GFE - Girl Friend Experience

[thorough9]

So, i was up late and recently caught a movie, entitled the "Girl Friend Experience", starring Sasha Grey, a legitimate porn star, and also while trolling BP, I ran across many ads proclaiming to offer GFE services.
For all intents and purposes, a GFE is "The girlfriend experience (commonly known as GFE) is a type of service a female sex worker offers which includes acting like a girlfriend to the client." Wikipedia

A girlfriend kisses, hugs, rubs, etc. makes a guy feel special, but in all honesty, these are just "icing effects", the little things that enhance the GFE experience. At the core of the GFE experience, is the act itself. I don't know about the rest of you, but i've never had a "girlfriend" that didn't kiss, lick, suck, etc and upon whom i didn't reciprocate. In order for a girl to "act" like my girlfriend, in the limited time allotment( hh, fh, 2,3,etc.), the act must be performed as my girlfriend would perform it.

I've also noticed that on this board and others, guys and gals trumpet their beliefs and rules as inevitable truths and unbreakable tenets, but will break or disregard them for the right price - i mean roses, diamonds, skittles, etc - or for the right looks (guys).

SO i think that we need to come up with a new term or acronym that accurately describes what the phony GFE providers offer.

Streetscort( some guy from LA coined this one) - An escort who does not kiss - as a streetwalker will not - but wants the compensation of an escort - a true GFE.

Stripscort - the GFE experience acted out in a stripclub setting - there is no kissing because "they have cameras" and other customers are watching, so just go and get a cover from the bathroom - do you need quarters, and it's $$$$$$$$$$$$ extra, and i'm worth a lot more, and i'm not a .....

Crackscort - I'll do it just hurry up and could you drop me off at the corner store - wait, there he is, let me out right here. - almost gets hit by a car crossing the street.....

[Allie_Kat]

GFE has been tossed around and defined differently by so many people it's not even a real term anymore honestly.
I kiss but do not do bareback ANYTHING so I am not considered GFE by regular standards which is fine.
I remember back in '97 on ASPD when it was explained to me that GFE was only kissing. The times do change and things are not what they once were.

Urban Dictionary says:
http://www.urbandictionary.com/defin...d%20Experience

[sipapi]

CFI----cash for illusion

[KCQuestor]

We've established many times that there is no one true definition of GFE. Any customer who sees a provider who claims GFE should be aware that her definition may not match up with his. And hobbyist who uses the term in his review should expect to give a definition in the ROS, or else will likely be asked what he meant.

[The Sixth Beatle]

This is just my opinion, but to me GFE should transcend the mechanical act of sex. When I think of GFE, I think of kissing (of course), but also tender touching, eye contact and other things intended to foster the illusion of emotional involvement. To me this also explains why many providers prefer not to see younger clients, as many of them don't differentiate between feigned affection and the real thing. Just my opinion.

[thorough9]

I am of the opinion that the attitudes of some providers suggest that they want the maximum profit for the minimum effort, meaning that they want their job to be as easy as possible.
I am also of the opinion that as a man gets older, fatter, uglier, etc, his standards of "attainable beauty" are lowered - not to mention his libido and stamina.
IMO, providers who love older gentleman want a guy who is too limited by age to work them vigorously, is just plain happy to be away from his nagging ass wife, or still carries the age old illusion that women are gentle flowers and are to be treated as such - not to say that they are to be disrespected, but the act itself varies infinitely in intensity, speed, depth, range of motion, everybody likes different things.
Basically, many providers attempt to put all kinds of reasons, excuses, exclusions, etc into a pretty package that, in essence, says that they like whomever makes their jobs easiest.
They, some of them, not all of them, want a guy who will accept a lot of light feathery kisses, lots of light feathery touches, a few light feathery strokes, and if they're lucky he just might pop before he even gets it in. And he'll be grateful for the experience. Easy money.

[thorough9]

GFE has simply become a false advertisement - a catch phrase - to fraudulently draw in those who genuinely want an affectionate encounter.

