Chat.....Let's See If We Can Make This a Fun Place!

[Lana Warren]

Well, first of all, this may seem like a rant, but that's not my intention at all!

Ok, as we all know, there is a plethora of new people on our great board, especially since CL had their fiasco! Of course before reading the forums or the sticky notes, they go straight to chat!

As most of you know, I'm a talker, so I'm in chat quite often in the evenings and have a blast chatting with my buddies and always welcome the new folks with open arms!

But, I cannot tell you how many times that at least 1 or 2 pissing matches happen each night in chat! Usually it doesn't happen for very long and after I use my "Dear Lana" technique on them, things quieten down and we go back to our fun!

But, you wanna know who usually started these pissing matches? You guessed it......the newbies! Like I said, they are welcomed with open arms, but occasionally, we'll have some smart ass who is looking for a fight! I bet you're thinking that it's some guy........WRONG! Oh, we get those, but mostly it's a new girl who is looking for a date!

Ok, so I understand that nothing is sacred in chat anymore, like pics and solicitation, but can't it be done with a little more discretion! I thought that was what private chat was for!

I know that some of these new girls don't have a clue on what to do, so I try my best to direct them in the right direction, some listen and some don't! Same thing with the new guys!

I know that our great chat mod cannot be in there every second to bring things under control, so it is up to us to conduct ourselves in an adult manner!

For goodness sakes, chat is meant to have fun......innocent flirting is very sexy! Hell, we even have a wonderful gentleman who post youtube links to classic rock videos.......nothing like chatting with friends while listening to some great tunes!

So, here is my plea.......PLEASE be respectful when coming into chat! Remember that there are other ways to flirt without having to outright beg for it! Be kind to the others........it develops long lasting friendships! And ALWAYS behave like the ladies and gentlemen that we know we are!

Oh, I guess I did come off as a ranter, but to be honest with you, I just hate what has become of our beloved chat! Ok, I'm done bitchin'.......let's go have some fun!

[SunsetCowboy]

Great post Lana couldn't agree with you more. Very nicely stated I have always enjoyed our conversations.
Like you said it has gotten out of control lately.
And like you stated a lot can be handled in private chat.
Newbies
Need advice on anything or have a question within limits ask before making an as** of yourself. PM a member and ask in private. We will be glad to answer any question or advice you may want to know within limits.
There are numerous classy ladies and gents on chat that share pics, stories, favorite songs, life experiences and so on. It is a place to get to know each other, flirt, joke around and even talk sports.
There is a lot of kidding and joking back and forth with the ladies and the gentleman and it all in fun. So if you have a chip on your shoulder or thinskinned and can't take a joke or 2 then chat is not for you.
If you have a beef with someone take it to private chat so no one else has to listen to it. Also the constant bs back and forth banter can be taken to private chat.
And like Lana stated we welcome all with open arms. The more the merrier as long as we keep it merry

[JustaGuyinMS]

Wow, what a grea post! I have not been in chat since a very bad experience in chaat in ASPD where it turned very political. I'm not exactly the standard political example from the deep south, but that's not why I'm on here. I think chat should be kept social - what we are doing here in the hobby is very social and not in the least political.

I might come back to chat, but I'm not willing to get into discussions with wingnuts of either extreme - I want to get to know others in the hobby.

Ciao.

JaG