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Originally Posted by equation
Ladies, I have a couple of friends who are brothers who get rejected because of their ethnicity. Before a reason is given the dail tone prevails. What is the major problem here? Just curious, thanks.
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First, if you "sound black" on the phone, that is a sure-fire way to get a dial tone.
This topic has been picked over multiple times. I make my choice on who I will see and who I won't see and it is the lady's choice to decide if she will see me or not once I get there. There are lots of women who
advertise not seeing "AA" (asian american? albino american? oh yeah... african american!) or black men. In the majority of the cases, I don't bother calling. Why? The reasons have already been stated as to their motivations.
There are, however, women who have experienced some type of life trauma which causes them to be apprehensive (far too delicate a word for the actual feeling they have) when around people of color. Sure, they could get some counseling and eventually realize that everyone isn't that one person... but if it ain't broke don't fix it. Simply avoiding situations where you would feel that apprehension is enough for most people.
A provider just left my house. I haven't seen her in a couple of months and the last time was for an incall. She does not advertise that she does not see black men. First time I got to her incall, she let me in, closed the door and said, "say something." I responded and she said, "OMG, your voice is so deceptive! You look nothing like how I had pictured you!" Tonight, it was kind of the same thing. She had forgotten she had seen me before and I told her i'd send her a picture but, she insisted on staying on the phone until she got to my place. Once here, she was like, "OMG... i remember you! Wow, if you had sent me a picture I probably would not have seen you because you're black. But, hearing your voice and seeing you in person is so different!"
She's black herself and she does not choose to see other black men... I didn't ask her her reasons, I did say that she didn't have to stay if she felt uncomfortable... our appointment was set up for less than half an hour anyway so I would be understanding. She said it was fine and ended up staying for almost 3 hours.
My point is this... even though this lifestyle is a choice for these ladies, they can make the choice to make their experiences as positive as possible. If they get repeated negative attention from certain people, they will simply filter out those people as best they can. There are exceptions out there for 90% of these ladies. Luckily for me, I often fit that exception. But, for the remaining 10% who won't see me no matter how nicely I dress, how articulate I am or how strong my diction is... or even how green my money is... for those 10%... who cares what their reasons are? It is best to spend your money with someone you're going to have fun with who will enjoy the time with you as much as you will enjoy the time with them.
