Important to establish personal connection?

[pqaz]

So I'm curious, how important is it to establish a back and forth with a provider/jon?

I have found that the personal connection and text/email conversation I have with a provider and getting to know them ends up only enhancing the experience for me. It also greatly increases the chances of repeat business.

One of my favorite providers that I established a connection with and therefore enjoyed my sessions with her was Christine Kennedy. We had a great time...what a hot woman! We tested back and forth etc and got to know each other a little bit and really went a long way in making a session more comfortable and enjoyable for both parties in my opinion.

Now I have seen ads that read "don't contact me unless you're ready to schedule" "No time wasters" and I get it, to a point. But for me personally I want the session to feel more like friends than just a hi/bye.

I would like to get ya'll thoughts and what you guys prefer or what you don't necessarily like. Thanks!

Paul

[victoryformation]

Establishing a rapport with a provider is an art form!
Sweet-talking is an art form!
(Sweet-taking can go a long way in establishing a rapport with a provider!)

[ben dover]

Good luck with all that... It's a transaction, nothing more. They will play along til they get your greenbacks then..... ghost you til you make the next appointment.

[KCFalcon77]

Originally Posted by pqaz

So I'm curious, how important is it to establish a back and forth with a provider/jon?

I have found that the personal connection and text/email conversation I have with a provider and getting to know them ends up only enhancing the experience for me. It also greatly increases the chances of repeat business.

One of my favorite providers that I established a connection with and therefore enjoyed my sessions with her was Christine Kennedy. We had a great time...what a hot woman! We tested back and forth etc and got to know each other a little bit and really went a long way in making a session more comfortable and enjoyable for both parties in my opinion.

Now I have seen ads that read "don't contact me unless you're ready to schedule" "No time wasters" and I get it, to a point. But for me personally I want the session to feel more like friends than just a hi/bye.

I would like to get ya'll thoughts and what you guys prefer or what you don't necessarily like. Thanks!

Paul

Establishing "a connection" is great and worthwhile, BUT. I'd add most ladies want to "get to know you" before that really happens. They're not going to open up to you on anything meaningful before you've met, not should they. I mean think about it. WHY would a lady share anything with someone they've never met? How does she know your not just wasting her time,, and your even going to show up? Now once you've had an encounter, or several you can both decide just how much you want to share. I've had some VERY meaningful connections with wonderful ladies in the hobby, but they have all developed over time, and mutual willingness to know each other deeper. Its not for everyone, and certainly not for someone you don't know at all from both sides.

[KCFalcon77]

Originally Posted by ben dover

Good luck with all that... It's a transaction, nothing more. They will play along til they get your greenbacks then..... ghost you til you make the next appointment.

Initially for most, as it should be. Where you go from there depends on how each party responds to the connection or lack of one.

[victoryformation]

I've yet to meet a woman who wasn't receptive to sweet-talk!
And, I've yet to meet a woman who was receptive to constructive criticism.

[Fizley]

It's a business transaction. You plop down $$$ for requested service.

[ICU 812]

Originally Posted by Fizley

It's a business transaction. You plop down $$$ for requested service.

Sure . . .money talks and the Hobby is all about money.

However, I have always had a good experiences when intersecting with providers as just regular folks. I never dicker (ok, so its. pun) over donations versus menu and often I "tip" in advance< " . . .just in case we run a little over time . . ." . For an Indy that could be 20% in cash. For a SW it might just be a coffee card. The idea is that I 9might) want to see her gain, and if so I want her to want to see me again.

The last thing I want is for the provider to feel she is being manipulated, resent it and rush through the session. This has worked in most Hobby scenarios from quality Indy to AMP girls and even the occasional SW.

Treat 'em like people you know ow and the session will be as good as it can be between you, that provider and in that Hobby scene.

[Wile E Coyote]

Communication before setting the appointment is critical. For me, it has determined if I wanted to spend my money on them to see for a session or not. This is especially true when you have not seen the provider BCD before.

Sure there are lots of providers who do not want to be contacted unless you are setting an appointment, but the fact is, you would not have initiated the contact if you did not have intentions of setting an appointment in the first place. A time waster is someone who sends random texts or wants to chit chat and never set an appointment.

Look at it this way....If you run a company and hiring an employee to do a specific job for you, do you look through the applications of new people and hire one that has a pretty resume? No. Then why do providers think that you need to contact and immediately set an appointment with her because she has pretty pictures in an ad? You have to interview them.

[countrygirl0401]

Okay guys i think there is a misunderstanding when a provider puts "No timewasters" or "only contact me when your ready to see me". The reason I say this is because I am a friendly provider and dont kind the back and forth but I am guilty of putting this on my ads. I can't speak for everyone I can only speak for myself but for me I put that on my is because I have had gentleman contact me and call me for months and never attempt to set up a date. So my question is how long should you text back and forth before it is considered wasting someone's time?

[Wile E Coyote]

Depends on how the chat between you two is going.

Speaking for myself, I only take about 2-3 exchanges of texts before I know I want to set an appointment if she is someone I have seen before. So no real time frame as the time between texts varies. But, when it comes to a provider I have not seen BCD before, the number of exchanged texts is going to be larger in quantity.

When the conversation turns to some subject that has nothing to do with setting an appointment, then it is beginning to be time wasting. Any guy who contacts a provider and does not set an appointment is a time waster. Providers are not your friends to chat with or make how goes it calls to. The ladies are here for business, not because you are lonely and want someone to talk to. Everyone should know the difference. If you feel he is not going to set, let the guy know you need to run and tell him to not hesitate in the future to contact you to set an appointment as you probably got all the other inquiring stuff he wanted out of the way.

Personally, I am not a big texter, so if it was a provider I wanted to see then or in the future, I would either set the appointment then or if I see her as one I would like to get naked with in the future after a few exchanges, I will let her know I appreciate her time but am still conversing with a few other ladies to see who is best at that time for me and I will definitely contact her in the future because I want to see her.

During those texts/calls exchanges, I am pretty good in determining that if I want to really see and spend my money on them, many times, well before one on one communication begins. It can be their online board(s) persona how they treat others, their donation service menu/levels, where their incall is located and last but not certainly not least, their pictures--are they full body or do they try to deceive by posting partial body or covered body shots to hide something.

As far as the providers who I would not see if they paid me to see them, I definitely would not be exchanging texts with or contacting those ladies for any reason!