Preferred method of initial contact???

[Reya Sunshine]

Email or via PM through Eccie or P411 and then call me when you are almost to my place and I will give you my exact address.

On a related note, I've also noticed that gentlemen seem to despise the forms on websites and it makes MY life so much easier when y'all fill it out. It is the same minimal amount of info that you will have to provide anyway and it actually makes it EASIER on you as well because you can get it all done in one shot rather than playing email ping pong with 20 questions.

What incentive would y'all need to fill out a form on a lady's website?

[Outdoorsman]

Website forms typically ask for my email and sites send junk mail, thus I do not fill out those forms or submit anything from my computer to a provider's website. I get enough junk mail do not need more.

Actually I enjoy all the flirtations of the back and forth emails prior to a session, builds the anticipation for me. I think that is actually part of the package, ladies who do not do that with me typically do not get a repeat call, again just me.

Customers usually are not concerned with making the provider's life easier, just my thought. In my line of work I tend to think of ways to make my client's life easier, What is most convenient for them and my business is doing great, just me though. I say do whatever works best for you.

[Reya Sunshine]

I enjoy erotica and love witty banter and I'm of the mindset that getting the references out of the way so they don't clutter up the scenery when I'm trying to set the mood via email is the best option for BOTH client and provider but if talking about the other girls you've seen and their websites turns you on then sure, whatever works for you sexy!


If you send a lady a flirtatious email she has your email address at that point and if she is going to send junk mail then she will do it regardless of how she obtained the email...of course, that's just conjecture on my part because I have never sent mass emails out to anyone and I don't know any girls that have.

Thanks for the business advice...I'm fairly new to all this and need all the help I can get!

Originally Posted by Outdoorsman

Website forms typically ask for my email and sites send junk mail, thus I do not fill out those forms or submit anything from my computer to a provider's website. I get enough junk mail do not need more.

Actually I enjoy all the flirtations of the back and forth emails prior to a session, builds the anticipation for me. I think that is actually part of the package, ladies who do not do that with me typically do not get a repeat call, again just me.

Customers usually are not concerned with making the provider's life easier, just my thought. In my line of work I tend to think of ways to make my client's life easier, What is most convenient for them and my business is doing great, just me though. I say do whatever works best for you.

[Guest032514-1]

Websites send junk mail? Which ones? I have never heard of this. I just assume it's laziness, arrogance or nefarious reasons that people choose not to fill out the form. Many people say my form is too long. Sorry, but when I had the shorter that had one field for refs (nick, site, date and city of meet) - it never got filled out. So I broke it to two fields - Ref 1 & Ref2. You guessed it. So I broke it down - one field for every thing. STILL have issues but much less. I still get 'Carissa from OKC" "She knows me". Or e.com as a website. Soon as I see anything like that, I know it's flip a quarter on chances of meeting.

I prefer initial contact thru email. Every ad, my site, everything *I post* says - schedule through DC, p411 or my site. I still get dozens of emails a day: "Are u available?", texts...every one is a no. Some I may answer with - 'schedule thru DC, p411 or my site' - but they never do. 99.9999999999999% of so called inquiries like this, when I say 'be screened' - I never hear from again, so now I just don't answer and block/bounce.

I use a prepaid phone for my play phone - and I don't post my number. If I do post a number - it's a Gvoice number - that goes directly to vmail. Surprise! 20 calls - 1 vmail. So for me, phones are nothing other than a hassle of a waste of time. Once I screen you, I email you my number.

As I said I don't post my number on my ads and I have a prepaid phone. I bought a $20 don't care if I have to toss it phone. I don't pay for the text or web addons. Why should I pay for "c u 2nite?" Really? That's the first impression that's supposed to make me giddy with joy to see you? maybe if I were 10? 12? I'm not. I don't text. Texts remain on your carrier's server - in total - forever. Word for word retrievable forever. Yeah....let's text. NOT.

I have a rep for being a hardass on screening. Fine by me. I've never been robbed, raped, beaten, shorted or busted. I may have had what I consider a bad date, but no client of mine has.

I'm willing to take the extra steps, use the extra precautions. It's totally worth it to cut out the danger the hassle and the drama.

[Murf76]

Most of the time,I like to pm or e-mail the ladies beforehand.However,every once in a while,I'll take a shot in the dark.I was extremely lucky when Dallas took pity on me without any advanced warning!!!!

[Nina Rae]

I agree with Babee and Hannah....the forms are necessary. They seem to be the only way we can get the VERY necessary info we need in order to screen you. I like email contact just fine, but the form really covers it all in one swoop. I get emails too that say "I'd like to see you tonite at 6. I saw ABC lady in 2009. She will remember me." Um, no. She likely will not. Most people who have P411 don't seem to include the number when they send a request. If you did, life would be easier b/c I could contact your oks through the same site to get refs! Genius, eh? Not really. You pay for the site! Why not use it?

Imagine you get a text from a number you don't know saying "hey, are you available tonight?" You'd think...."For what? When?" etc. PMs and emails are just fine with me, as long as they include enough info for me to gauge whether you're worth screening or just playing games. A text rarely includes enough info to get a response unless we've already met.

[heidilynnla]

E-mail for sure, followed by a phone call prior to the date. Too hard to text on this cheap phone and makes me feel 12!!

[Guest032514-1]

Originally Posted by Nina Rae

I agree with Babee and Hannah....the forms are necessary. They seem to be the only way we can get the VERY necessary info we need in order to screen you. I like email contact just fine, but the form really covers it all in one swoop. I get emails too that say "I'd like to see you tonite at 6. I saw ABC lady in 2009. She will remember me." Um, no. She likely will not. Most people who have P411 don't seem to include the number when they send a request. If you did, life would be easier b/c I could contact your oks through the same site to get refs! Genius, eh? Not really. You pay for the site! Why not use it?

