Ladies, how hard is it?

[mwise]

Before I start, this obviously doesn't go to ALL the ladies, but most could learn from this and maybe from your feedback I will learn something as well...

How hard is it to look us in the eye while fucking or giving a BBBJ and tell us you need our cocks, how good it feels and if you do CIM how bad you want that too?

Is it because some guys don't like it?
Are you just uncomfortable saying it?
I mean your already naked and fucking me, right? What's a few lies?

Guys maybe you can weigh in as well, am I off base, am I the only one that wants his cock worshiped? I will admit I prefer PSE where a lot of you prefer GFE. However even with a GFE I want a girl to talk dirty to me... Angel in public, whore in the bedroom... etc...

Somebody enlighten me or set me straight...

[Ginger Doll]

I totally agree with you, MWise! Eye contact and enthusiastic words of encouragement are so important!

[arkansasflyer]

There are quite a few providers with BF's...or SO's....We know who they are. I am sure that plays a factor with some, and these ladies do have a life outside the hobby. I for one, just can not understand a BF lurking around while his GF is working. I can't understand the mentality. That ruins it for me, I avoid ladies with a known SO like the plague.This is the hobby not the real world. In the real world (from my experience) a woman's favorite position is not DS and BBBJ's are few and fare between.

Best advice is to stick to KNOWN GFE experts here. We know who they are.

[siberia]

A helpful guy writes a private
message prior to a meeting
listing things that he finds
exciting. A few guys have
signature lines expressing
their favorite activities.
Communication is valued.
We don't assume everything
is a fit for everyone.
Thxs for the thread.

[Ginger Doll]

True Siberia, communication is key. But I'd say that it's a safe bet no gent appreciates detached and indifferent. Show some passion! I think that's what MWise is saying.

[Sweet Casey]

I like to know what I am doing is pleasing. Facial expressions tell me a lot and it is also very stimulating to me to look at a mans face as he is experiencing something that feels great!!

[UnderConstruction]

Originally Posted by arkansasflyer

There are quite a few providers with BF's...or SO's....We know who they are. I am sure that plays a factor with some, and these ladies do have a life outside the hobby. I for one, just can not understand a BF lurking around while his GF is working. I can't understand the mentality. That ruins it for me, I avoid ladies with a known SO like the plague.This is the hobby not the real world. In the real world (from my experience) a woman's favorite position is not DS and BBBJ's are few and fare between.

Best advice is to stick to KNOWN GFE experts here. We know who they are.

Over the course of my life, this hasn't been my experience. I wouldn't go out, date or marry someone where a bj isn't normal operating procedure. I wouldn't even say bbbj because to me there's no other kind.

As for the OPs question, you might find this attitude you're looking for is more apparent after you've seen someone a few times, especially if you have chemistry that leads to good IOP. Being clean is also a big deal. I can't tell you how many stories I've heard from girls on this very board about being fed up with guys who show up with stinky cocks. That's gonna kill the IOP and she will be down there little to not at all. Would you daty a stank pussy? Neither would I. Can't expect them to be excited about being confronted with another dirty dick to suck. Having taken a shower that morning doesn't count. Take five minutes and scrub up your fucking cocks. Pays dividends in the end.

[notequiteatroll]

doing a fuckin good job even when bored or hating it is one of the things makes a pro a pro, no matter the field. they aint on every corner.
and i bet it is hard to put on that game face.
gotta consider ourselves lucky to run into ladies in a phase when they are truely into bangin away at most any dude they run across. (what are the odds 1 in 300,000?) and to act like it must be quite a feat.

[mwise]

Originally Posted by UnderConstruction

Over the course of my life, this hasn't been my experience. I wouldn't go out, date or marry someone where a bj isn't normal operating procedure. I wouldn't even say bbbj because to me there's no other kind.

As for the OPs question, you might find this attitude you're looking for is more apparent after you've seen someone a few times, especially if you have chemistry that leads to good IOP. Being clean is also a big deal. I can't tell you how many stories I've heard from girls on this very board about being fed up with guys who show up with stinky cocks. That's gonna kill the IOP and she will be down there little to not at all. Would you daty a stank pussy? Neither would I. Can't expect them to be excited about being confronted with another dirty dick to suck. Having taken a shower that morning doesn't count. Take five minutes and scrub up your fucking cocks. Pays dividends in the end.

I've heard the stories too and while I agree that would affect some outcomes, I humbly don't think that's the problem here. Ladies, if I have EVER presented any of you with a stank cock, please respond and tell me so...

[Guest030317]

Originally Posted by mwise

Before I start, this obviously doesn't go to ALL the ladies, but most could learn from this and maybe from your feedback I will learn something as well...

How hard is it to look us in the eye while fucking or giving a BBBJ and tell us you need our cocks, how good it feels and if you do CIM how bad you want that too?

Is it because some guys don't like it?
Are you just uncomfortable saying it?
I mean your already naked and fucking me, right? What's a few lies?

