How does a provider handle a bad hobbiest?

[Bibi Joy]

Ok so Im a good provider and so is my partner we have many clients that have seen us for many years now. But two incidents so far has left me wondering what is going on here. One tried to choke my partner during the session the other forced a bbfs. ANd then go on here and give a bad review or say something mean about us. Damn guys wheres the respect? Do you have any idea what it takes to be a good provider?

I mean really have you seen how many are bad providers?? Rip you off in one way or another? When you run across the good ones dont do things out of the ordinary unless it is consensual ONLY! And especially say something on here out of pure guilt that you didnt get your way please its not nice!

[KlassyKelliAnn]

+1,000,000,000!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!

WTF!


Kelli Ann

[Guest083013]

Report these things to the male and female leadership of the forums; do the same in those areas all of us can't see; and follow-up. It will be interesting to see if these "gentlemen" choose to participate in the discussion.

For those of you who don't realize it ==> "choking" (against one's will) can be construed as an assault with intent to cause bodily harm. BBFS discussions just are becoming more and more evident.

Its ashame we still see things like this.

Do hope your partner is okay.

[KlassyKelliAnn]

Well said and thank you......


Kelli Ann

[Mokoa]

It appears that there are more hobbyists who knuckles drag along the ground as they walk.

It is becoming contagious and that is freakin' scary.

[KlassyKelliAnn]

Originally Posted by Mokoa

It is becoming contagious and that is freakin' scary.

.....it certainly is.....



Kelli Ann

[sanantonioman37]

Damn................so basically assault and rape. I'm sorry for you partner, Bibi. Maybe its time to get the LE involved especially if lives are endanger.

[Bibi Joy]

Yeah right LE and how do ever explain how the loser got in there in the first place its part of the risk of being a provider you do everything right. Yet theres always one bad apple but really I dont let it take me down nor does it Reya it makes us stronger and wiser. There are way to many good hobbiest to let one bad one get in the way.

Actually the next gentleman I saw took both me and Reya to Pensca spent 600.00 on dinner and wine so sweeet!!! We were treated like the lovely classy ladies that we deserve.

[Aftershock]

OMG thats really horrible Bibi, so sorry that happened. Sweetie I know that involving LE is scary or very against the hobby way (in some underlined code of some sort) but when it comes to you or your partners safety and physical well being, an exception must be made. When something like this happens you are no longer a provider, you are a victim, and the hobbyist in question is no longer hobbyist but an assailant! Sad to say though the forced bbfs is a very slippery slope , but still the same, very unacceptable and downright horrible! Use that Alert forum and what Dennisrn mentioned, tell the fine ladies of this and other sites about these assholes! Take care and be safe out there.

[Guest080312-1]

Originally Posted by Aftershock

Sweetie I know that involving LE is scary or very against the hobby way (in some underlined code of some sort) but when it comes to you or your partners safety and physical well being, an exception must be made. When something like this happens you are no longer a provider, you are a victim, and the hobbyist in question is no longer hobbyist but an assailant!

Aftershock, I could not agree more!

[swwaustin]

Let me first say that I do not condone violence, and I view BBFS in the hobby as a risk I am not willing to take. Even though I do not know who Reya is, I hope she is okay. I made the previous qualifying statement in hopes that my views are clear and the following comments do not create some sort of shit storm.

I understand that the information that we are receiving is second hand. The Incident happened with Reya, and is being reported by BiBiJoy. As pointed out by dennisrn, I hope the proper channels have been followed to fully report the infraction.

A hobbyist has essentially been accused, while he has not been named, enough information has been provided for speculation to form. ( a quick search shows that Reya has a recent and only one Recommend: No review). Why not post the username handle? ECCIE guidelines do not seem to be against posting factual information, as long as it is done in a non-threatening, tactful way. This would end the speculation, and provide the hobbyist with a perceived need to tell his side of the story.

Assuming these actions are true, they are not issues of non-gentleman like behavior. Violence, and forcing someone to do something they do not wish goes far beyond not being a gentleman. Again, if these actions are true, considering the OP's hesitance to involve LE, perhaps the community can help the hobbyist find the help he needs.

[Bibi Joy]

It was two different incidents with two different hobbiest and they know who they are if they ever read this thread. Perhaps me placing this thread will keep them from doing it again to another provider who knows.

Swwaustin if the moderators want to put there name out then so be it I am not one to break any rules in here. Me and Reya are simple girls providing a service to hobbiest out of necessity to put food on the table.

Of course LE would of been involved if the situation got out of control but both me and Reya are strong willed woman that simply handled it. I placed this thread to let both of those guys know that us as providers are not going to keep quiet.

I have never understood how it is right to place a review on what we do in private all over the internet. It should be right for providers to be able to place a review about the hobbiest as well.

Ha lets see how the hobbiest likes it when we say his dick was smaller than a pencil and he has a big belly and one nipple is slightly different than the other!!!

[oldtiger]

I'm glad to hear you two are okay, and am pleased to see you stuck up for yourselves and didn't allow anything bad happen.

Personally I don't get it. The hands around the neck, nor the BBFS. What kind of willful disregard for safety must that take. I don't mean to offend anyone, but BBFS is a lot like playing Russian Roulette....

[swwaustin]

Originally Posted by Bibi Joy

It was two different incidents with two different hobbiest and they know who they are if they ever read this thread. Perhaps me placing this thread will keep them from doing it again to another provider who knows.

Swwaustin if the moderators want to put there name out then so be it I am not one to break any rules in here. Me and Reya are simple girls providing a service to hobbiest out of necessity to put food on the table.

Well, however you all decide to handle the situation is up to you, it really is none of my business. I just wanted to make sure that a fellow hobbyist that has posted a "Recommend: No review" is not unjustly identified as the perpetrator of the above infractions. However, if he is the guilty one, then he should be identified as such, and given an opportunity to explain his side of the story. Just my .02, which really isn't worth that much.

Originally Posted by Bibi Joy

I have never understood how it is right to place a review on what we do in private all over the internet.

I believe ECCIE allows a no review policy, and as far as I know the only drawback is that you can't have a showcase, however there may be more and you may want to contact a Mod.

Originally Posted by Bibi Joy

It should be right for providers to be able to place a review about the hobbiest as well.

Ha lets see how the hobbiest likes it when we say his dick was smaller than a pencil and he has a big belly and one nipple is slightly different than the other!!!

LOL, yeah that might not go over very well. Still, if a provider was paying me $$ an hour for my time, I would think she could write anything she wanted.

[oldtiger]

Originally Posted by Bibi Joy

Ha lets see how the hobbiest likes it when we say his dick was smaller than a pencil and he has a big belly and one nipple is slightly different than the other!!!

Hey! Don't use ME as the example!