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I don't think so. He's just new and curious. I just want to squash the hazard before it bites him. Curiosity about our end of things is probably normal, but it won't make him anyone's ATF to go grilling the ladies about their personal lives or business plans.
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The mutherfucker prefaced this shit by saying he hardly hobbies and doesnt' see himself doing it. You're ASSUMING that he may want to become a provider's ATF. So with that you brought the hammer. But for what? He like many probably don't give a fuck.
You missed where I said the consumer has the right to WONDER. Asking would be tactless and I had a feeling you'd be sloppy enough to fall for the bait. Ie..I wonder if the Kroger I spend $100 a week on groceries will eventually get a bigger wine section, I wonder with all the money I'm paying these mechanics, would one day there be shorter lines. Oh here's a good one, I wonder where are my tax dollars going?
"I meant to point out that these inquiries
often come from a curiosity rooted in judgment."
"Often" isn't 100%. So even if it's 70%, 30% of men who've ever spent time with a woman seeking compensation for her time can pretty much view your snap back as you making a total ass of yourself.
I bring up sugar babies because it's all part of this business. Learning about women who are willing to "date" men for money is all ROOTED from the same place. I'm speaking for myself. After I finish with a provider and I'm asking about her life I'm not judging. It's conversation. Here's a big question - why the fuck am I hobbying? I get that quite a bit b/c I don't appear to "fit the mold" of a typical hobbyist. I bring up SB/SD because it's proof that these arrangements can stem from a level of care that is genuine. You're a woman, I'm a man. I know what runs through our brains when it comes to this.
Finding love again. He's basically curious as to whether a woman is desensitized.
Stop trying to dismiss the whole "financial advisor" example I brought up. It was brought up to illustrate how presumptious you came off. The comparison had to be made.
He never said he was giving out advice but you jumped the gun assuming that that was what he was offering. Re-read what the dude post. Dude just wondered if retirement, health care, etc.. is some shit you girls think about. A yes or no answer and he's probably on his way just data collecting.
The shit you're doing is nothing different to us as the exotic dancer, the play boy bunny, the sports illustrated swimsuit model, the sexy actress who's kissing all kinds of men on tv. We're buying the sex being sold.
Sure some guys are walking hypocritical biggoted idiots but you are wrong to jump on this dude the way you did. To assume that the percentage of dudes who you FEEL think this way is significant enough to throw a blanket on the entire bunch of "inquirers/wonderers" is extremely wreckless on your part.
Like seriously, we're all HOEING together. It makes for a better time if we're doing standing missionary against the glass walls of this glass house instead of breaking out the bag of pebbles.
Below I've highlighted where you've pretty much brought up and jumped on moot points that neither I or the OP mentioned.
And you as a woman is qualified to know what's going on in the head of a dick carrying, disposable cash carrying MALE..
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So much of your post was either invalid (no one was talking about sugar babies, no one hired a financial advisor, etc) or just ignorant. I did not intent to label him in particular as judgmental. I meant to point out that these inquiries often come from a curiosity rooted in judgment. I meant to speak in generalities... I thought I made that clear, but perhaps I didn't. Just my observations based on years of having the same conversations and lectures from gents on a semi-daily basis. Pretty sure I'm qualified to speak on where these questions USUALLY stem from. How many men have YOU had these conversations with? Do you think it is enough to have the same pool of information from multiple and varied sources as myself? If so, perhaps I would give your stance a bit more consideration. If you disagree, well, that's like, your opinion, man.
But this part I find hilarious. Have you ever actually asked someone what they intend to do with the money you paid them for a service? Like a waitress... when you tip her do you ask "So what are you going to spend this tip on?" Or the guy that changes your oil? Or the massage therapist? I sincerely doubt it. And if you have, they probably thought you were a crazy person. What happens to "your" money after it leaves your hand is none of your business, as long as you received the service or product for which you paid. If you believe otherwise, you're delusional.
Edit: I'm starting to realize that an adult conversation without sugary kisses and heaps of giggles seems to offend a lot of "hobbyists'" extremely delicate sensibilities. I'll try to remember to soften my thoughts and opinions for your amazingly fragile ears and eyes with loads of smileys and lols and other niceties. Women speaking like a grown up to other grown ups appears to be out of fashion.
Here, I'll try another version of my initial post that I think you'll find more acceptable:
OMG loooool, no we haven't given up on love. We look for it every day. Could it be you, sexy?  Won't you rescue me and take me away from all of this?!
And yes, I could totally use some good advice on my finances, hehe. I don't know why I can't get a handle on them myself. I just LOVE SHOES!!! LOL.
I personally don't mind at all if a near stranger asks me completely inappropriate personal questions and offers me unsolicited advice. It's so endearing and makes me feel like you really respect me as an equal.  Hope to meet you soon! Let me know what you'd like me to spend your donation on. I want to make sure you consider it a good investment. Hope you're having a wonderful week, handsome! xoxo
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