Guys maybe you can weigh in as well, am I off base, am I the only one that wants his cock worshiped? I will admit I prefer PSE where a lot of you prefer GFE. However even with a GFE I want a girl to talk dirty to me... Angel in public, whore in the bedroom... etc...

Somebody enlighten me or set me straight...

Great question. I noticed you didn't mention hygiene because that's not really the question you want answered.

IOP is termed as we have come to realize " Illusion of Passion. The problem with an illusion is that it isn't natural or normal.

The eyes can not lie.

I prefer and always ask the girl to open her eyes when in Mish or face to face, they all comply but I've only been asked one time "why?"

Dominance and I want you to accept what I'm doing to you.

Lots of psychological things are occurring during sex besides just racing to a climax.



HAIL!

[siberia]

Originally Posted by Ginger Doll

True Siberia, communication is key. But I'd say that it's a safe bet no gent appreciates detached and indifferent. Show some passion! I think that's what MWise is saying.

I thought he was meaning dirty talk/
eye contact specifically but my reviews reflect how much I enjoy my job & there is no faking it on this side.

Sorry Wise that this is happening
to you. Hearing and seeing a person
give themself over to pleasure is
the most erotic act on earth.

[mwise]

Its not happening every time, I don't want anyone to get the wrong impression. Its just some ladies, I think, would get a lot more business if they put on more of a show or work on their IOP....

[scottprestons]

I agree mwise. Show eye contact during parts of bbbj and eye contact during mpcfs. Makes a big difference! Almost all girls do it once I say it but would be nice to sometimes not have too.

The talking about wanting cock is awesome too but can be over done. A little goes a long way.

[Guest010421]

Originally Posted by mwise

Before I start, this obviously doesn't go to ALL the ladies, but most could learn from this and maybe from your feedback I will learn something as well...
I could be wrong, but I think the OP is not simply talking about the "Illusion of Passion" - which in my opinion should be a part of every moment of every date! Without it, what would be the point. I try to stay engaged throughout an entire date, both physically and mentally

Only speaking for myself:


How hard is it to look us in the eye while fucking or giving a BBBJ and tell us you need our cocks, how good it feels and if you do CIM how bad you want that too?
I prefer to make/have as much eye contact as possible, especially while fucking.....I too enjoy the eye contact!! It gives the "feel" of a connection at least during our time together. This is why my favorite positions (although I enjoy them all) are variations of mish. This way I can see you, look into your eyes, kiss you, kiss your neck, etc. For me personally, eye contact during BBBJ can be a bit trickier! Depending on the angle, looking up while trying to actually suck your dick can be majorly uncomfortable, putting a real strain on the neck. Also, I am trying to take in as much of you as I can.....and having my head back doesn't allow it....all about the angle. Again only speaking for myself, as I can't speak for everyone else. However, I try to ensure plenty of eye contact with glances up at you, especially while teasing the head of your cock with my tongue, while licking or sucking your balls, and then returning to actual sucking.


Is it because some guys don't like it?
Are you just uncomfortable saying it?
I mean your already naked and fucking me, right? What's a few lies?
Here communication is key!!! If you are not comfortable coming out and stating what you really want........then lead me there. Tell me that you want me to be your "dirty little slut" or whatever it is that you want. Do this when the date is first getting heated up to help set the desired tone. At that point I can feed off you and have a better idea of what you are desiring. I have a really hard time with unnatural dirty talk as I feel it comes across as scripted, phony and actually laughable!! But if you have me well primed and just "feeling" it then I can assure you that we will be good to go as far as the slut/dirty factor!!!

Guys maybe you can weigh in as well, am I off base, am I the only one that wants his cock worshiped? I will admit I prefer PSE where a lot of you prefer GFE. However even with a GFE I want a girl to talk dirty to me... Angel in public, whore in the bedroom... etc...
Again communication and even leading me where you want me can be the key. Since every guy wants something different it can be hard to read what they want, especially on a first date!! Even just saying "I want PSE" isn't always enough because one guy may consider BBBJNQNS CIM to be the PSE experience he is wanting - whereas another guy may consider that just an expected part of a normal GFE date. Some want graphic dirty talk, others just want some type of verbal feed back. Talk to me the way you are wanting me to talk to you (this also helps get me primed) and then I can respond in kind. I will admit, that without being lead I am much better at letting my body speak for me, than I am at verbally speaking.....especially once you've taken my breath away!!



Somebody enlighten me or set me straight...

Those are just my opinions, but I hope it helps you get what you desire in each and every session!!!

[UnderConstruction]

He may not have mentioned hygiene but if you think it's not part of the equation I've got a bridge in Brooklyn I'm taking offers on. It's all part of the experience. Felina hit the nail on the head though, its about committing to being in the moment with that person. They're more likely to want to do that if your cock doesn't smell like yesterday's garbage.