Definition of GFE

[Claire She Blows]

I know what I think it is, but maybe I'm wrong (it's been known to happen on occasion). I'd like to hear how everyone else defines GFE.

[cinnamonshark]

Originally Posted by Claire She Blows

I know what I think it is, but maybe I'm wrong (it's been known to happen on occasion). I'd like to hear how everyone else defines GFE.

Why don't you start by stating your definition? You may not be wrong. I will say that it may differ from person-to-person.

[rockerrick]

Girl Friend Experience, you know for an hour you treat me like shit, act like a bitch, then stomp off and not talk

[cinnamonshark]

Originally Posted by rockerrick

Girl Friend Experience, you know for an hour you treat me like shit, act like a bitch, then stomp off and not talk

Ummmm....I believe what you are describing is the MSGFE. The Middle-School Girlfriend Experience.

Like I said, it differs from person-to-person.

[redbeard42]

BBBJ and LFK/DFK included with CFS is how I understand it. That or you take the money and then say you have a headache.

[Loxly]

I'm with Redbeard.... +/- DATY

[gleemonex]

I know I am not as experienced as most of the posters here, but yes, the whole idea is you act like a girl friend would act. So a simple question to ask is "would I do this to my boyfriend?" if the answer is yes, you should do it. If the answer is no, then you wouldn't.

So with that being the case, I think GFE includes but is not limited to:

BBBJ - No girl is ever going to give their BF a CBJ.
DFK - This isn't light pecking, this is kissing someone like you would kiss your BF, with passion, deeply, on the mouth, but also all over, and letting him kiss you all over
DATY and FIV - I think these are both pretty obvious
MPCFS - This is pretty obvious too
flawless IOP - even if you aren't into it, you better be giving me an oscar worthy performance to make me think you are. And I guess I would say that GFE IOP and PSE IOP are very different things.
The customer is always right - I think this is self-explanatory.
genuinely treating the trick/john/monger/whatever you want to call him as if he is the most important person in your life for the duration of your appointment - Shut your fucking phone off when someone is there. If you wouldn't answer a text message while giving your boyfriend head, don't fucking do that shit to someone while he is there. Neither of us should know or care if someone else is texting/calling you. If you have something important that could be going on at that point, you shouldn't have scheduled the appointment in the first place. If I am in a meeting at work with a customer, and my phone started going off, I would get my ass handed to me and could potentially get fired. You are in meetings with customers at your work, treat it like that.

[readysetgo12]

Originally Posted by Claire She Blows

I know what I think it is, but maybe I'm wrong (it's been known to happen on occasion). I'd like to hear how everyone else defines GFE.

BBBJ and LFK/DFK. That along with having freshly baked treats. And a whole lot of texting / sexting daily between visits.

Oh - and having a clean towel waiting for me after taking a shower.

Claire - We eagerly await your definition.

[Scarlet O'Shea]

Originally Posted by readysetgo12

BBBJ and LFK/DFK. That along with having freshly baked treats. And a whole lot of texting / sexting daily between visits.

Oh - and having a clean towel waiting for me after taking a shower.

Claire - We eagerly await your definition.

I would say that it's possible to have two versions of a GFE. To steal a term from Chuck Palahniuk, I tend to look at my sessions as single serving GFE's. So within the hour, it's kissing, cuddling, lots of eye contact, caressing, followed of course by what every boyfriend wants, a superb BBBJ. Of course everyone has a different version of what they want in a GF or a GFE, so I find it best to be flexible in my menu and activities.

Now what I would define as a true GFE, is what Ready means, that the experience continues past the session. You have all the trimmings of a girlfriend, but only the ideal one. Fantastic sex, dirty conversations, baking etc. It seems implied that this service would be considerably more of a drain on the wallet, but that is entirely up to the provider and the client.

That is definitely more Claire's realm than mine, so I'll be anxiously awaiting her reply as well.

[gleemonex]

Originally Posted by gleemonex

I know I am not as experienced as most of the posters here, but yes, the whole idea is you act like a girl friend would act. So a simple question to ask is "would I do this to my boyfriend?" if the answer is yes, you should do it. If the answer is no, then you wouldn't.

