Have you ever been in love with a provider? tell us your story?

[incognito isis]

Originally Posted by Woody Long

About a year ago I met a visiting provider at a M&G and fell head over heals for her. Lust at first sight. We had the click and chemistry was right, we had several weekend dates that were perfect in every way. We lived 400 miles apart, and would meet at a location half way, or sometimes at my house, sometimes at hers twice a month for 6 or 7 months. A SB/SD thing. I wanted her to stop providing, and paid her a generous allowance, but she refused to stop advertising. We even discussed going into business together with her managing a B&B resort, but she could not handle her money, spent every cent and was broke by next week. I really wanted her get her life straightened out, catch up on taxes, pay off house, go to school, get legit. We had an exclusive relationship, but every time we couldn't keep a date, she would post an add, go off on a tour, and then call me a week later and want to get back together. I really thought we had something, but now realize she was only after my money. I tried to discuss my financial situation with her in light of the bad economy, and she took that as an excuse to bail, and end things in an ugly way. I made some mistakes as well, but this girl was just plain greedy. So be it. I have had this on my chest for some time, and need to get this out..... DON"T fall for a provider... It won't work. You cant help some one that doesn't want help. I dont know if all providers are as short sighted, but guy's, dont get emotionally involved with a provider on this board. It will cost you big. I never will again.

Sir, you are wrong. Not all providers are crap like the lady you had the arrangement with. If I met a decent man who didn't want to take advantage of me, who truely wanted to help me, by all means I would cherish that if IF the chemistry was there and we both truely liked eachother. I find that many men try to take advantage of me. They try to take from me as much as they can, not give. Whether that is soak my time without paying extra, or try to get free sex out of me, or use me as a pen pal. To be honest, I would settle down if I met a truely caring man who really wanted to help me out financially. I'm sorry to add the money issue there, but you need to bring something to the table. These rif raf clients who I've met want to date me, want me to give up escorting, but they're not offering to pay for my education or rent or utilities. Give me a break. I agree, you shouldn't fall in love in this hobbying world. But not all escorts are rif raf like the chick you dated.

[kezzer]

i have fallen in love with a wl , and have had a working lady fall in love with me . i do not know about other races , but i would avoid falling for an Asian wl
they are so keen on money they can never stop . i am english and live in england . split up with my ex then on a punt met this girl , her name was cherry or yoyo depending on if she was working or not . nether are her real name . i spent three years with her , good years too . she was very generous to me , always buying me expensive things , she payed for everything . so she was not after my money , because i do not have any . the uk at the moment is very hard to get ahead .
any way we were together a long time , and all she would go on about was marridge , but i said i did not wish to marry so she left the uk and went back too hong kong . but three months latter she came back too britain to be with me . so i agreed that if she did not work again , then we could marry . we had to wait a bit because i was still married too my ex . any way for a while she lived in london and i lived about 60 miles away . well things just got worse , i suspected she might be working again , because when i visited her she always had so much money , i would question her about it but she swore that she was working in a restaurant . then one day someone sent me messages saying she was working , probably another working girl with a grip . but still she promised it was not true . i did not really want too lose her , as by this time i was really in love with her . but my doubt made the relationship rocky so she suggested she move in with me and i accepted . but all was not well she could not find legitimate work near my home as she had no work permit .
anyway things got worse with my doubt and when her family in china had a crisis , she decided to go home . she told me that she was going to china. but something she had said 2 years earlier just led me to feel , that she was actually in sydney . it is funny on the day she left hong kong to go to sydney , 21 September 2010 , she sent me a text saying just off too china , don't worry . and for some reason i just knew something was wrong .
anyway she ended up in sydney , and working first at 280 hornsby then at 22 brodie street rydalemere . but all along she was telling me that she was in china . after a month of constant arguing and fighting , i said if you are really are in china , then prove it . she even tried to fool me by leaving a phone in hong kong that she would send a text too for me and the friend would forward it too me and vise verse with my replies . when she called me the number would come up private . she thought she had covered all the bases to trick me . around october time 2010 , i had had enough , so i said i was going too jump on a plane and go see her in china , she still persisted in saying she was in china and not sydney . book a ticket arrange too go and see her , then i little truth and more lies . i got a text saying because i am so unreasonable and we had argued so much that she was now in sydney , she said she arrived today . i said fine , as i did not believe her , i said just show me the stamp in her passport on msn , that way i will know that if it has today's date , that i was wrong and sorry for suspecting her . but guess what , the passport was stolen with a bag soon after arriving in sydney . you sydney lot a such crooks ha.
but she still swore even on her own daughters life that she was not a wl . just working in a restaurant trying to help her family . and that she would return in a few months so we could marry . well i started to look on the Internet too check out the punting scene in sydney , see if i could find her out . eventually i found a picture that i was sure was her even though you could not see her face , but she has a very rear bracelet and i could see it . so questioned her again , still denial . she just would not admit a thing , it did not matter how hard i tried or how much evidence i had she would not admit a thing , and all her friends helped her with the deceit . i just did not know what too believe . i did not think it was possible for someone too look you in the eyes and lie so easily and so convincingly , i thought i was going mad .
eventually she came home in febuary , with many things , we talked and talked still denial , she would admit nothing and had fabricated an entirely different life for herself in sydney . we set a date and bought tickets to go too hong kong too marry . but she had brought back a new samsung ipad thing from sydney , and i had just changed my internet supplier that day , we were lying in bed and she wanted too go on the internet on this thing but did not know which one was mine after it had searched for all available wireless connections , so she handed it to me to help . guess what i saw when she gave it too me , the wireless connection for 22 brodie street rydalemere , the place that i had seen the picture that i was sure was her , but she swore was not . then i knew . now she is gone for good even though she still sends messages and calls everyday several times . the stupid thing is if she had been honest , we could have gone on , i would not have married her but we could have gone on .
so let that be a lesson to any of you who are thinking of having a wl as a girlfriend , i can recommend it , it is great fun , you learn so much , the sex is out of this world . but do not under any circumstances fall in love with one . they can never give up there desire for nice expensive things and the comforts of life so they can never give up that life . it gives them more than any man can .

