Mediation

[MoonHowler]

In light of the recent drama on the Board, I have been thinking a lot about what happened and how it transpired. Personally I believe, and I think many will agree, the drama between the girls did nothing to enhance our lives or our experiences here. In fact, it probably left a bad taste in most everyone's mouth. In a way it was both tragic and funny, as I believe many of us could see the eventual outcome and cringed at each mounting insult knowing full well what would probably transpire.

To me it seems that the troubles and arguments presented to the public, could be resolved much easier in a private moderation/mediation session... with the girls and an uninvolved, neutral mediation expert or panel. Sadly, the way it turned out a lot of people got upset, hurt, distracted, bothered... reputations were damaged and one Provider was banned. Very unfortunate, since all involved bring great things to the table.

So with that said, it seems to me that it would greatly benefit our group, as well as all of ECCIE (where I am pretty sure this type of squabble has happened many times before), if ECCIE could set up a national mediation expert or panel, to whom grievances such as we recently witnessed in public, could be presented, mediated and hopefully resolved to the benefit of all involved. This would remove the unnecessary drama from the public view, and give the grieving parties a neutral moderator who could hopefully help resolve the issues. This would keep our business/hobby running smoothly and ultimately prevent more banning of quality people from our community. I realize that there is a cost associated with this, but there is also a cost associated with the overload of unnecessary drama. Our community Moderators would not be involved in the mediation. Their job would be to refer the issue to the National Mediator before it blows up in public.

Do you think this is reasonable? Workable? Stupid? Should the idea be refined and presented to ECCIE Worldwide?

[Adrianna xo]

Great idea, by this would not only 1.Never work, but 2. Who woul have spare time to do this. Last time I checked we are all adults and capable of handling our own issues

[Sweet N Little]

[Sydney Pure]

I doubt that will work I'm not gonna speak tooo much on this but it kinda boils down to one thing!!!

The TRUTH!!

[Out_of_Bounds]

Is there "stupid" in that water y'all are drinking up there or something?

[MrHappy4u]

apparently. I'd be careful visiting up here.

[texasjohn1965]

Originally Posted by MoonHowler

In light of the recent drama on the Board,

Yada, yada, yada...........

Do you think this is reasonable? Workable? Stupid? Should the idea be refined and presented to ECCIE Worldwide?

Reasonable? Not really, as there is usually too much personal history involved.
Workable? No, see above.
Stupid? Absolutely.
Present to icky? Let's see.... A non workable idea, no one would want the position, and personal information would end up be passed around???? Yeah, invest a few months of your personal time and present it in national.

I'm sure your intentions are good, but this has fail written all over it.

[TestSpin]

It's a nice thought, but cat fights would not be good candidates for mediation for far too many reasons to try to list.

[Ginger Doll]

It's a nice thought… but not very practical. The scope of problems that the mediators would face is too broad to be manageable by any one person, or even a group of people.

What's going to happen to providers who refuse to give references? How are the mediators possibly going to enforce something like that? It seems like an impossible task, all the way around.

It's clear to me that those who can't control themselves will eventually handle the problem for us – by getting themselves removed.

Lol @ SNL! Kumbaya right back 'atcha!

[Wakeup]

I'll mediate all the whores on the board if you want...

[Ginger Doll]

Originally Posted by Wakeuр

I'll mediate all the whores on the board if you want...

Nice, Wakeup... I wonder what Miss Valerie would have to say about that?

[Out_of_Bounds]

Originally Posted by Wakeuр

I'll mediate all the whores on the board if you want...

You can't call them whores.
Don't you know that's being misogynistic?

[MrGiz]

Originally Posted by Ginger Doll

. . . It's clear to me that*those who can't control themselves* will eventually handle the problem for us – by getting themselves removed.

I can agree with that!

But there is nothing clear and definite about that whole silly little affair!
It should not have been provoked in public! *But , it was!

Mediation? * Sorry... but it sounds like a childish idea, amongst so called professional adults.

just my opinion...

[Ginger Doll]

Originally Posted by MrGiz

I can agree with that!

But there is nothing clear and definite about that whole silly little affair!
It should not have been provoked in public! *But , it was!

Mediation? * Sorry... but it sounds like a childish idea, amongst so called professional adults.

just my opinion...

The provocation occurred well before the "silly little affair" reached public proportions. And I was not the instigator.

If only you would have asked, I would've gladly explained it to you.

The fact is, I do not take threats of physical violence in stride. Also, I do not appreciate being declined references that I need by someone that I have gladly supplied them to for years.

On another note, I distinctly remember providing my unconditional support to you and your SO in your time of need... thanks for returning the favor.

[MrGiz]

It is okay to disagree... I seek no grief... I make no accusations... everyone has there own*experiences* and*thoughts... I simply say there is very little (guess I shouldn't have said "nothing") that is*clear & definite*going on here... and I stand by that statement!