does hobbying make you less sensitive to love

[AngelaAspenXXX]

As a single porn chick that plans to find a love someday...

THIS THREAD IS AIMED *hopefully* To single clients

Heard:
" I have noticed that, since I started hobbying I am becoming less sensitive to love or even to pursue a real relationship. "

Has this occured to you ? Is this a common consequence of hobbying?


THIS THREAD IS AIMED To SINGLE clients.
Wait... did I already say that???

xo- Angela Aspen

[FWR]

I find it has caused a split in my personality. There are girls I care about. I enjoy talking with them, going out to dinner, spending time with them, but don't want them as a sexual partner. Then there are girls i want just for sex. A quick meeting. Have sex then part our ways.

[runswithscissors]

As a single guy who has played in Hobbyworld for quite some time, you learn to compartmentalize, as I am sure you do in your profession...

I have a large number of female friends, more so than male friends, who I am very comfortable with and have no illusions of sex or a relationship with besides great friends; however; my female friends love a challlenge sometimes and work aggressively to arrange dates for me. The dating scene is fun, challenging, sometimes I meet someone I think might be " THE ONE ", but move on for my own reasons not the fact that I hobby.

Like anything else, but especially in this strange little world, it is very easy to become jaded and "de-sensitized" if you let those emotions prevail; we have all heard the joke about the guy who wakes up in the morning and gets dressed, pulls out his wallet, leaves a wad of cash on the night stand, walks out to his car and then realizes that he is home and that was his wife....

On a positive note, I have meet some amazing professional ladies in my travels worldwide who have taught me a thing or two in the bedroom that has earned me "rave reviews" during my "civilian" dates....

It is a balancing act in this world as in any other; especially in your world, I wish you very good luck in your search for "THE ONE"...I have known many single gentlemen on review boards who have popped up and stated " I have found True Love"; you congratulate them, and they disapppear into their civilian world.

I still look out of the corner of my eye for "THE ONE", but hobbyworld has not made me less sensitive to love......

[RALPHEY BOY]

no, not at all,

I think if anything its made me better at sex!!!!

now since I like variety, chances of me falling in love and being with just one woman is slim to none..

[Can I Play Too???]

Why? Oh, why does this remind me of a country song? (I don't listen to the country genre regardless, but I digress.)... "Lookin' for Love in All the Wrong Places"

[LadiesFan]

No... not at all.
Sex and love are totally different.

LF

[Budman]

In my case it has made a monogamous relationship impossible. I have played in the hobby long before it was called a hobby. I was married for 20 years and played all along without ever getting caught. We divorced (not because of the hobby) and I swore I would never get married again. I continued to hobby and date. Eventually I found a great lady that I love and we married. She loves sex and is up for it more times than I am. The problem I have is I love variety. This may be a sex addiction. Who knows.

Your original question was "does the hobby make it harder to find love" I would say no but it does make it harder to focus on the relationship. I know I am always thinking about who I would like to see next. I think everybody will look at it differently.

[Guest020916]

What's love got to do with it? Got to do with it? Who needs a fart when a fart can be broken?

[AngelaAspenXXX]

I will throw my two cents in. I have to ad it as i feel like Eccie is my very own History Book

Im a single provider/porn in the biz for 6+ yrs... I aimed the thread to Clients but... Im crashing my thread now.

I Loved 2 that I didnt have to "Date" hunt down and audition, they just happened! One was a client that took me across the country to save me from a stalker. He saved me... no... really... The other, I told him to Fuck Off... but his pursuit was overwhelming: A fellow actor.

But to now date "normal"? Deeeeeear Lord! Im honestly scared. In my Hour Encounters, I know all the questions and all the answers. I have practiced over 100's... 1,000's of clients? So I know what is going to be said and talked about. I know how to draw the line with politics and religion then get their Weiner hard for round two. I know all the right answers.

But with real life dating with a "No sex" rule? I seem lost. As a former youth pastor myself practicing what I used to preach... Im as scared as a 6th grader. I feel so vulnerable.

So I would def say that I have had a false sense of security from the hobby.

Then there is the guy being vulnerable... I had one date that we hit it off.. on Date 2, he mentioned his 6th grade daughter sleeps with him. She had HUGE boobs for a 6th grader... FABULOUS! Daddy Issues... a pre-stripper. I couldn't handle HIS being vulnerable. The next guy travels 4 nights a week... so do most hobbyists... I couldn't take that. One date is platinum carded but every card is maxed out on our dates but I feel so comfortable with him... should I stick around? He wants to go to all the L.A. parties with me in July... and... I want to practice making babies....Red Flag? One guy is 28 and rich but doesn't know how to plan a date. I told him to Fuck Off today. One 45 year old tells me he only dates 18 year old strippers but is ready to settle down and compromise with a 29 year old porn star... AND double checks my I.D.? All of them... I dont know if they are telling me what I WANT to hear or if its the truth. They say they want to settle down and have a family and I feel like whipping out the polygraph test.

Their income? Another story! Are they one paycheck from broke? Do I make more than them? Where are the mansions that I used to strole around? I only see apartments and Nissans! awwwwww!


So has the hobby jaded me and dating? Hellllllllll yes! I screen clients well... now I want to see tax returns!!!!!

xo- Angela Aspen

[isomilf69]

I'm hoping that one day I will meet that perfect combination of Diane Lane and Rayvaness, sure it's a long shot but in the meantime I have the lovely ladies of ECCIE to play with...

[Guest020916]

what's the no sex rule with dating?
I usually end up having sex after romantic happy meal and whisked away in my, "chariot" aka beat up pick up truck (it's almost paid off). it's domestic, not Nissan. that's key!
let me know if you're interested in my romantic serenades.
No, seriously, that's a lame rule. let sparks fly if there are any. it sucks to have lame sex after denying it for dating purposes.

you give a good example of how hobby fantasy world spoils the "normal date."
reminds me of ray liotta at the end of Good Fellas.

[atxbrad]

Originally Posted by AngelaAspenXXX

So has the hobby jaded me and dating? Hellllllllll yes!

xo- Angela Aspen

I would have to agree with you. I have been single for a long time, make good money, and tire quickly of drama and bullshit from a relationship. This hobby has made it easy to take emotion out of sexuality, which is good for P4P but not so good in real life. I have found myself hooking up in real life and not making an effort to call the lady back the next day. Even not thinking about her is effortless. Since allowing myself to become jaded by this hobby I am more like a hunter when Im dating. Im hunting for the shortest distance to get laid instead of looking for a long term relationship. It seems as these days its just way too much work for a relationship and I have too much time invested in my selfish ways to focus on someone else.

[AngelaAspenXXX]

atxbrad:
I met a non-hobbiest Pro-Sugar Daddy to invest in one of my businesses.. (he only bangs out 18-21 year olds, Making me a Senior Citizen) and it is a TOTAL "Captain Save A Hoe" Program of Drama at his house!

Even this last week, 7 of his rings went missing... the night after his 19 yr old HOT BODIED Sugar Babe spoke of her stint in jail... and her brother... and her mother... and her father.... Um... HELLO!?

Ive tried to talk him into The Hobby...

Dating? The Hobby? Sugar Babies?

So on Behalf of the Men... I get it!!!

xo- Angela Aspen

[boujangles]

No hobbying makes me happy, I've been married for the last 33 year's and have never been caught. I think it makes my marriage stronger, because I love my wife dearly, she just does'nt enjoy sex as often as I need it. I hobby because of the variety of women that's out their.

[Damon Bradley]

Does hobbying make you less sensitive to love (?)

NO.

(I added the question mark, since you neglected to in your title.)