To talk or NOT to talk... that is the question

[simplyme]

I tend to be open for any discussion when dreaming. I don't over analyze what anybody says I don't have the time its not worth it but I will listen. Depending on how the provider is if I can "read" her then the subject of other ladies will come up. One provider I "saw" awhile back always told me that she likes this provider or that one for whatever reason. Conversely I always ask a provider "whats the weirdest thing anybody ever ask for. WOW some of you guys are WEIRD...... But she would never publicly comment on these nor would I. its all pillow talk, nothing worth wasting brain cells over.

[FireSerpent]

Autumn... I think I might get what you're saying here.

Let me be frank here... not all providers like or love each other. And the few who get along well may not always want to hear about a guy who is one of their regulars seeing someone else. Having said that, it is important to be kind of thick skinned about such things. There are some things you can change in this lifestyle and there are somethings you can not. And a man's desires are fairly fickle.

If I found out a provider put me in a holding pattern on a meeting because she was having fun with a client who was a regular of hers or whose company she enjoys, should I be upset about that? I can be... but it profits me nothing to do so. If she's really that important to me then I'll wait and see her. If she's not... its on to the next one.

Autumn, I respect where you're coming from here. Unfortunately, I doubt much will change from it. Guys are just as bad as women when it comes to gossip. And when it comes to making parallels between to providers who are close or know one another in some way... they're going to do it; quite often in a public forum such as the review board.

My advice, dust your shoulders off and keep your head up. I'm pretty sure there are things your extensive tallents are better served focusing on... Like me

[Autumnkc]

MsElena, Allie Kat and Fireserpent... You all pretty much nailed my 'issue' on the head. Thank you for you comments... they honestly helped a lot
xoxo!

[incognito isis]

Autumn, you are entitled to your opinion. I just don't think you should be getting all upset over clients seeing different women. If said client is cancelling on you at the last minute to see this other provider, OR doing NCNS's -thats a different story. But if a man sees you and then decides to see another lady, well, gravy. Men are hobbyists because they want variety. I had a nice fella meet me 4 times and then he went to someone else. I thought: weren't you gunna be my client forever? But then I realized, the clients want to test other waters and it was so silly of me to expect ANY loyalty in this biz. Remember, there is no loyalty in this biz. But if you do find an ongoing regular, cherish him with all you got while it lasts. Just realize that anything can stop at any minute. You can meet a dude on the street and fall in love and leave the biz forever, leaving your clients to find another lady. OR the clients can decide they can't hobby anymore- i.e. financial reasons, wife, fall in love, no time, too tired, health.

I quit the biz once, even tho I had a huge pool of regulars. When I told those regulars I could no longer see them, they acted upset like I was betraying them. It was odd and unexpected. I really thought they would pat me on the head and wish me good luck. But they expected me to be their provider forever! And they expected loyalty. I got different reactions from: since your leaving me high and dry it's your responsibility to find me a new lady, to were friends, can't you just see me? This isn't fair, I thought we were friends, your not supposed to dump your friends LOL to now that your quitting do you want to date?

I find it so interesting how people expect loyalty in this unloyal biz.