so how would one handle a no connnection apt?

[malwoody]

Originally Posted by OLindsay

than I tell him my 30 minute fee even after he booked a 60 minute session and politely ask him not to review me because we both know the connection was not there.

I don't see how you could be any more fair IMO...for those who think you should return all of the donation, you have time and expense invested as well and deserve compensation.

[OLindsay]

Originally Posted by Gemma34

OK, first of all, the no connection thing that you are describing Lindsay sounds like a feeble attempt to cut the date in half and be able to schedule more appointments. Your job is to make that gentleman feel as comfortable as possible. If his lil man part is shy and slinky-like, then focus on kissing his neck and nibbling on his ears, rubbing his thighs softly, hell!- give him a fbsm with some erotic oils...don't focus on his slippery slinky not cooperating. It doesn't mean it doesn't feel good to him. As a professional, your job is to make him forget about his problems and for you to nonchalantly focus on his weaknesses. NOT give up and say-"sorry guy, we have no connection, here is half of your money back. Soft pecker does not = NO connection. Besides you are indirectly teling us it's all about the money and that you can decide at any time there is no connection and you reserve the right to end the session early. BOO BISH!

Then you decide to up and bounce after initially starting this thread. Then you come back, yet again, asking us another stupid question and bounce again. If you need brushed up on how to connect with your clients during a limp bj or with communication skills, then work on that. But you have not chosen to participate in your own thread yet twice now, with 2 different questions. I think your screening, or lack there of, is what is driving you to ask these types of questions. You are smarter than that. So Fuckin What! he has a gummy worm that stays gummy the entire date, but if you focus on just making him feel good and appreciated (as he did just drop 200 bucks on you) then what other kind of connection is needed??? You job is to be a pleaser, a sales person, and a attentive friend who doesn't stress him out about his quick nut or his limp peter. And a moaning pornstar fuck face doesnt necessarily mean he is NOT enjoying it. My sd hasnt been able to get his slippery one-eye hard for years but i lick, nibble and play with that gummy cock and he feels plenty good. sexy murmurs, soft kisses and a sensual touch from me most certainly keeps him pleased. You are seriously hurting your image as a gfe provider by suggesting this new business tactic. NOT EVERY guy can turn his cock into a rock hard table leg! Focus on what you can do to please him. There is so much more to 'a connection' than keeping a hard cock in your mouth. Incorporate your other skills as a professional to keep this gentleman pleased. Do you know how shitty you have made a guy feel by giving up on his squishy gummy-like dick?? IMO, your thread, which you've had no participation in, has done you no justice as a professional hooker...

If you want to instill these new rules into your services offered, then by all means do that. But be clear in doing so. For someone that just got over being sick and had a client post an OLindsay fundraiser thread, this will certainly not add to that jar of donations..... If this is your new marketing strategy, then offer only bng's for hard cocks only. Because one post you are begging for clients to help with money donations and now you want to focus on only 30 min sessions for whatever reasons.... Makes no fuckin sense to me. I am not trying to just knock you or your marketing strategies, but please pay attention to what you are doing. Because this thread is getting more confusing and contradicting as you post more questions..... Of course, this is just another hookers' humble opinion.

Gem

you certainly are entitled to your opinion on this thread which is why I said what I said in the beginning. however in your words as you said
" sounds like a feeble attempt to cut the date in half and be able to schedule more appointments"
you are very incorrect about this because, I have already met 5 of the gentleman on this post that can defiantly let anyone know that I don't focus on the time while I am with them because I do care about our privacy and our safety, infact when they schedule an apt with me I DO NOT WATCH NO CLOCK cause their time with me is about them and what they came for, so if its an hour and a half later before our date ends so be it, that's my time im giving away with no expectations of them giving me more money I do NOT RUSH any of my dates and never will.
And im not sure where you get your info on my screening process but I do speak with my dates during my screening process and we have always clicked however this one during the date was not feeling right which I did not know at the time so yes I did end it because I am not a time waster. he recently has contacted me just to let me know that what happened that day was do to his health and he didn't realize that he had something wrong till he went to the doctor and found it out ,then he proceeded to ask me to schedule him for a 2 hour apt for this week to make up for that day so thanks again for you humble opinion Gem.

