help and advice

[youngatheart]

So, I need some advice.... I have never been good at approaching women. There is a hottie who is doing some contract work for me. She has a killer body and I don't know how to be subtle and ask if she'd sleep with me. To complicate matters, I know her mom and don;t want to jeodardize that friendship should the daughter take my advances negatively.
Any suggestions?? Or is the best suggestion to just leave it alone?

[quimps]

Start with asking her out on a date perhaps ?

[oliassunhillow]

This is a standard hook up you're trying for, not a P4P?

First, you have to establish a relationship with her. If she seems to be responding well and you have good chemistry, then you try to take that relationship out of the work place and into a social setting. If she says yes, THEN you can MAYBE start thinking about how you're going to get into bed with her.

If you bring it up now, you're just asking for a sexual harassment accusation to happen.

[Guest121613]

goodluck dude, listen more than talk... remember what she said a few days later and ask how it went... when you need a work decision, ask for her opinion, without making it obvious to everyone you really digging her (yea right, lol)... do not hover... when you gain her trust, then ask to do something outside of work... start at a local place that you both drive to, and go home from, make her feel safe... (today's most sane chicks don't want to get picked up in a car and drive with a person on a first date)

[youngatheart]

Probably should have mentioned I'm self-employed (at home) and have a SO. Going out on a date is not a realisitc option. I'm not adverse to offering a P4P.

[neversoft]

If that's the case, stick with legit providers. Otherwise, you're asking for trouble.

[Lexxxy]

Dont do it. Trust me, it could ruin your marriage and friendship with her mother not to mention your business. If she feels uncomfortable or feels you are morally corrupt she could destroy your entire life, I watched it all happen to my friend that owned the bar I manage. He got hot for a girl that works for the bakery we use for our rolls and she took it as creepy old Sicko when he asked her out. Dont shit where you eat.

[gaijin1969]

Originally Posted by Lexxxy

Dont shit where you eat.

Awesome advice. Have said it to others often myself. And have had a hard time taking it as well. Difficult when you spend so much time working and meet most of the gals in your life that way! But you are simply risking too much even if she were to bring it up.

[Guest121613]

that would be no-no, and sure to backfire

[vern0064]

Originally Posted by Lexxxy

Dont do it. Trust me, it could ruin your marriage and friendship with her mother not to mention your business. If she feels uncomfortable or feels you are morally corrupt she could destroy your entire life, I watched it all happen to my friend that owned the bar I manage. He got hot for a girl that works for the bakery we use for our rolls and she took it as creepy old Sicko when he asked her out. Dont shit where you eat.

Well said I say DON'T DO IT!!!

[Justapervert]

avoid this at all costs... in the end it will always get back to those who you dont want it to ... your SO, her mom, etc... its different if she actually confronts you with the question, but remember, there are those circumstances where your being set up by your SO or her mom to see how you react to a situation... i would avoid this at all costs.. to many what if's...

[Guest120615-3]

Fuck it! I say turn her like a fucking hobby vampire!

Maybe she always wanted to venture into P4P and just waited for the right opportunity.

Extreme caution here. You must have some serious skills to pull this off. Not for everyone.

[rooster]

Originally Posted by youngatheart

So, I need some advice.... I have never been good at approaching women......

This kinda answers your question for you. Since it seems she has not approached you, this would likely be a tricky thing to pull off. And you admit up-front that you are not good at this kind of thing. If you can barely throw a ball, don't try for a long bomb. Sounds like there is too much to risk.

[ElisabethWhispers]

Originally Posted by Lexxxy

Dont do it. Trust me, it could ruin your marriage and friendship with her mother not to mention your business. If she feels uncomfortable or feels you are morally corrupt she could destroy your entire life, I watched it all happen to my friend that owned the bar I manage. He got hot for a girl that works for the bakery we use for our rolls and she took it as creepy old Sicko when he asked her out. Dont shit where you eat.

What she said.

If you're that gun shy about meeting women, and you're not opposed to some p4p, I would suggest seeing a few young (and hot) ladies that might look a little similar to her. Do something OTHER than lust after her.

Not a good idea at all, but you knew that already, didn't you?

[vern0064]

Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers

What she said.


Not a good idea at all, but you knew that already, didn't you?

Best word of advice anyone has said to the poor guy!!