Ladies & Gents: What would you be more upset with?

[alluringava]

Originally Posted by bojulay

I find the double standard and moralizing
in some of the replies to be very interesting,
and a bit perplexing. Most people have more
in common than not. Interesting that you might
get the same answers at a church meeting or
a brothel.

Well concerning church meetings, it wouldn't be the first time that people fuck up in the name of God.

[charlestudor2005]

Originally Posted by alluringava

Well concerning church meetings, it wouldn't be the first time that people fuck up in the name of God.

This comment shows you are a lady after my own heart.

[bojulay]

Originally Posted by alluringava

Well concerning church meetings, it wouldn't be the first time that people fuck up in the name of God.

Yeah, even Gods not immune to the occasional f-up.
Didn't He create us in the first place.
Created in His image right.

[Sonja]

I find it interesting that as much as providers know about men, and what they do for a living themselves....say -that if they found their own men cheating it would be OVER. Kinda strange really. We know men cheat, in droves, for a million reasons. And it's NOT JUST BECAUSE they are not getting it at home, it's not great and their woman is not the hottest thing ever!
No way. Look at Celebs, your own clients reasons or past or current BF's who you are literally fucking their brains out Daily.

There actually ARE some biological differences between men and women. Women, when having sex with someone they love release tons of oxytocin, which creates a strong, chemically induced emotional attachment to the beloved through sex. Men release almost no oxytocin in sex. This allows them to have it with little emotional attachment, almost as 'sport'. This is why women often are puzzled after they have that 'great sex moment' with 'that great guy' don't understand why it just 'didnt happen the same' for him.
That's not to say men don't love having sex and get validation from it with the one THEY ALREADY have learned to LOVE. However, some moment can turn their head tomorrow and before they know it are in the closet with the bride at their best friends wedding. A day later everyone is crying and the guy says, "Gosh, I don't know what happened, It meant Nothing!" To everyones amazement, including their own. (the bride was probably just nervous and freaked out and maybe was always attracted to the best friend)


On the question, knowing all this...catching your guy with a provider is MUCH better than an affair, for everyone concerned. Affairs get people emotionally involved, usually the other woman. (dead pet rabbit stew anyone?) Provider interactions should have unwritten rules and are generally 'Sport' for the men.
As we see by this and every BIG Board full of pseudo cheaters, who BTW, mostly do NOT LEAVE their wives because they love them, beyond sex, no sex, illness, getting old, the prospect of endless variety, getting caught, leaving families and lives they have created etc. Men are a different animal.
It is a rare one that is different, an endangered species. Not Your man likely.
Providers should certainly understand this better than anyone?

[Sonja]

Now, providers still work when in love, with a bit more difficulty, early on. Later maybe easier. This is a very interesting mindset as well. We shut it off and do the job. It's not cheating in our heads, it's a job. You may enjoy your job, but your heart is elsewhere. We compartmentalize, a great human ability, the same as the men! The oxytocin is not released, because there is no attachment. Much like male 'sport fucking', women can do it too. And when this is learned, doing strangers can be fun for all. However, this ability is why only 'Some' can be providers, a unique ability. It's not for everyone and most women CAN'T, or only maybe fantasize about it.
Thankfully for the men, so they don't have to worry that their wives are hooking up on the side, while they themselves are hobbying. Yes, the Madonna/Whore complex is always up and running, keeping the world spinning and keeping men in marriage, regardless of their utter promiscuous nature.
But, if any of you men think your wives are no longer attractive and are ignoring her for us? Believe me, there is someone who thinks your wife is hot. He is your best friend, co-worker or a neighbor.
And if SHE hooks up, it won't be necessarily for 'sport'. The attachment will be stronger. And don't fool yourselves that you 'know your wife' that well and that the sun rises and sets in your glory.
You are here, late nights and many days, which means you are NOT THERE. And women are intuitive.

I was a provider for 4 years without my partner knowing. You know, that means he was so self involved, believed in his absolute reality of my dedicated love-moon circulating around his SUN, to make him feel better about himself, he never questioned my life or activities, and thought he was the big balled SOB cheater. He thought it was a power position, to have many women on the sly....and never for a minute knew what I was doing.
You see, while you are making love to your lover baby, your woman might be out making love. Just because it doesn't appear to you like anyone might enjoy making love to her, wow, you could be wrong.
Not only does the double standard become interesting for providers, it does in marriages as well.

[RickO'shayRabbitt]

I think an affair of the heart would be more devastating to a wife than an affair of the penis. But I'm not a woman, so what do I know?

What I find most interesting about this thread are the few escorts here who judge and frown upon married men participating in this life, but have no problem being the accomplice with these men.