So with that being the case, I think GFE includes but is not limited to:

BBBJ - No girl is ever going to give their BF a CBJ.
DFK - This isn't light pecking, this is kissing someone like you would kiss your BF, with passion, deeply, on the mouth, but also all over, and letting him kiss you all over
DATY and FIV - I think these are both pretty obvious
MPCFS - This is pretty obvious too
flawless IOP - even if you aren't into it, you better be giving me an oscar worthy performance to make me think you are. And I guess I would say that GFE IOP and PSE IOP are very different things.
The customer is always right - I think this is self-explanatory.
genuinely treating the trick/john/monger/whatever you want to call him as if he is the most important person in your life for the duration of your appointment - Shut your fucking phone off when someone is there. If you wouldn't answer a text message while giving your boyfriend head, don't fucking do that shit to someone while he is there. Neither of us should know or care if someone else is texting/calling you. If you have something important that could be going on at that point, you shouldn't have scheduled the appointment in the first place. If I am in a meeting at work with a customer, and my phone started going off, I would get my ass handed to me and could potentially get fired. You are in meetings with customers at your work, treat it like that.

Note, this was not directed at you directly, Claire. As others have mentioned, I would be curious how you define GFE, but I would say that from my experience, your GFE is flawless!

[gleemonex]

Originally Posted by readysetgo12

BBBJ and LFK/DFK. That along with having freshly baked treats. And a whole lot of texting / sexting daily between visits.

Oh - and having a clean towel waiting for me after taking a shower.

Claire - We eagerly await your definition.

I love the idea of freshly baked treats!

But I guess I would say that despite the moniker "greedmonex" bequeathed to me, I actually disagree with the daily communication part. Once I am out the door, my GFE session with you is over, other than possibly a few texts back and forth about how the other rocked their world, they still can't walk, etc. I don't have the expectation that you need to continue the GFE indefinitely or I will never see you again.

Now, I would say that you do bring up a good point though too that once we have something scheduled, then perhaps some playful banter via texting and sexting is expected, because that is all part of the GFE for the upcoming session.

[readysetgo12]

Before this train gets too far off track, I should note that *most* of my original reply should have been in *sarcasm font*.

No I don't believe that regular sexting / texting / PMing is part of the GFE experience.

I will say that I believe that GFE varies from one provider to the next and that perhaps the GFE experience and the expectations surrounding it change the more times you see a provider (ie, become a "regular").

[TemptationTammie]

I do bake occasionally, but not every day or even every week.
I agree with things that are said above that BBBJ, LFK/DFK are definitely part of GFE. Texting/sexting really isn't my thing, but esp not with someone I've never seen before. Before meeting the first time I try to be careful and cautious.
I do sometimes text just to say hi if I haven't seen someone in a while, but usually just a simple hi or hope everything is ok. Simple enough that it can be played off as a wrong number if needed.

[ahutch]

Doggy style GFE: He sits up and begs, then she rolls over and plays dead.

Badda boom!

Seriously, I'll quote and paraphrase the words of Maggie McNeill, aka The Honest Courtesan

GFE is subjective, but generally means that the escort will cuddle, kiss, refrain from obvious clockwatching, and generally make the experience seem much more natural and less mechanical.

I don't think GFE is defined by the inclusion of particular mechanical acts, such as DFK.

GFE is essentially a performance, no different from acting or singing. For most of human history the majority of actresses were also harlots, and though the professions have diverged to some degree the whore (especially the call girl) is still essentially an actress in a private erotic drama, with the customer as her audience rather than her equal partner.

Clients seeking GFE want to feel the sense of connection which can only result from honest personal interaction, the feeling that they are spending time with a real human being with hopes, dreams, loves, sorrows and quirks which make her a distinct individual. The competent professional knows how to strike the perfect balance between illusion and honesty which will give her client the most memorable and satisfying experience possible.

Like a film actress a great whore must draw upon her own personality and experience in order to create a true interaction with her client, and unlike her actress sister she must do so without either a script or a director to guide her.

Put another way, the clients seeking leather-clad mistresses to bind them, tease them, and/or humiliate them are seeking one kind of performance. Those seeking GFE want a different performance. A skilled whore can serve both audiences, changing her costumes, persona, and style of interaction as each role requires.

[Oafer]

All we have to do is take some liberties on exchanging a few words and phrases from the world of the US Supreme Court:

The phrase we will be playing with was famously used in 1964 by United States Supreme Court Justice Potter Stewart to describe his threshold test for obscenity in Jacobellis v. Ohio. In explaining why the material at issue in the case was not obscene under the Roth test, and therefore was protected speech that could not be censored, Stewart wrote:

I shall not today attempt further to define the kinds of material I understand to be embraced within that shorthand description ["hard-core pornography"], and perhaps I could never succeed in intelligibly doing so. But I know it when I see it, and the motion picture involved in this case is not that.

so, here's the answer to the question of what = GFE using the same quote, slightly modified:

I shall not today attempt further to define the kinds of behavior I understand to be embraced within that shorthand description ["GFE"], and perhaps I could never succeed in intelligibly doing so. But I know it when I experience it.

Simple answer . . . you know it when you experience it and you damn sure know it when you don't!