[Naomi4u]

Well I'll like to commend the men that actually have the BALLS to post that they have fallen in love with a provider. The honesty is truly refreshing. Kezzer, Welcome! :-)

[ilsjs]

Only few people (perhaps, only the ladies we have seen) can physically identify us (male posters) ... haha

[Doove]

Originally Posted by Naomi4u

The only guy I wouldn't mind falling in love with is Doove.

Hearing stuff like this just never gets old!

[shorty]

This is why I won't do overnights or weekend getaways with a provider. An overnight or weekend session is alittle more intimate to me.

[Naomi4u]

Originally Posted by shorty

This is why I won't do overnights or weekend getaways with a provider. An overnight or weekend session is alittle more intimate to me.

Totally. I can see that. I found that all the guys that fell for me saw me during multi-hour / multi-day engagements. There's no way they can hang around that long and not fall in love... lol. Must be a strong or gay man to be able to do that and not catch feelings hehe.

[sixxbach]

Originally Posted by incognito isis

. To be honest, I would settle down if I met a truely caring man who really wanted to help me out financially. I'm sorry to add the money issue there, but you need to bring something to the table. These rif raf clients who I've met want to date me, want me to give up escorting, but they're not offering to pay for my education or rent or utilities.

What ever happened to doing things for yourself. I know you do with escorting but to say you would only give it up if the guy could take care of you is absurd. I would hate to be have my existence, livelihood, and happiness depend on someone else.....

sixx

[Tiffany Cums]

Originally Posted by IDMT

Yes, I've been in love with several...usually one or two hours at a time.

I must admit, my answer is the same!

I do fall in love with some, and I do not see it as a problem.... as long as it is kept within the boundries!

[Ed Highlight]

Originally Posted by Naomi4u

HeLL NO! Never!

The only guy I wouldn't mind falling in love with is Doove... but I will keep dreaming

Originally Posted by Doove

Hearing stuff like this just never gets old!

Originally Posted by Naomi4u

..... There's no way they can hang around that long and not fall in love... lol. Must be a strong or gay man to be able to do that and not catch feelings hehe.

Well, it just stings a little....I sure hope I'm not gay - but I guess we'll have to find that out won't we Naomi? Geez, if I am gay I'm gonna need new clothes....

[Guest101811-4]

Originally Posted by Tiffany Cums

I must admit, my answer is the same!

I do fall in love with some, and I do not see it as a problem.... as long as it is kept within the boundries!

Look! There's one of them now!

[Ed Highlight]

Originally Posted by IDMT

Look! There's one of them now!

I saw that one coming from here!!

[elgato111]

Falling in love with a provider for a hobbyist is a part of this business, but only a small part for many of us. Yes, if one spends a lot of time with a provider and they make a connection of sorts there is always the chance that one or both of them may want something a little deeper between them.

I'm not ashamed to admit that it has happened to me. I met a provider about 2 years ago and we began seeing each other almost every week. And yes, I fell in love with her without any real trying on my part.

But we both know that the odds against a deep close relationship are huge, like 1 in 1000 of succeeding. But as long as I continue to see her I will love her simply because she has taken the time to get to know me and let me get to know more about her than any other provider has in the past. We do "fit" together very well but neither of us really know if we would still have the same relationship outside her business and are too scared to explore the possibility.

So, yes I am one of the few here that will admit to wanting more with her, but I am not stupid, it is a business for her and it really is hard to separate business from private, probably more for her than for me. So I will just continue to enjoy what we have until either she or I think it is time to move on.

[Reya Sunshine]

Are you currently employed sixx? If so then you rely on your employer for all the things you listed as well. Unless you live on a one man self sustainable farm and grow all your own food etc. then you are dependent on others for your existence as well.
This is a constant theme for you- the alleged inability of females to be financially independent of the males they date- it makes you seem resentful about something...not to be a bitch but are you worried and angry on some level about your ability to provide financially if you ever do settle down with a girl? Are you feeling like that is what is really holding you back in your relationships?


Just a thought, not an accusation of any kind.

Originally Posted by sixxbach

What ever happened to doing things for yourself. I know you do with escorting but to say you would only give it up if the guy could take care of you is absurd. I would hate to be have my existence, livelihood, and happiness depend on someone else.....

sixx

[Guest101811-4]

Originally Posted by Ed Highlight

I saw that one coming from here!!