Very well said MsPrittiKitti
Ginger is lucky to have a friend like you to vent to and share her feelings with.
I know i was the main "Cruel" individual that responded to Gingers post, and i can accept that. I've read all of the posts and I can see how some providers could have be inadvertently offended by VIPs retirement post. I can also take time and understand that a provider who is retiring is retiring for a reason. If she feels that she has "whored herself out for a buck" then it is certainly a great step for that person to get out of what is making them unhappy. I'm not going to blame my ugly behavior on someone else's opinion.
Everyone has a reason for being in the hobby, doesn't matter whether it's a client or a provider. I have had a couple of clients tell me that they feel bad after every time they see a provider and I always give them the same advice...If it makes you a better person, do it. Fulfilling desires can be beneficial and therapeutic for some but not all. If it makes you a person you do not like then stop and change course. I enjoy what I do, and I enjoy the experiences that the hobby allots me both developmentally as a person and financially to provide for my son and pay for things that I typically could not afford. I take steps to make sure I protect myself from being jaded and soured. (I.E. paying attention to clients comments on the board of what they think of providers, listening to other providers, and screening) I do not believe i'm "whoring myself out for a buck" but I'm sure others do, and i'm sure it's hard to get past that. If I ever get there, I'll step aside and follow another path.
There are a good amount of completely rude, tasteless, and downright mean clients. I know some of the clients just look at it as if we are providers so we get paid to not care how we are talked about or treated and that's fine too. It's their choice to have that point of view and it's up to a provider if they want to indulge that personality...if a provider sees too many of those individuals it begins to wear on them.
Everyone has things in their past that is absolutely awful and not understandable by others who haven't had to experience the pain of such events. Some worse then others, but you either have to look at them as triumphs or excuses. I look at mine as triumphs and no, I will never tell anyone what mine are because I don't need to. I feel no need to justify what I do or why I do it because at least I'm able to make my own choices, live my own life, and enjoy the moments that make me smile.
VIP made a post that reflected how she felt about where she's at in her life and I'm happy she'll be able to move on to something that fulfills her more then what she's experiencing now. She deserves to be happy as does everyone on this board. She didn't single anyone out or downright declare that everyone in the hobby is a complete A Hole. She has met a lot of people she enjoys seeing which is why she will still want to have regulars in her life. I would have never posted on this thread had it not been so maliciously aimed to cut down one single person based off of how her representation of where she's at in the hobby made someone feel.
We all have haters and we all have friends and WKs. I'm sure a lot of the clients on the board don't always like what they do for a living, even if it makes them happy overall. Are you going to give all the money back when you quit? If you don't like what choice you've made then change it, if you enjoy the experience stay in. Personally I enjoy the hobby although there are certainly times i meet with clients where I feel like throwing in the towel because they are the most disrespectful A Holes imaginable. It's annoying and daunting but fortunately there are plenty of great individuals out there that make up for the douche bags. There are even guys that feel it necessary to complain about font size or color of a post in a thread....seriously...complete ly unnecessary dig, but hey I probably offended Rover too, right? LOL
Anyways...I'm fortunate for the hobby and I appreciate my clients. I have things in my past that are less fortunate but i know others have it a lot worse so i'll never let that get me down. If anyone makes you feel bad it's best to make yourself happy rather then trying to seek happiness by blasting others. That's why school yard bullies pick on other kids, and making excuses never helps. People always ask me why I almost never post in the CoEd and I finally have a good reason. Too much darn drama about nothing. LOL. Enjoy what you enjoy, have fun, be safe, have goals, and never let anyone else's position affect how you approach the world. Feeling bad doesn't mean you need to be a bully or a jerk. If you have something that you're unhappy with figure out what you need to fix it and don't worry about how others think. I hope Ginger the best in her endeavors, and I hope she realizes that there will always be someone to tear down for the way you perceive them to be...it doesn't fix you, it doesn't make you feel better, and it's just one more chain that will be holding you down.
(hopefully this font size and color is tasteful...wouldn't want to offend anyone's aesthetic sensitivities)
I will quietly and politely retire from this thread.
Good night!!
I also want to apologize for my rude comment. I let my anger control me. I still do not like how Ginger posted a thread to start more drama and to bash someone. And yes I was hurt a little by Barbie's comment because I truly love what I do. But I assumed she had her reasons. The hobby is not always kind to providers. We go through a lot. And Ginger, I've never begged for anything. When times were hard I asked for advice and if anyone knew places hiring. I never asked for money (the White Queen was the one who set that up) and I have ALWAYS accepted responsibility for my mistakes. (Just wanted to clear that up). Even though I do not agree with this thread I admit that I should not have commented with what I said. I just could not understand why someone would be so mean and hurtful...especially to someone they've never met. I will now step away from the drama. 
