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Originally Posted by Carrie Hillcrest
One of my goals is to provide a high quality experience at a low volume. It's just how I prefer to approach this business. This does not at all mean I think less of ladies who have a different approach (well, I *do* think poorly of those who provide a low-quality experience to the detriment of their clients, such as stealing from them!). Nor do I think high quality and high quantity are mutually exclusive categories.
I feel I'm being called a snobby bourgeoisie, and I don't think that could be further from the truth.
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Hi Carrie, Hi Lauren ,
Thanks to the both of you for taking the time to discuss this with me, i really appreciate that! Merci
I DO understand the approach, but i think the phrase is handled poorly and since i do qualitative research and am very particular on what "words" implement politically when we do use them , i find it strange to state such things, if not derogatory at best. I have explained that sufficiently and i believe you that you do not intend to judge people or your services as better ( although i have seen ladies that think they are smarter than the rest ...;-)....and state so....) but your words are careless. Probably because every HDH has that in some way on their page and ladies look at other pages as an influence and i don`t think everyone really means that, but sometimes biases carry themselves around.
For me in this business its COMPLETELY clear that a client deserves quality within the quantity of time he tries to book and that someone introduces himself properly. It simply does not need to be stated. No one that works for 300$ an hour does so , although guys also book overnights and take time to introduce themselves (as for example i do not respond to people that don?t) IT IS BASIC STANDARD. It is my DUTY as a provider to offer quality. It does not need to be extra stated. Even if i have 5 guys a day, every single one of them deserves the best of me.
To implement you offer quality over quantity is - mostly - done to make a distinction towards women who charge less - to the so called "back to back" providers - and pretend the guys get more because they pay more, which is judgemental. I mean i am a HDH myself so to state, my rates are similar, but i can`t say my quality as a provider sucked, because i did not charge as much :-). I SIMPLY JUST WORKED MORE AND HARDER!
While i do see that offering the guy what they deserve for their money is a substantial thing within that business, i do not think it is necessary to state that - while being a "low profile" provider - this implements a quality over quantity approach. Its a JUDGEMENT towards your fellow peers.
Because there are women out there who cater to more than one fellow /day /week/ month and STILL offer good quality and an intellectual approach some of these so called ivy league educated HDHs still have to learn . I consider myself to be one.
I have been trained in europe as a courtesan, and in europe it does not mean when you work back to back (which you mostly have to do, since rates in europe are so low you can`t afford to just do one guy per day) that the quality fades.
Hey i know women in your "league" that are worse in their quality (be it look wise , homepage wise, or intellectual capacity-wise) and since i feel judged - and these statements are judgemental (aka the one "I CATER TO THE ELITE") it could come across better if you revise them.
I do not think that neither you, Lauren or Carry (as a person) are snobish elitists, but -. then again - its not about you personally, as its not about me personally either - its about how to best describe oneself without stepping on some other people`s foot.
And - surprisingly - i have not ever seen a 300$ an hour provider writing that her services are "quality over quantity" although i have worked myself at various rates within the business and i ALWAYS offer quality.
If i can`t work or offer my best - then i do not work at all.
And i guarantee you, Lauren, that not everyone needs to retank themselves after client and time is not an issue with me, since i am a complete professional and i trained myself to work that hard. So - again - telling that laziness is a creative excuse for better quality :-) ??
I do most of the time (that is when i not work overnight or entertain only a single gentleman for various hours or days) have more than "just a few" clients, plain and simple, because i am in the business to earn the most money within the least amount of time. I think - for me - earning just a little bit on the side - does not pay. And as far as i have seen from some NYC high dollar hotties, it does not pay either. I mean working in that buz and being broke like so many HDHs are (i was shocked about the lack amount of money they make) is not my thing. Why? Because time is our enemy. Plain and simple. we only have so many years to do that job.
So - to do so .- i have to take more clients. Period. That means i offer quantity - AND quality. To imply that there are providers out there who offer "quality" simply because they are not skilled enough to take more than one guy a week ,is an insult for me. Sorry :-)
I am a mistress since i am 18 and i have trained myself very hard in that job. And in europe its not a piece of cake like it is in the USA. So i plain and simply had to learn how to improof my skills.
So, i think the two of you are lovely ladies, but i just wanted to imply (i have not looked at any of your pages yet will do so i a minute) that out of sisterly love - be more careful with words and what they mean.
Merci (and i will be so too in the future)
ps: so lauren, you are polyamorous as well? I had a guy PM me with that info ? Interesting! Lovely to find someone within that area on here as well!
Againnnnnnnnnnn!
