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FireSerpent · 03-23-2011, 09:43 AM

Recently I have noticed a few reviews which have knocked ladies for not offering certain niceties during their sessions. In order to keep the ROS stuf private we'll just say that although they got a "Yes" review, the review itself was les than enthusiastic. I've often wondered or openly asked, "Did you ask ______ if she would _____? Or was ok with it?"

I believe that closed mouths don't get fed. If you don't say you want something then how's a lady to know? Guys... Ever think of asking for what you want instead of posting a review saying something like, "I complained about my sore back but she never offered to give me a massage!"

Just curious...

Guest091314 · 03-23-2011, 09:55 AM

That is funny and wayyyy to true!

MsElena · 03-23-2011, 09:57 AM

Being open and honest about what you're wanting during a session is the best way you're going to walk out the door happy. Although I'm pretty confident of knowing what men like, some may like it a different way. But, I wouldn't know that because I don't have ESPN.

Hopefully some of y'all will get that joke.

Of course being open and honest about what you're wanting after you've been verified/screened by said lady.

Redwolf · 03-23-2011, 10:37 AM

I have been guilty of that.

I chalk it up to a mixture of trying to be discreet, hesitating about asking a girl for something that she does not offer (I don't want to be accused of telling her what to do with her body or how to run her business or pushing her boundaries), or simply just being shy about it. In those instances, I don't blame her. I usually plan a return date to discover more. I think that one good quality of an escort is when she asks early whether a client is good for only one or can go twice or whatever, asks him how he likes to finish, or things that he particularly enjoys.

If I have inquired verbally about more play after plenty of chatting and cuddling AND there is plenty of time left - say 30 or more minutes - I will take it that she does not offer MSOG, especially if she tells me that it costs more.

I do request ladies to read my P411 profile, where many of my preferences are clearly spelled out, for example, how important to me are kissing, sensual passion, BBBJ (not a deal-breaker),DATY, MSOG, honesty, undressing, and trying out new things, as well as some of my favorite positions.

Recently, I did have a lady tell me that she wanted to get me off four times for a two hour date. Now, it didn't happen. But it was very hot. She gave me the fantasy of feeling desirable. It was fun trying. And we spent lots of time cuddling, chatting, and catching up.

luxurie4u · 03-23-2011, 02:24 PM

I always ask in the beginning of our cuddling time what a gent is into, likes/dislikes, etc. You are right, closed mouths don't get fed. Like I mentioned in another thread, I like to know during the beginning of the session if a gent is into multiples or not, because some are only good for 1 shot and I don't want to rush that 1 shot. But if someone is into multiples, I may want to get that 1 shot out of the way so we have enough time to go for round 2, etc.

It's a smart idea to research the gal ahead of time to find out what things she DOESN'T offer, so that you can avoid asking her for something that she doesn't offer.

FireSerpent · 03-23-2011, 03:28 PM

You can't get a no if you don't risk getting a yes. Some of my best experiences were born out of being daring enough to say, "I'd like this to happen because this is what I'd really like." I never hold it against someone for not enjoying my brand of fun and turning down my request... but how one is turned down is important as well.

I think having an investment or ongoing relationship with a provider help these things out a lot! It allows one to learn each other's likes, dislikes or limits. Nothing quite like when to people are so in sync that they are so teribly excited to se one another.

Philhelm · 03-23-2011, 03:49 PM

When I saw the title of this thread, "Closed mouths don't get fed," I had thought that it was going to be about something completely different...

FireSerpent · 03-23-2011, 06:49 PM

Well... I could make a whole post about that as well...

SinsOfTheFlesh · 03-23-2011, 07:20 PM

I still want a refund on that damned "Learn to Read Minds in Six Easy Steps" course I took. I found the offer in a Cracker Jack Box of course. Never did work though, so Ms. Cleo I ain't. Since I can't read minds, I prefer to let the gentleman give the cues and follow where he leads. Its all about him after all. I have no problem with saying "no" when warranted, and find nothing at all wrong if he asks me to do something I'm not comfortable with. Its all about *when* he asks. In emails or over the phone is always a no-no, but when we are in that cuddling, snuggling, and smooching phase, questions, preferences, and fantasies are always a welcome topic of discussion.

Alexxxis · 03-23-2011, 07:58 PM

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Originally Posted by luxurie4u

I always ask in the beginning of our cuddling time what a gent is into, likes/dislikes, etc. You are right, closed mouths don't get fed. Like I mentioned in another thread, I like to know during the beginning of the session if a gent is into multiples or not, because some are only good for 1 shot and I don't want to rush that 1 shot. But if someone is into multiples, I may want to get that 1 shot out of the way so we have enough time to go for round 2, etc.

It's a smart idea to research the gal ahead of time to find out what things she DOESN'T offer, so that you can avoid asking her for something that she doesn't offer.

I agree with this, especially about msog. I like to know fairly early during the date otherwise I'm just going to let things take their natural course. Letting me know five minutes before the date is over lets both of us down. I want my date to leave happy.

Guest121212 · 03-23-2011, 08:42 PM

Nothing will "opens mouths" faster and wider than good communication (from both sides), mixed with the intuition of a skilled professional. Communication is KEY!

Kisses,

- Jackie

ScubaBad · 03-23-2011, 11:15 PM

Great thread, communication is key. I still find it hard to open up until I get to know someone. Probably the reason I like to find a gal I'm comfortable with and stick with her...true in the hobby and in "real" life.

BigMikeinKC · 03-24-2011, 08:44 AM

I thought the thread was about something else too.

Wizard of Ahhhhs · 03-24-2011, 02:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Philhelm

When I saw the title of this thread, "Closed mouths don't get fed," I had thought that it was going to be about something completely different...

Well hell, keeping my mouth open the whole time is what I'm all about anyways..!

ICTguy32 · 03-24-2011, 09:31 PM

I couldn't agree more with this.. I had a lovely appointment yesterday with a Wichita provider (who I will not name), while we were enjoying each others company I mention that I would love to enjoy the view and her skills from a seated position instead of laying down on my back. She hopped right up took me by the hand and asked me how she could make the experience better for me. And WOW, did she deliver.

+1 for this thread..