[Elle_Wood]

Originally Posted by Shayla

A One-night-stand and seeing a hooker are basically the same thing in my opinion. It was a one time thing so it's more "forgiving".
Having an on going affair of some sort (arrangment or not) would be more hurtful emotionally.
Of course... For me personally - if I caught him doing either one of these things, the relationship would end.

Agreed.

I dont think I could ever forgive cheating.. Id never trust them again so whats the point of staying in the relationship.. if there is no trust then there is no point.

[Laz]

Originally Posted by Elle_Wood

Agreed.

I dont think I could ever forgive cheating.. Id never trust them again so whats the point of staying in the relationship.. if there is no trust then there is no point.

Trust is the key to me. The sex part is secondary and or irrelevant. If I can't trust my SO then I have to question the whole relationship. The flipside is I could accept a desire to play around since everyone probably has that. If my SO told me she wanted to live out the desire I could probably accept that as long as it was a two way agreement.

[alluringava]

Originally Posted by barneyrubble

I think an affair of the heart would be more devastating to a wife than an affair of the penis. But I'm not a woman, so what do I know?

What I find most interesting about this thread are the few escorts here who judge and frown upon married men participating in this life, but have no problem being the accomplice with these men.

I hope it wasn't me that came across as being judgemental about that, because that wasn't my intent at all. I can't judge the man who pays me if I take his money and we're both enjoying horizontal refreshments together.

[Sonja]

Originally Posted by Laz

Trust is the key to me. The sex part is secondary and or irrelevant. If I can't trust my SO then I have to question the whole relationship. The flipside is I could accept a desire to play around since everyone probably has that. If my SO told me she wanted to live out the desire I could probably accept that as long as it was a two way agreement.

What? Trust is important to you? But you are here with 4 reviews? You talk about 'trusting' your own SO but you cheat with impunity? So...you are not trustable but expect her to be? Is that what I hear? Or am I missing something?

[ForumPoster]

It is not infidelity per se that would upset me as the fact that he did not respect me enough to cover his tracks.

So if i had found out about his infidelity either by accident or via "kindness of others" .... hell knows no fury and all that.

Lina

[ForumPoster]

Originally Posted by barneyrubble

I think an affair of the heart would be more devastating to a wife than an affair of the penis. But I'm not a woman, so what do I know?

What I find most interesting about this thread are the few escorts here who judge and frown upon married men participating in this life, but have no problem being the accomplice with these men.

I think ladies here are not judging, they are expressing how they would feel if in their PERSONAL life they were betrayed by someone they though they are in exclusive monogamous relationship with.

Lina

[Sonja]

Listen, you are all cheaters, but don't expect your women to be? Really? You believe in a total double standard. Something that would break your HEARTS, EGO and MINDS- if your Women DID IT. You run around here thinking you are some kind of Studs, which most of you are NOT.
I want to say something really important to all you men. While you are screwing around here and ignoring your wife, there is some guy out there, who thinks she is totally HOT. It is your best friend, your neighbor or a co-worker. And she might just be fucking him.
She is much better than you at this deception, because women are better at lying. If you are blowing her off, she could likely be having sex with your best friend. Men and women are not THAT different. She also loves her family, but women do not take to being ignored. Even if she is tired of sex with YOU, it doesnt mean she is tired of passion, and sex with others. So, while you think late nights on this message board are all a 'get over' on your part.....If I were you I'd be paying much more attention to your own wife. And while you are in your man cave, what she is doing on her own cell. Wives also have 'the internet'.

[AdventureAdams]

I likey this new girl sonja, i remember postig a thread about how men would react if they found out their wife was seeing a male provider and it was like I was calling the sky green.

[alluringava]

Originally Posted by Sonja

Listen, you are all cheaters, but don't expect your women to be? Really? You believe in a total double standard. Something that would break your HEARTS, EGO and MINDS- if your Women DID IT. You run around here thinking you are some kind of Studs, which most of you are NOT.
I want to say something really important to all you men. While you are screwing around here and ignoring your wife, there is some guy out there, who thinks she is totally HOT. It is your best friend, your neighbor or a co-worker. And she might just be fucking him.
She is much better than you at this deception, because women are better at lying. If you are blowing her off, she could likely be having sex with your best friend. Men and women are not THAT different. She also loves her family, but women do not take to being ignored. Even if she is tired of sex with YOU, it doesnt mean she is tired of passion, and sex with others. So, while you think late nights on this message board are all a 'get over' on your part.....If I were you I'd be paying much more attention to your own wife. And while you are in your man cave, what she is doing on her own cell. Wives also have 'the internet'.

That's telling it like it is!! Thumbs up.