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lawrencegent · 04-30-2019, 02:01 AM

After being in the hobby for 5yrs I found myself being so enthralled by visitng ladies and not wanting to miss out on a tour and the risk that they may never come back that I got in a pattern of only seeing visiting ladies. I realized I have not given myself or you ladies much of an opportunity to really connect with each other and to support a local provider. But that never happened as the fear of missing out was strong. I have met a few amazing local women in the past but realize its been years since I took the opportunity to meet one of you. I guess knowing that you always here was like an insurance policy that I never cashed out on, And i apologize for that.
After soul searching I realized what I really wanted wasnt variety but to make a real human and heartfelt but NSA connection with somebody local. A woman that I really clicked with both physically and mentally. I would love to meet one local provider that I really connect with for at least monthly mutually satisfying playtime. That is important to me I very much love to give as much as receive. I have become good friends with some of the many truly amazing women I have met in this hobby but nobody local and that's on me. So I guess what I am trying to say is I dont want to roll the dice with touring girls just because of fear of missing out. I am looking for somebody local to connect with and have fun. As may be obvious from my message so far I am more into the connected GFE than bedroom gymnastics. Kissing and DATY are at the top of my list as is amazing conversation, sharing a glass of wine and just enjoying each others company. I am very much not interested in a rushed and disconnected B&G type experience.
Saying all of that this has been a very vulnerable text for me to put out there and I fully expect to be slammed by many of the guys for this post. But I am no white night trying to kiss up to anybody I just want to put out there what I am looking for and see what local ladies out there might connect with who resonate with this post.

To end this I want to say my foray into the hobby came after a bad divorce and feeling not great about myself and my future. The many amazing women I have met through this avenue have been much more than a fun distraction but really helped me to get back on track with my life. That has been truly amazing and unexpected and greatly appreciated. Keep doing the good work out there. I know some guys and maybe most dont take it this deep or will even slam me for doing so, but the wonderful women I have met so far have my sincere gratitude and utmost respect. If what I wrote resonates with any of you KC ladies I would love to meet you!

Majichands · 04-30-2019, 06:28 AM

awww That is sweet.
Unless that one is the one you are a life long soul mate to committed on a daily then throwing a visiting girl in a few times a year isn't a bad thing to do.. It helps throw in some newness might make you appreciate her a little more. The good thing to most about hobbing you get to adventure out when you want to. What you described is kind of like a marriage most have that already. But what ever you seek I hope you find and if you haven't found her yet then enjoy looking and trying them all out should be fun. A sugar baby might be best, who knows.
Ill be in Kansas soon but my menu is a unique science of seduction and pleasure not the norm.... lol Good luck in the search.

DallasRain · 04-30-2019, 07:01 AM

Quote...Unless that one is the one you are a life long soul mate to committed on a daily then throwing a visiting girl in a few times a year isn't a bad thing to do.. It helps throw in some newness might make you appreciate her a little more.

Ditto...
But if you are looking for "that special one"..I am wishing you find your hobby soulmate!

Get Lucky · 04-30-2019, 07:30 AM

LG... well thought out and spoken. No slam here. I know as I get older my desires and expectations change. Nothing wrong with that. No shame in that. I also hope you find what you are looking for.

Fsn57 · 04-30-2019, 08:31 AM

Maybe a SB/SD arrangement is more what you're after. Escorts are more about business than "relationships".

BigDeal · 04-30-2019, 09:49 AM

I agree I have met the one Sugar Baby that rocks my world! And we click like no other.
Most all providers will keep their rw away from you...rightfully so.
A SB will open up more and its more of a relationship.
As always its your dime...have fun with it.

jjenkc · 05-01-2019, 08:53 PM

Big Deal, where did you meet your sugar Baby? I messed around with secret benefits.com, but nothing ever came to fruition. As I get older, I’ve become more tame and careful in seeing a wide array of providers. I kind of got locked in with a few local providers and enjoyed that until one of my ATFs left town. I never realized how much I enjoyed her company! Best of luck Lawrence gent. It is definitely nice when you have a provider you click with and you enjoy the few times a month you all get together!

lawrencegent · 05-01-2019, 09:25 PM

Been curious about SB and have met a few to get aquainted. But never felt comfortable enough to actually do it as I have no experience in that world. Just the process of finding a good one seems daunting to me. I guess because you cant do research on them so seems more risky

BigDeal · 05-01-2019, 10:07 PM

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Originally Posted by BigDeal

I agree I have met the one Sugar Baby that rocks my world! And we click like no other.
Most all providers will keep their rw away from you...rightfully so.
A SB will open up more and its more of a relationship.
As always its your dime...have fun with it.

Actually I mer her right here on the board about a month ago.
She is a handful!

Wizard of Ahhhhs · 05-01-2019, 10:22 PM

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Originally Posted by BigDeal

Actually I mer her right here on the board about a month ago.
She is a handful!

And he’s not sharing!!!! Damn!

TailHooked · 05-02-2019, 05:54 AM

I agree with the guys above, that you need a sugar baby or some type of fwb. That is because they are local and are more on the relationship side of the equation. The girls here are great and can arrange something like you want but it is a business for them. You seem to want more of a personal experience. I think that might be too much real world info sharing then they would like.

TailHooked · 05-02-2019, 06:02 AM