[Mizzou82]

Originally Posted by Mizzou82

I know that donations are for your time and companionship, but the guy who you did not connect with is there to have sex with you. You certainly don't have to have sex with anyone you don't want to. If you don't want to FS with him, you should give him all his $ back. JMHO

Maybe I misspoke by saying "FS". Your posts don't give any details and I certainly understand that. If any provider sat and had a drink with me and then told me she would not have sex before anything started, I would expect my money back. If we had started BCD and "both" felt that it should end due to no connection, I would expect to pay something and your deal would have been fine. If we had started activities and you alone decided to stop before FS, I would want all my $ back and would not do a review if asked not to. JMO

[bigcockpussylicker]

Originally Posted by OLindsay

you certainly are entitled to your opinion on this thread which is why I said what I said in the beginning. however in your words as you said
" sounds like a feeble attempt to cut the date in half and be able to schedule more appointments"
you are very incorrect about this because, I have already met 5 of the gentleman on this post that can defiantly let anyone know that I don't focus on the time while I am with them because I do care about our privacy and our safety, infact when they schedule an apt with me I DO NOT WATCH NO CLOCK cause their time with me is about them and what they came for, so if its an hour and a half later before our date ends so be it, that's my time im giving away with no expectations of them giving me more money I do NOT RUSH any of my dates and never will.
And im not sure where you get your info on my screening process but I do speak with my dates during my screening process and we have always clicked however this one during the date was not feeling right which I did not know at the time so yes I did end it because I am not a time waster. he recently has contacted me just to let me know that what happened that day was do to his health and he didn't realize that he had something wrong till he went to the doctor and found it out ,then he proceeded to ask me to schedule him for a 2 hour apt for this week to make up for that day so thanks again for you humble opinion Gem.

Gem's post was focused more on the fact men arent paying for an "connection" or your abstract idea of "clicking".
Men pay for a time for a provider to do all she can do to make him happy, which means unless there is a physical reason to not proceed with the date, hygiene, safety etc, the date continues. You're getting paid to make that guy happy. Your emotion/feelings don't matter..

IF a guy can't make wood/finish, is that a reason for you to end that date?
no
your job is to do all you can do to make that guy happy, feel like he is king of KC for his time he paid for.

so the date you ended for whatever reason, why? You couldn't make him happy for his time, so you called it off?
did you refund his 100% money?

This is why I liked Gemma's post. She made it clear in her post, she is proactive to make a guy happy.

I'm sure you'd agree life is stressful. Maybe that's why a guy is seeing you, As I talked about in a different thread

Originally Posted by bigcockpussylicker

Sometimes I think that men stress about not being "sexually able" when the problem is that their wife is 50+ pounds overweight and/or nagging the hell out of him everyday and night. Of course these men are going to have ED issues, heart problems, strokes, etc...

stress can kill happiness, enjoyment even boners.

What's less stressful? having a provider tell you she "isnt feel it" and needs to end the session.
or one who will not end the session for any abstract reason and works hard to make a guy have a time where she takes care of him.
.
Mental well being is part of the allure of providers, so a guy can exchange something tangible to be taken care of, mentally and physically.
Usually it's men who are the aggressors, who have to deal with rejection from random girls to their wives.
so we call upon hookers..nothing wrong with that? (I also buy food from a restaurant, instead making it myself, or farming)
IF restraunts won't serve me cause I don't "click" with the server. I'm going elsewhere. a restaurant will also do their best go give me their best service, even if I can't eat.

[Cleo]

Originally Posted by bigcockpussylicker

What's less stressful? having a provider tell you she "isnt feel it" and needs to end the session.
or one who will not end the session for any abstract reason and works hard to make a guy have a time where she takes care of him.

Spot on bcpl.