What would you do question?

[chevysw]

I have a question for everyone providers and gents.

I think this has been brought up before but here goes.

Would you see a provider you have had interest in before she was a provider and now you do have a bunch of similar people in common?
Part of me wants to see this women and part of me says don't take the chance she may slip and tell her friends and there's a chance it can get back to you.

I do this hobby with caution. I never will do an outcall at my home. I usually park a block or two away from the providers location just incase some I know sees me.

I don't post much but figured this will get some conversations going.

[DDarkness]

Hmmm interesting. I'll say right off that I am divorced and didn't hobby out of respect for my relationship BUT I didn't have a good sex life with my ex, as a matter of fact it was nonexistent for the last several years of our marriage, and that is one of the many reasons we split up.

I too have been hobbying for awhile I can honestly say that I have run into a similar situation but the prospect of things getting back to those around me prevented me from taking the plunge. In general though, and in your case, I have to hope that provider wouldn't share any information because it puts her at risk as well but the reality is YOU are the one who has a great deal to lose!

GP, NormalBob, Whosdair and many others have shared sound wisdom with me and others on the board and I think that I can paraphrase what many of them have said ... err on the side of caution and if it doesn't feel right or if that little voice in the back of your head is telling you to be cautious ... LISTEN and don't do it!

Sometimes the little head effects our ability to think clearly. But IMHO ... the risk is too great!

Thats just my $0.02

[LynnT]

Originally Posted by chevysw

Would you see a provider you have had interest in before she was a provider and now you do have a bunch of similar people in common?

I personally wouldnt, too small of a world/circle. Stick to ladies that dont run in your circle so to speak.. In your area there is an abundance of ladies. Think with the big head. She may have less to lose than you.. all one has to say is guess what i heard.. We all know rumors and hear say can cause serious problems for people.

Ive passed up clients, you can never trust what one will say to another..

Always trust your gut, you posted because your gut is telling you no..

[Guest091813]

I think it totally depends on the ladies personality as you knew her prior to this biz..usually people do not change their personalities..understand..if she screens she will know all your info and know that ya'll knew each other..so that kinda leaves the ball in her court..

now there is always a chance she may talk about it..but then thats just putting her biz out in the street and will blow the whole being discreet thing...sooo thats totally something to take into consideration...and if thats the case..does anyone wanna see a lady like that?

i dont know...i have seen posts in the past in regards to this...some good..some bad..

like i said totally depends on the woman and how she handles her biz..

as always glad i could help..lol..

[chevysw]

I've pretty much came to the same conclusion of actually listening to the big head.
It's always covered my ass in most situations.

Just wanted to ask to see what others have done and get their opinions on it.

[roscoe14850]

Only you know the answer to this, follow your gut. Everybody's approach to this is different, I'm not married, do outcalls to home and my boss has an army of skeletons in his closet that makes this look like schoolboy play. But I agree with most that if you move in the same circle things could go sideways too easily.

[offshoredrilling]

Well been there did that mmmmmm more than once. But I'm single and a sick puppy. How sick!! I once took a ex provider that I dated after, and a gal I had a ongoing affair with to lunch at the same time. Then after a few hours left so they could chat without me. It is strange at HS class reunion time. Oh the looks with nothing said.

mmmmm but you have a SO. mmmmmm depends on the provider. Ehhhh bad thought. Would the SO be up to some swinging with her?

errrrrr Right now I see 3 providers a lot. That really don't like each other. Now that was a bigger problem till(compared with first story) I got all 3 together for a drink once. And then walked away. Now each asks how the other two are doing when I see 1 of. And I think really hoping the others well.

mmmmmmm I would like to say yes go for it. But I have way to many "?'s" about you, the SO and the provider. mmmmm leaning "yes". But "no" maybe the right answer.

[qixerotic]

I would not. Too much risk and too easily avoided. There are a great number of super ladies that you could choose from

Also, should you meet your friend elsewhere, say a Christmas party or other event, I'd take pains to avoid any hint that I knew she provided. Don't make it awkward for either of you

[Jon Colden]

I think it makes perfect sense to WANT to see the woman, but it doesn't seem to make very much sense to act on that desire. I think it safer to keep this activity highly compartmentalized and completely separate from everything else. Easier said than done, but that should still be the goal.

[SweetElizabeth]

Originally Posted by chevysw

Would you see a provider you have had interest in before she was a provider and now you do have a bunch of similar people in common?

I would personally go ahead with visiting if I felt her reviews indicated a stellar professional reputation.

:-)

Good luck!

[guest032013]

Bust a nut on her ... Worry about consequences later !! Sounds too hot to pass up homie !!

[offshoredrilling]

MMMMM the more I think about this. Eat her good and pump away on her. She can not out you without outing self.