Texting, Phone Calls Or E-Mail/PM?

[Allie_Kat]

Ladies, which do you prefer to receive?
Gentleman, by which method do you prefer to contact the ladies?

I have been seriously lax on answering my phone lately and then my VM is completely full. Oops. I like responding to PMs and e-mails better I think.

[lakecat]

PM or email for the first contact for me. Just make sure you don't ask for or include inappropriate information, although that's probably a good initial screening technique for the ladies as well.

[Wizard of Ahhhhs]

Excellent question, Allie... Will be interested in seeing responses.

Since I have always tried to plan my dreams in advance, my preference is initially by anything other than phone or text.

Even with a known lady, my dream request will normally be through the PC (e-mail, PM, IM, etc). I don't like to get "cold-calls" or random texts on my phone, so why should I expect that the ladies would like one from me?

[catnipdipper]

Hobby e-mail as far as it will go.

Most discrete in my opinion.

[jan-w]

If they include a phone # in their ads, I just call. That's the easiest and best way for me. I hate texting. On the few occasions I've sent pm's or e-mails, they're usually not answered. I have a strange quirk. If I call and the voice doesn't appeal to me, I usually don't make the appt. It's a bit of a turnoff to hear a raspy deep voice probably due to smoking, etc.

[Redwolf]

I prefer to contact a lady by P411 to express my interest and request to be screened. If not P411, PM or email are back-ups. Once screened, I prefer to visit by phone to get comfortable and to set a time and date.

Text messaging is fine for a quick message like an address or room number or to confirm that the date is on or that I am on my way and expected arrival time. It is very poor for communication. What can be communicated by phone takes an extended time by text. Plus, it is so easy for miscommunications to occur. The benefit is that a discreet communication can possibly take place, even if one person has someone else around.

Email is fine for some back and forth and maybe initial screening. I have had several dates not happen because of the back and forth trying to establish a date time that is mutually convenient. And that included beginning to schedule 4 or 5 days before the desired day. In one of these cases, I insisted using a phone call for a later attempt and we were able to arrange a date quite easily.

Whichever way a lady prefers, I hope that she checks it regularly. A lady who only uses phone but doesn't accept VMs or return them is going to miss out on potential business. Unreturned VMs, PMs, emails, or requests move a lady down my list or eventually off.

Email/PM/Preferred 411 request for screening and interest followed by phone to set a date and getting comfortable, with some texts for important, short messages seems to work more expediently without infringing on a lady's life.

[Wizard of Ahhhhs]

Originally Posted by Redwolf

Whichever way a lady prefers, I hope that she checks it regularly. A lady who only uses phone but doesn't accept VMs or return them is going to miss out on potential business. Unreturned VMs, PMs, emails, or requests move a lady down my list or eventually off.

Excellent point, Redwolf. If a lady insists on e-mails or P411 but then doesn't respond, or if she insists on phone calls, but then you get a "full voice mail box" message, it's not gonna happen...

[Thequeen]

I like to receive e-mail or pm however when sending a e-mail, pm or message from p411 I would like it to contain who they are and their references, If I know the person and have seen him then a phone call is fine or an IM. I dont mind the texts from someone I know really well but I will only text them after they have texted me and if i get the text as soon as they send it because I never know what is going on, on their side. the last thing I want to do is text someone 2 hrs later and get them in trouble.

[royamcr]

Text is good for during the day communication. Can sit at desk and make a quick inquiry about availability.

[Gryphon]

Email or P411--always for initial contact and usually to set up repeat dates. The times I can call without being overheard by someone inappropriate are limited, and I'm always concerned that I'm calling at a bad time for her. So providers who only communicate by phone are way down on my list. Text messaging is ok for basic things--room number, running 10 minutes late, etc., but not for anything more substantial than that.

[FireSerpent]

I prefer phone whenever possible. Email/PM is second best in a pinch but only if they closely monitor their email/PM... some request that but then you don't hear from them until the next day when interest has long faded.

I will only text back and forth with providers I know well and trust with only a handful of exceptions. At any rate, I never discuss certain details via text.

Some ladies have a lengthy screening process which is only good if you contact them WELL ahead of time (days) via email first and eventually via phone. I don't prefer these, however will often do so to get the screening out of the way so that there is less of an effort to contact them when I'm in need of attention on less notice.

[nycalcharlie2003]

For screening info and initial contact - e-mail only

For setting up the actual date - phone call initiated by me and possibly returned by the lady during the time period specified.


Remember ladies - unsolicited, or untimely, phone calls or texts can create problems for the hobbiest! If returning a call, call back within the time specified. If you cannot do so, then send an e-mail.


Oh yeah, and NEVER make unsolicited phone calls or texts to clients you have seen before. I have actually had these - and I stopped seeing the lady in question.


Charlie

[1963Cobra]

I am a P411 or email person for first contact. My schedule is somewhat complicated so I like to plan my getaways several days in advance. Email and or text (hobby phone) the day of to finalize the appointment.

[lakecat]

Allie, I don't mean this to be disrepectful at all, so please don't take it as an attack on you, but if your business is at least partly dependent on answering the phone, why don't you take the time to at least check for voice mail a few times a day? I noticed the last ad you posted in the weekend availability section included your phone number, which would imply that calling you is one option. I would say you have good reviews and a good reputation, but this is a great illustration of the problems that we have. If the good ones don't make sure they're taking care of business properly, you can imagine the nonsense you encounter with the bad ones. I'm sure most of you on here would agree that if you told your customers that you haven't been good about answering your phone or checking for voice mail, they'd wouldn't be very good about giving you orders in the future. The answer clearly is they do it because they can. As long as we continue to tolerate and cater to ladies who don't value you as a customer, they will not change. And it's not necessary because there are many excellent ladies on here who do take it seriously and are concerned with customer satisfaction.

[Allie_Kat]

I know. I'm a slacker.
Honestly I need to get a new phone, mine is pretty crap-tastic.
But in my defense, my ads usually say, "for a quick response, please PM or e-mail."