[Miss_Mya]

Originally Posted by thorough9

GFE has simply become a false advertisement - a catch phrase - to fraudulently draw in those who genuinely want an affectionate encounter.

I would have to say that I agree and disagree with you on this one. There are those that do use the term to lure guys but then there are those of us that actually try to provide the affectionate encounter of a GFE. As others have pointed out there is no longer a true definition of GFE which does make it hard and yes some take advantage of that.

To me GFE is more than what activities are done but also includes the "feelings" or the connection of the session as well.

[TH64083]

Originally Posted by Miss_Mya

I would have to say that I agree and disagree with you on this one. There are those that do use the term to lure guys but then there are those of us that actually try to provide the affectionate encounter of a GFE. As others have pointed out there is no longer a true definition of GFE which does make it hard and yes some take advantage of that.

To me GFE is more than what activities are done but also includes the "feelings" or the connection of the session as well.

I only expect the Illusion of a connection, and hope for a temporarily "borrowed" connection that was real for the moment. Personally, I don't know how you ladies do it.
For me, it's like going to a Sci-Fi movie. It requires a suspension of disbelief to get the most out of the experience.

[Miss_Mya]

Originally Posted by TH64083

I only expect the Illusion of a connection, and hope for a temporarily "borrowed" connection that was real for the moment. Personally, I don't know how you ladies do it.
For me, it's like going to a Sci-Fi movie. It requires a suspension of disbelief to get the most out of the experience.

I love Sci-Fi and I understand what you are saying and have to agree. Just like a great movie in the theaters you have to walk in believe everything that you are seeing and then once the movie is over and you walk out of the theater that is when you realize it was all just a movie.

[Allie_Kat]

Originally Posted by thorough9

I am of the opinion that the attitudes of some providers suggest that they want the maximum profit for the minimum effort, meaning that they want their job to be as easy as possible.
I am also of the opinion that as a man gets older, fatter, uglier, etc, his standards of "attainable beauty" are lowered - not to mention his libido and stamina.
IMO, providers who love older gentleman want a guy who is too limited by age to work them vigorously, is just plain happy to be away from his nagging ass wife, or still carries the age old illusion that women are gentle flowers and are to be treated as such - not to say that they are to be disrespected, but the act itself varies infinitely in intensity, speed, depth, range of motion, everybody likes different things.
Basically, many providers attempt to put all kinds of reasons, excuses, exclusions, etc into a pretty package that, in essence, says that they like whomever makes their jobs easiest.
They, some of them, not all of them, want a guy who will accept a lot of light feathery kisses, lots of light feathery touches, a few light feathery strokes, and if they're lucky he just might pop before he even gets it in. And he'll be grateful for the experience. Easy money.

I'm glad you understand that not ALL providers are like that.
Girls who just give the bare minimum shouldn't be in this line of work. I hate hearing about ladies ripping people off.

[Sens55]

Wow Thorough. Where the hell did you come up with the load of crap? And more to the point, did you really sit around and waste brain cells thinking about it?

I'm as old, fat and ugly as they come. But my standards have gone UP since I've gotten older. Especially within the hobby. And I'm not saying I can go like I could when I was 20. But I have also learned a few tricks since then and I've had no complaints...even from ladies that aren't in the hobby. And as far as libido...that hasn't dropped a bit.

I think the reason a lot of girls don't want younger guys is because younger guys are too cocksure and arrogant. They think they're some kind of porn star stud and that women just can't wait to fuck them. And they tend to be more disrespectful towards the ladies and always want to rush to hardcore pounding. News flash, some women like it hard, some slow. Taking the time to find out which can make all the difference in the world.

Some day, if you're lucky, you might be old too. But hell, by then you'll be old, limp-dicked, wanting to throw your money at anyone that'll have you and being thankful for it...right?

[perpetualdesign]

Originally Posted by Allie_Kat

I'm glad you understand that not ALL providers are like that.
Girls who just give the bare minimum shouldn't be in this line of work. I hate hearing about ladies ripping people off.