Imagine you get a text from a number you don't know saying "hey, are you available tonight?" You'd think...."For what? When?" etc. PMs and emails are just fine with me, as long as they include enough info for me to gauge whether you're worth screening or just playing games. A text rarely includes enough info to get a response unless we've already met.

You know you are just the hottest thang right?

Too too true. Even WITH one field per answer, it's rare that I'm not emailing back "Thanks for your interest, but.....". Since email is my preference ..it's important to get all the info asap. Espeically with email.

This happens a lot:

Notification from bluesbabee rcvd Monday 12pm (i get at 12:30/1pm read it at 3pm)

Appt request time 12pm Tues (24 hours-now 21)
so&so here's her number
so&so at escorts.com

"Sorry, I don't call for refs. I need their websites" 20.5 to go

"They are both on e.com" 19 to go

"Neither own the advertising site called e.com. I need their sites." say 17 to go in other words 7 hours 3/4 emails and I STILL do not have ref info and it's 7pm - 80% chance he can't email for the evening.

If he can email it will be: "They both know me." Say 8pm/16 hours to go.

here is why I require email.

They may know you but I don't know them. Or you. (Believe it or not I don't know or know of every escort in the US)

Unless I have met a lady face to face, I don't give or receive refs over the phone. I have no idea who I'm calling, no idea who is calling me. Say...your wife calls me says she is greatbjlady and wants a ref...Don't laugh. Happened to a client of mine. (No she didn't talk to me, talked to someone else. Lost his house, etc - over a 'phone reference'.)

I don't need her phone, her email nada - I need her site. If I have her site I have everything I need. Give me the site, let me do my job.

That's all I ask for:
Name & site
Mo/yr and city you met
Was it in/out
Does she know you by the same name, email and phone you gave me?

Times two.

And that's considered 'hard screening'?

Back to our hypothetical. 8pm and no legit ref info. Now it's the first time he can email - 8am 4 hours to go...and I may finally get two sites.

Now I know, the chances of me getting 2 refs back in under 4 hours in the am are slim to none. And yep.......

It's allllll my fault.

I tell my guys make a pw protected folder in your email program. In that folder do an email that you constantly save as a draft and constantly update w/your refs. Then it's just copy/paste. It is exactly as hard - or as easy - as you make it.

[Outdoorsman]

Yep, email is the way to go for me. I understand that clients do not always act the way I want them to, and at times it is frustrating for me, but I keep reminding myself if it were not for the clients I would not have an income.

Sometimes, I can just talk to a potential client on the phone for 5 minutes and I have made the sale, sometimes it takes me a few calls and maybe a visit or two, sometimes I stop taking the calls and do not visit and I think the potential client is playing games with me. I do not want to waste my time with someone that is not going to pan out for me. But I do what I have to do to earn a living in the profession I have chosen. I cannot control other people, I can only create policies and procedures that allows me to give my services to others that really want it. Does not always work out for me either.

But in the hobby I email and attempt to give all pertinent info so that I can properly be screened, unfortunately I do not always give the lady what it is that she is seeking and sometimes it takes two or three emails. For example I have never listed websites in my references, always give phone numbers and for most ladies that works just fine, but there is no uniform or set procedure that I can follow for every single lady. I am a nice guy and try to make your job as easy as possible so we can both have a good time, but I do not alwas have the right answers. And yes, I have gotten junk email from ladies, doe snot happen as much since I do not fill out website forms but Hannah you are correct sometimes the lady puts my email address into her junk mail pile and it starts.

Ask if any guys have ever had to put an emial in on a website just to gain access or to view the pics, I chose not to look at those sites at all, just me. How many times have I opened a ladies site to see that the program wants to automatically add her site as one of my favorites, nope not happening, just me. All I need is my son to somehow gain access to my computer, nope like keeping my hobby life private, just me.

Just my .02

[MOCHAakaMOCHA]

Usually call then email but either is fine as long as they can get their screening information to me pretty much as soon as they contact me.

[Guest101311]

I would definitely agree with the other ladies about PMs or messages from boards and p411 with all the information clearly handy, as well as identifying when, where, and how long stated (even though it takes me a little longer to answer emails back). I honestly like the simple phone call when a suitor is interested in arranging something as it is much easier for me with my busy day routine. Text messages of any sort, for a first time contact, is a definite no go for me.

[Morgan205]

PM on boards and Email

[Nina Rae]

Originally Posted by babee

You know you are just the hottest thang right?

Too too true. Even WITH one field per answer, it's rare that I'm not emailing back "Thanks for your interest, but.....". Since email is my preference ..it's important to get all the info asap. Espeically with email.

Thanks babee. Right back at 'cha! And dude, that scenario you wrote up it almost always how it happens for me. But you forgot to add in how when you ask for a detail to jog the reference's memory, he says "She came to my hotel". Um...ok. LOL. That should do it! Not.

The worst, and I do mean absolute worst, is when someone calls and says "Can I see you tonight? How much? What can I get for $___?" You get one quick but free hang up, that's what. If you're going to call her on first contact, why not start with who you are, where you found her, and what method of giving references might expedite the scheduling process? Call me crazy, but I would consider a conversation like that almost foreplay. LOL.

[DallasRain]

I had a text at midnite last nite....he said "I want you NOW"....wtf???

I dont mind text if I know you....but if you are a first time inquirer,please call or email,
It is so much easier to "take care of business"

[LilRed]

Originally Posted by Nina Rae

. What can I get for $___?" .

The old saying 'If I had a dollar for everytime I heard that!!" LOL..