To Text or Not Text?

[AlyssaWest]

So my gf and I were discussing an issue that came up. So I’m curious…when you have a scheduled time to meet with a provider and you get to her apt or hotel…do you call or text when you arrive or expect her to text you at that agreed upon time?


Also say if it’s 13 min before the appt and she notifies you she needs an extra 10 minutes to finish makeup since your the first of the day…does she need to assume you are there at that time and text you?

Would you sit in your car for 25 minutes without texting or calling the girl for the room number or an update?

I’m so curious to find out how you think this should go!

[alanbourdilliontreherne]

I usually text that I'm on my way and an ETA. Then text again in the parking lot. Never had a problem.

[ntxguy]

It depends on the lady. From what I’ve heard you have problems being on time so that might cause some to not even try to see you because it seems to be a pattern.

[AlyssaWest]

Man I really only have one guy who did write me a great review but got his little feelings hurt and I told him I could never see him again so now he comments on every new revue I have to try to hurt me. But sure I’m usually on time to 10 min late. You know brushing my teeth, putting lipstick on, or my outfit and heels. It’s crazy the spike of people not showing up to their appointments has become that I wait until you’re there and put my outfit on. But honestly I haven’t had a problem at all getting dates! I mean they shouldn’t have showed us girls on every movie and tv show that when their date gets there they send the sister or mom down to get the door and double check that they look alright. Blame Hollywood lol
But honestly I’m not hurting at all! Otherwise how could I be In this industry so long constantly getting new reviews (I mean other places ofc because the support eccie gives isn’t to the providers, only y’all
But since I got a new review, well y’all got back on my sight

Any anyone who won’t wait 10 min for a girl to be her best and completely ready to rock your world well he doesn’t deserve my soul that I’m selling

[GregN]

Originally Posted by AlyssaWest

But sure I’m usually on time to 10 min late.

So late, and you're special enough to wait for, but we are not special enough to start preparing earlier for - got it. Look, things happen and if it happened once, ok, no biggie. Repeatedly, yeah, why put up with that?

[AlyssaWest]

lol I’m basically ready…an outfit and some lipstick is not me saying a shower, let me get to my room, let me shave, wait let me put all my makeup on. Like be for real! And I give plenty of notice to wait. Maybe send a deposit and guarantee the girl you won’t flake! That’s an idea too! And repeatedly…come on babe it’s one person over and over saying it. Like come on!

[ISpeakTruth]

If you notified the client that you needed more time to get ready, it is now your responsibility to let the client know when you're ready. Unless of course they tell your they're not interested after you changed the time. In my opinion, if you as the provider are not ready at the proper time or need to change it for any reason, you now own the responsibility of letting them know to come in or come up.

[AlyssaWest]

But I notify you before the appt…I’ve never met you before…how would I know you have arrived?

[ISpeakTruth]

How would you know that they hadn't arrived.You're the one who changed the time. It's now on you to say "Ok I'm ready." See the way you want it, you have all the power. You want to change the time and still not have any of the responsibility. Judging from what I've read about you from you're reviews, only one of which is from this year and it is from a guy in another state, this is not the first time you've had timing issues. You self admit you're 10 minutes late at times and definitely this time. I know when a provider changes times last minute, my radar goes off, especially if it's a first-time meet. How would the client know you're ready unless you let him know? You're the one changing the time. Compliments for giving him the heads up before the appointment, but if he did not cancel then, you've got to let them know when you're ready. Again just my opinion.

[643_DP]

I can’t speak for other guys, but I give an ETA, then a heads up once I’m there. I would like to think that once I’m there, she is ready for me to come up and I get the info and head up. If she’s not ready then she needs to say come up, and when you say that no more delays with info. Room info is given and no waiting at the door.

To me, making someone wait outside is just a red flag. When you host at a apartment maybe it’s less noticeable but I like to make it as under the radar as possible. When you show up at a friends place, you already have the apt # or hotel # before you park.. if the chick isn’t ready, I would often feel much safer waiting in the room. Also be somewhat quick to open the door!

[GregN]

This may be where you are running into issues. You think almost ready, and only 10 minutes late, is the same as meeting on time. It's not.

Originally Posted by AlyssaWest

lol I’m basically ready…an outfit and some lipstick....

Maybe American Airlines scheduling department is hiring.

[jan-w]

I always arrive about 5 minutes before the agreed upon appointment time. Then I text the lady about 3 minutes before that time to let her know I've arrived. I would like a response within 5 minutes. If I don't get a response, I'll send another text. If I still don't get a response, I'll wait a few minutes more, so about 10-12 minutes total. If still no response I leave and don't come back. If she does respond and says she needs more time, I'll wait a bit but not more than 5 minutes or so. When guys wait around for a long time, it just encourages tardiness. I've seen some guys post where they waited a half hour or more and I just shake my head.

[Jamaman]

I think the key is simply communicating. Life happens and sometimes precise schedules just don't work. I text confirming and to inform that I will message if delayed in route. DFW traffic can be unreliable. I usually arrive 10-15 minutes early but will not text my arrival until about 5 minutes before scheduled time. I have patiently waited if "10 more minutes" is needed to get ready.

[sweet_k47]

[Big b.o.b.1]

The men are also taking the time to get ready and plan for traffic to be there on time or a few minutes early, so I expect the lady who doesn’t have to drive anywhere to quit playing on her phone and be ready. The one receiving the money should be ready on time for the ones spending the money.

And no, I’m not waiting 25 minutes for anybody, that’s disrespecting the value of my time. Some ladies value their time at $400/hour, so are they going to prorate that and give me back $166.66? Of course not.