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Out_of_Bounds · 07-20-2012, 10:27 PM

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Originally Posted by utr_guy_in_houston

When I'm in the market for a new sb (like right now), I hunt for them where escorts do not normally go. Sugardaddy sites and other dating venues . . . and I present myself as a "fun and very generous" man. That gets a lot of attention. lol

You serious about that?
You people and your delusions.

pyramider · 07-21-2012, 05:40 AM

You act as if being delusional is a bad thing.

Owlman · 07-21-2012, 11:15 AM

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Originally Posted by 4karlos

With the years you may have observed that a majority of providers have common stories in their history. Divorced parents, abusive mom or dad, extremely poor childhood, low education, violence and some times all the above at once. It is not all about the money or financial stability. The thick agenda is always there, and it will bite you. There are a few ladies very well grounded and with zero issues...but those would never consider a SD arragements...they are providing because their freedom has no price and they truely enjoy it. Those...let them be, because those are the ones blowing our minds.

I know a former escort who suffered a lot of the listed childhood problems. She also had anxiety and depression. She did not trust men in general and did not feel comfortable with educated professional men. Several years ago she agreed to an support arrangement with a businessman. The man agreed not to treat her like a "bought" woman or an escort, and she agreed not to have any relationship with another man. They had few background things or interests in common. She is very volatile and he is very calm. Shortly after the arrangement began, she insisted that he be totally faithful to her. Despite all the differences, they have grown very close. She is very pretty but now lives the life of a suburban stay at home mom. It appears that they have lived up to their commitments to each other.

ivan · 07-22-2012, 11:19 AM

Spot on mate. I am on my 4th year with this lil Filipino. Adding a Vietnamese to the lineup. Both students.

My experience with "fun and very generous" is that it attracts a lot of "gold pussy" syndrome which requires a lot of dialing down and negative dialog. Takes way too much time to find anything there.
My approach is stating exactly what I am willing to provide and that filters all the unnecessary gold pussy and dreamers. This approached served me very well.

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Originally Posted by utr_guy_in_houston

I'm somewhat of an expert on this topic having had several dozen sugar babies over many years, one lasting 3 years alone. I can say without reservation that it is possible, and that it is possible for the sb relationship to be cheaper than to have an escort the same number of times per month. The downside is you're hitting the same pussy all the time and that can get boring . . . It's also possible to have genuine feelings for your sb, and for her to have them for you, but be careful with that, it's like playing with fire if your sb falls in love with you.

On the "cheating" front: that's never an issue for me because I encourage them to date up front. I tell them it would be wrong for a beautiful young woman not to have bf's or gf's. However, I ask them not to turn pro, mainly because I think it increases the chance for something bad to happen to her, not necessarily to me. The only pro's who are candidates for being my sugar baby are the ones who tried it and being an escort absolutely disgusted them. This is a good candidate because they are comfortable with the idea of sex for money but they are uncomfortable with having sex with someone they are not attracted to. Assuming you're not an ugly smelly pig, you might be able to turn this into something.

When I'm in the market for a new sb (like right now), I hunt for them where escorts do not normally go. Sugardaddy sites and other dating venues . . . and I present myself as a "fun and very generous" man. That gets a lot of attention. lol

Eccie Addict · 07-22-2012, 11:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Out_of_Bounds

You serious about that?
You people and your delusions.

There are a lot of people on here with delusions about more than just that lol.

Fast Gunn · 07-22-2012, 01:02 PM

You're not only playing with fire, but you have a blindfold on.

Technically, what you're proposing might work, but the odds are mighty slim!

. . . I would advise you to choose a sugar baby who is new to the business and who has not being a provider in order to maximize your chances of success, but even then consider it a fairly short-term arrangement.

Jackie S · 07-22-2012, 04:37 PM

You are looking for love in all the wrong places.

I to am an older guy, 65. I have been seeing the same Lady for over three years, I do like her a lot.

But, regardless of how "generous" I am with her, she is not my Sugar Baby. She is simply a Provider that I enjoy being with. I simply call her my ATF.

I have no illusions. She is a hot 39 year old MILF who would not give me a second look in the civilian world. I compensate her for her time regardless of what we do, and a lot of what we do does not involve BCD activity.

We spent the night together last night, and I don't mind saying that I enjoyed the entire evening as much as I did the first time I ever was with her. We see each other twice a week on average. How many time is that in three years? You do the math.

Maybe you should try this type of arrangement. Granted, you do have to be able to accept her as she is, a working Provider. If you can't, then skip it.

Eccie Addict · 07-22-2012, 04:53 PM

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Originally Posted by OldHobbyist

There is a provider who used to advertise all the time. In recent years her ads come and go. I have known her for several years, more as a friend than a customer. I am considering asking her to completely retire and accept support.

I know other cases like this that have not worked out well, either because the Suga Daddy tried to "own" the girl or because the girl just wanted support and had no other interest in the guy. I also know of cases where the girl continued living a life that would be hard for a man to accept.

I only know of one case that seems to be working.

I am weighing all angles and wonder if anyone knows of situations like this that have worked for both parties.

What is your motive for wanting to do this with her?

Nick11796 · 07-22-2012, 04:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

What is your motive for wanting to do this with her?

I like her a lot. We get along very well. I also want her out of the profession. She has had a few scary things happen to her.

Eccie Addict · 07-22-2012, 05:06 PM

LMAO!! You are not very smart sir

Eccie Addict · 07-22-2012, 05:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Nick11796

I like her a lot. We get along very well. I also want her out of the profession. She has had a few scary things happen to her.

Worth quoting....

Fast Gunn · 07-22-2012, 05:44 PM

We have a name for your condition.

It is called "The Pretty Woman" complex.

A well to do man succumbs to his noble side and believes that he can rescue a lady of the night and of course,

They will live happily ever after!

It's a great concept, but only for a movie, just do not expect it to work in real life, bro!

. . . Get this through your head, Fred, they don't want to be rescued!

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Originally Posted by Nick11796

I like her a lot. We get along very well. I also want her out of the profession. She has had a few scary things happen to her.

Sweet Discretion · 07-22-2012, 05:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Nick11796

I like her a lot. We get along very well. I also want her out of the profession. She has had a few scary things happen to her.

So it's this one particular lady that makes you want to be a sd, not the desire to just be a sd to a lady that you haven't picked out yet.

I say go for it, what do you have to lose? It might work out or it might not. There's only one way to find out.

Eccie Addict · 07-22-2012, 05:53 PM

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Originally Posted by OldHobbyist

I only know of one case that seems to be working.

Are you sure it's working.....

molnar · 07-22-2012, 07:03 PM

I have done the escort thing and the SD thing. I am currently in the SD phase, and I am loving it. I dont think Ill ever go back to escorts.

Having said that, I would not knowingly enter into SB/SD relationship with a stripper or escort. Just me.

At the end of the day, it's your time, it's your money and your feelings. Good Luck, but go in with your eyes open.