos MMF FMF. I know one that drags on, but I don't think it's healthy. Kinda like a battered wife syndrome where she just won't leave. I couldn't do it with an SP that was active. Retired, yes.

Guest120615-3 · 09-01-2011, 04:50 PM

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Originally Posted by anita germane

omg!!! i play farmville..

Sorry Anita

Guest091813 · 09-01-2011, 06:02 PM

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Originally Posted by mwebber

Sorry Anita

lol...aww its okay sweetheart...

99nighthawk · 09-01-2011, 08:07 PM

This reminds me of the Seinfeld episode where Jerry is dating a masseusse and gets frustrated when she won't massage him... As a provider dating someone who knows what you do, will the bedroom start to feel like it's part of the job?

JEN OF SYRACUSE · 09-01-2011, 08:50 PM

I honestly dont feel thats the case if anything I think it would be like ok your a provider I know what you do and I accept it but you sleep with guys on a regular basis so why cant I sleep with random girls also.I have a big heart and I love hard and if someone that I was with made a proposal like that I would be hurt even though I know that they wouldnt be wrong for it it would crush me and most likely distract me and I would lose focus.Before that situation could occur im preventing it.I tend to look at the bigger picture with everything and if I were to date someone that excepted what I did that would make me question their motives as to why they are with me.As jokacs stated maybe if I were retired or out of the hobby but while im in it I think it would be a recipe for disaster.

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Originally Posted by 99nighthawk

This reminds me of the Seinfeld episode where Jerry is dating a masseusse and gets frustrated when she won't massage him... As a provider dating someone who knows what you do, will the bedroom start to feel like it's part of the job?