Breaking the language barrier

[Sir Lancehernot]

This is probably going to sound weird, but I like to think of myself as something of a gentleman, if only maybe at the junior apprentice level. I've always found it difficult to be the first to cross the "language barrier" with a provider -- and I think that self-imposed inhibition on my language inhibits my ability to really "let loose" in a session.''

I also tend to treat the women I see as ladies -- at least until I know it's okay not to. The problem is, most of the women I see tend to reflect something of the same sort of behavior. It could be they're taking my cue from me, or it could be that they're not really into saying the sorts of Anglo-Saxon (and other) words that would provide the auditory proper cues and stimulation.

I find it curious that, to keep it current, going back my last 15 sessions or so, whether the lady has a hand wrapped around my shaft, or her tongue on my know, or my dick caressing her slit, aside from some onomotopaeic exclamations, there's never been any talk, passionate, playful, or intense, about what we're doing, not even as our eyes make extended contact, and not even any encouragement as I approach the moment of release

What's appropriate and what's not is, I suppose, a subject for a different thread. (Suffice it to say that I just roll my eyes when a porn star tells her partner how good his dick tastes, unless she's just rubbed it with flavored lube.)

So I'm curious: Does anyone else have a similar "language barrier"? For someone like me, how can I either cross it without worrying in the back of my mind that my "lady" friend might not really care for such talk, or how can I get her to take the lead in crossing it?

Yeah, I know. The the eye-rolling and thoughts of "what a douchenozzle" begin.

[MrKlean]

I think I understand what you mean.

If what you mean is that you llike for ladies to be vocal, tell them that in the beginning of the session.


I enjoy that too.


No guy enjoys the "deadfish" session

[Kendall4U]

That is one of the reasons I like to have an actual phone conversation before a first time session. I like to find out what the gentleman is expecting. Examples would be: type of attire preferred, if any, pigtails or not, fs, dirty talk or mild fetish, etc. I'm not a mind reader and everyone is different. If you are paying for my time, I want you to fully enjoy yourself. That means I need to do a little research. All part of the deal. When a lady asks you what you want there is no need to be shy. I have a rule; if you can't talk about it, we can't do it.

[BBW Katrina]

Exactly Kendall! Plus I'm sure whatever it is that you are wanting to hear Sir L will not shock any of us hookers on here! We have probably heard it all. Don't be shy, ask for what you want. If she does't feel comfortable, she will tell you. Otherwise get your verbal freak on!!

[yourself]

Sir Lancehernot,
I am really not certain at to exactly what you are talking about because I do not know much about you:

• I think you are just talking about a reluctance to talk during sex, right?
• But your avatar is in spanish..are you saying that is your native language?
• But you speak of anglo words..and you write like a gringo, so is your native language english?

[pyramider]

Note to self: remind K4U about the taintsicles.

[~Ze~]

It is really exhilarating to say the actions out loud that you are performing, not just being stuck inside your brain.

"I like the way your cock looks in my hands as I slide them up and down."

*Grabs your hair*
"Lap me slowly.... I want to see your tongue wide over the inside of my lips..."

Sometimes it takes a little practice... or the right partner...

[Lust4xxxLife]

You can include those kinds of details in your P411 preferences.

[filbone]

Originally Posted by BBW Katrina

Exactly Kendall! Plus I'm sure whatever it is that you are wanting to hear Sir L will not shock any of us hookers on here! We have probably heard it all. Don't be shy, ask for what you want. If she does't feel comfortable, she will tell you. Otherwise get your verbal freak on!!

It's amazing how much more I get out of the hobby now that I've stopped worrying about offending the lady and started saying exactly what I want to do and what I would like her to do. I've been told no a couple of times and "warn me first" once or twice, but I've yet to offend anyone with my requests.

The one thing I can't seem to figure out is whether to speak in acronyms and code names, or plain English (Russian as opposed to slide my cock between your breasts).

[Invisible1]

Breaking the language barrier during sex is a beautiful thing!
Also, lots of moaning and an erotic scream or two can be easily translated.
~Ze~ gives good examples of the language to use during sex...... : )