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arialemonde · 03-18-2011, 02:40 PM

Hello,

I had a very nice gentleman come see me today. He is a member here and on P411.

I will not mention who it is, this isnt to embarrass or hurt this person. Rather, Im bringing this up because I want to see how others would handle this.

There was a slight issue. This was a very difficult situation for me.

How do you deal with someone who has scheduled with you that has a skin issue and didnt mention it before seeing you. There was nothing listed on his p411 profile, it said N/A by the skin condition question.

I am counting on this appointment yet I wasnt comfortable giving the level of service I normally do because of the skin issue.

How would you handle this situation?

MrSmith8691 · 03-18-2011, 04:18 PM

If its that serious, its not like the guy isn't aware of it. Do you think he was disappointed in the "level of service" he received?

arialemonde · 03-19-2011, 12:11 AM

Im sure he was disappointed. He asked me what the problem was and I explained to him I was afraid of getting what he had. He skin looked like ringworm. He had sores all over. Honestly, I havent encountered this issue before with a client.
I felt very uncomfortable. Had I know this before hand I wouldnt have scheduled the session. I wouldnt want to waste his time or mine.
Being a traveling lady, I count on my appointments hence why I didnt ask him to leave. Given the situation, I tried to be sensitive to his feelings.
I guess this is a no win situation.
I couldnt offer him the complete service he was looking forward to due to my fear.

MuffinMan · 03-19-2011, 12:37 PM

Sounds like you handled the situation with honesty and integrity.
Well done, Ariale.

MM

dbuddy · 03-19-2011, 06:11 PM

Hey Arialemode, I'm sorry you were placed in that situation, In the hobby, "sores" are always a concern and should be disclosed by either party before an encounter. Warmly, Buddy

Dragon_inc · 03-22-2011, 06:54 PM

The final act of screening is when you meet face to face and if it is a no go for any reason then the time to part is then....

incognito isis · 03-22-2011, 07:14 PM

I had a situation once. I met up with a morbidly obese man. He was huge. When he got naked I saw a pinkish rash on his private parts. I asked him whats that? He said it was fat funk, i.e. what really fat people get from sweating under all the rolls of fat. I told him we can't be intimate. He was cool with everything and understanding.

Horn^I^Dog · 03-23-2011, 06:54 AM

IMHO, if there's any concern about the spreading of "something" it's best to politely refrain from bcd activities. That goes for both sides of the condom.

HID

Guest050715-1 · 04-09-2011, 01:23 PM

If he had sores, I would have been very polite, but I could not be intimate with him. I have too much at risk.

I have had appointments with double amputees, hugely overweight men, men that were so shy to the point of stuttering and they all have something beautiful in them that I can find attractive. I do not believe in rejecting someone based on their physical characteristics, but possible disease is a different matter.

When I travel, I have to have a certain dollar amount pre-booked and at least one of those engagements has to be an ATF or I cancel. I'm kind of superstitious. There are certain gentlemen I consider my good luck charms

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thighhighfreek · 04-10-2011, 12:57 PM

My hats off to ya darling. Thats why I have the ultimate in respect for you ladies out there. Yall are doing what you have to do and yall make the best of the situation. Also , the fact is that yall are honest about it. I just split with a ten year relationship because my significant other was running around the last ten years behind my back. I have respect for truth.