Is It Hard to Say Thank You?

[40F Cougar]

Do you notice that people don't use common courtesy's anymore?
Is it hard to say Please, Thank You, You're Welcome, Excuse Me, I'm Sorry?
How about elder respect like Yes and No Ma'am or Sir?
Have you ever gotten in an elevator and if there is someone else in there they look down at their feet; or walk past someone on the sidewalk and they won't meet your eyes? People use to greet someone in passing "Nice Day" or "Good Morning", not any more?
When was the last time you thanked someone for doing something you expected them to do anyway like your wife for making breakfast or your husband for taking out the trash, your co-worker for helping you complete something or your employee for putting in a good day at work? I bet that would make them feel much more appreciated?

[latinalover]

thankyou for posting this?

[raedy4funn45]

I was raised with manners, and made sure I raised my son the same way. It is a lost art these days.

[JDNorthface]

Originally Posted by PrincessLeeGFE

Do you notice that people don't use common courtesy's anymore? ...

It's an epidemic, a cancer that has spread upon society. The simplest of civilities now receives much ballyhoo. Especially here. But, the anonymous forum is the great equalizer--the bore has the same voice as does the lady or gentleman.

I fault the tort system for at least some of this. We can no longer confront such atrocities as cowboys and smack the offender in the nose. Or take them into the street at high noon and shoot them. A shame, really.

Great post, PLG.

[Guest061918]

If you think it is bad in this area the East Coast is much much worse.

[Pepper_Springfield]

I always greet people everywhere I go and sometimes they look at me like Im a weirdo lol Im just being polite! lol And I always say thank you and please and all that good stuff. That's how I was brought up

[sajay55]

I was just thinking about this the other day! same here, I always say thank you, whether I'm at the grocery store, gas station, fast food, whatever... always "thank you, have a nice day" lol... Next time you are in a long line somewhere waiting for something, check and see how many people say "thanks"... you'll be surprised!

[canyonman]

I am one to open a door or hold it open for a woman, more times than not nothing is said by them.... I like to say "you're welcome" after they have passed through without saying anything... lol.
I think Texas is still freindlier than any other state I have visited.

[JDNorthface]

Throughout history, manners and decencies have always had their detractors. Today is no different, except that perhaps the OP is right, the incidence of infractions seems to be growing of late. Perhaps someone should start a thread on manners. We could call it the "Little Thread of Common Decency". Among the things found there, we could include:

1. It is still proper for a man to stand when a woman or an elder enters the room.
2. It is still proper to open a door for a lady.
3. It is still proper to pull to the side of the road as a funeral processional passes.
4. It is still proper to remove one's hat indoors and especially at the dining table.
5. It is still proper to greet strangers on the street, to say "please," and "thank you" and appropriately append the terms, "sir" and "ma'am."
6. It is still appropriate to "do unto others as you would have them do unto you." This often means considering the needs of others ahead of our own.
7. It is still appropriate to refrain from spitting, swearing, and bragging in the presence of any but the closest of companions.
8. It is still appropriate to say "I'm sorry. I was wrong. Please forgive me."

Note also that I did not say it was always inappropriate to behave in the contrary.

Much as some would have us believe otherwise, Emily Post is quite en vogue today.

[40F Cougar]

So true JDNorthFace so many things that seem to have "gone out the window" I believe all the things you mentioned are still proper and appropriate.
I am originally from IL and when I first moved from TX to Cali I noticed when I would get in an elevator and there was another person in there they would look down at their feet or away, never speaking. I would always start a conversation, "Hi, nice day?" or "Good Morning" then they would speak and always the conversation would carry on until one of us got off the elevator, but it just seemed so weird to me that people are like that out here.
I am looking forward to getting back to TX where it seems as though people are more friendly and neighborly.
Latinalover003 I have never been to the east coast NY or NJ, only VA, MD, DC and only briefly so I hadn't noticed how people are out there much. But I know every area is different.

[raedy4funn45]

As an east coaster all my life (Born on Long Island) , I will honestly say some areas are, well, different. The accents of New York and New Jersey people can make people think they are crude or harsh, when in reality it is not true. They talk "at you", not "to you". As tough as my cousins sound, they were all raised with manners like me. Hold a door for a lady, answer yes sir or yes maam, etc.

Now head to the rural areas of some east coast states, and you will find manners non existant, like where I live now.

Manners are taught by parents that were raised with them. It appears it is a lost cause for many young folks today.

[bigjimt52]

i hold the door for women.......and if they are hot or even kinda hot i check out their ass when they go thru....but Im polite

[Likinikki]

I was raised in a military family, so manners was rule #1. I try to be friendly and respectful to everyone. Recently, I went to breakfast with a girlfriend of mine and her male friend. Her male friend was rude to the lady who waited on us...she was probably 70yrs old. I straight out told him to be respectful...I don't appreciate rude behavior toward anyone, but to an elderly, hard-working grandmother...oh, no! (lol)

Thanks to all the gentlemen of our community who treat us ladies so well...we appreciate you! YOU ROCK!!

[DaMan]

Amen to the importance of good manners.

Good manners help everything go much more smoothly, from grocery store visits, to car repairs to hobbying with a beautiful woman.

Different parts of the country and different countries have their own customs, but it mostly comes down to taking other people in consideration.

[40F Cougar]

I think you should treat others with the same respect you like to be treated with!