I would think that to any lady that it has become work, that attitude has to be present to some extent. Maybe she isn't even aware that it's there.
I say many thanks to you ladies that know it's there, yet are able to play the fantasy as though it's not!

[thorough9]

Some people are hell bent on being argumentative and throwing their "internet weight" around, but, oh well (Sens55). The fact that you disagree with what i have to say makes it a load of crap. Thanks for your opinion.
First off, you've made several assumptions, and subsequently have made an ass of yourself.
Firstly, you've jumped in, blindly speculating that i am a young man. And you obviously don't know how to have a civilized discussion in which people contribute their opinions without attacking those whose opinions differ from theirs. Your tactics are rather neanderthal-ish.

This is the internet. Some people hobby by choice and some do it by necessity. It's like Never-Never land. You can be the world's greatest lover with the most exquisite tool and techniques, if that's what you choose to portray yourself as. I'm sure the providers on this board could do image correction, should they choose to.

Some young men are cocksure, and some couldn't find a vagina with a map.

Originally Posted by Sens55

But I have also learned a few tricks since then and I've had no complaints...even from ladies that aren't in the hobby. And as far as libido...that hasn't dropped a bit.

Sounds cocksure and arrogant to me....

Originally Posted by Sens55

They think they're some kind of porn star stud and that women just can't wait to fuck them. And they tend to be more disrespectful towards the ladies and always want to rush to hardcore pounding. News flash, some women like it hard, some slow. Taking the time to find out which can make all the difference in the world.

This is rather redundant. I've said it already.

Originally Posted by thorough9

not to say that they are to be disrespected, but the act itself varies infinitely in intensity, speed, depth, range of motion, everybody likes different things.

SO, i'm confused as to what was the point of what you said, other than an attempt to bolster your "internet image" of yourself. So, if I stepped on your toes with the old, fat, and ugly comment, i apologize. But, I respect your opinion, i just don't like to be attacked for voicing mine.


I was in a strip-club once and had spent a considerable amount of money on one girl, and i asked her what she was thinking about while she was dancing for me. I was so turned on that my scrotum was tingling. She replied, "How much money i'm making". I've seen providers who without lube, the act would have NEVER occured between them and myself. It's a fantasy in which I pretend that the "connect" would be that easy without the compensation. You can't expect much in a Quickie:Get in, get out. A HH is almost as bad: Hello. Get in, get out. goodbye. A FH is where GFE really takes effect. (although i've had Q's that made me want to marry them). I understand that all providers are different. Older providers may only wanna see older men. SOME providers are just plain lazy, but what would the hobby be if men weren't too lazy or married, etc to actually take the time to cultivate a relationship with a desirable, young, pretty thing. I just think that GFE is more of a lure than an indicator of the service, although some providers are GFE without even knowing of the Acronym's existence. I guess that i just got fed up with the GFE advertisements, GFE compensation, then, upon arrival, there are rules against LFK, DFK, and CBJ - these a GFE does not make.

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[spjjkh]

I am involved in a serious relationship with a local provider who I met a couple of years back thru a Backpage ad. She still works as a provider but only with a limited number of longtime clients. My initial visit with her qualified as a "true" GFE experience by any definition. She made me feel like the most important guy in the world. I became a semi regular with her and it was a full year before we both realized that something special was developing between us. I would say that we qualify as a "couple" now and we've had some prolonged conversations about her profession. I was intrigued about how she can provide the GFE experience and maintain her sanity. Her reply is that her profession is truly her job. She is able to disconnect emotionally but perform as an actress to such a degree that her clients always feel like they were something special to her during that session. She says that when the client leaves and the door closes, she counts her money, goes back to her household routine and he is out of her mind until the next time he calls. The two of us actually clicked on issues that went far beyond sex. When we are in the bedroom the sexual adventures are still tremendous but the words and attitudes she displays go to a level that didn't exist when I was one of the clients. There may be "GFE" but it's still different from "love".