Advice and consideration for providers

[cinderbella]

Hello ladies, I would like to address some important topics that I think are relevant. First of all, I read something that shocked and horrified me enough to speak out about it. Of course, it has nothing to do with eccie but it does concern me enough to want to address all the newbies out there who may be able to read and learn. The first incident involves a 19 yr. old girl who may have been a backpage girl, she lived in Oklahoma. Her dismembered body was discovered in a duffel bag. The only reason why her killers were arrested is because a witness survived. Apparently, the two girls were lured to a house and the survivor was forced to watch the killers saw the foot off the deceased girl while she was still alive. The witness escaped by jumping out of a window. The two killers were drug dealers, the sort who dealt highly addictive drugs and were attempting to enslave the girls into a human trafficing ring. So how were the girls lured to the house in the first place? The deceased girl brought the witness along to buy meth from her known dealer. I am sure dealing with the public the way we do and knowing who we know you have probably encountered someone who uses hard core drugs or has some kind of underworld connection such as a pimp. The killers were white and mexican, the girls were white. I'm sure someone out there reading this knows someone who may be tempted to associate with scum like this based on the fact that they are addicted to something. What we all need to realize as providers is that there are evil thugs who target us. We need to realize is that some of your clients would take any opportunity to rob, cheat, rape and abuse us verbally or physically. As a provider you need to take an attitude of putting yourself on a higher level. You must realize that you are a minority and that EVERYONE has slow days or weeks where you are biting your nails wondering how you are gonna pay your bills and survive. You may be tempted to take a client who is pushy or rude. My advice is to be completely independent and to not take anyone who does not treat you exactly the way you would want them to treat your mother, sister, daughter or anyone you love. Disrespect and pushiness, no matter how many okays on p411 is not to be accepted ever. The second thing I want to mention is the attitudes of the clients and providers on eccie. The only thing that sickens me more than the guys who post stupidity like "I'm looking for a cheap bbbj tonight" or "where are the streetwalkers in this town" or "I wish the mods would control these eccie girls cuz they aren't hot enough" are the providers who post completely nude, lewd crewd pics with captions like, "cum on my face" or "thirty minute specials 60 bucks" If you can't hold yourself up to a higher standard then you are going to get treated worse than a toilet. You don't have to go that low, and if you do your homework and google escorting advice you find that you attract better clients in the long run. If you allow yourself to be pimped, controlled or pushed into doing something you don't feel comfortable with then you are going to be victimized. You can't stay in this business and be afraid of men. You must be strong and you must refuse to take someone who you don't like because that's your survival instinct kicking in and if you drink too much or get wasted you don't survive. You need to be in control of yourself and your surroundings at all times. You have to be willing to say "NO" to alot of requests and you have to limit how many people you see in order to respect yourself in the morning. Of course, you have to screen as well. As people, we have to care about what we do to make a living and we have to make it as enjoyable for ourselves as possible (not for the men but for you. You can't be afraid of a bully and you can't turn off your instincts. You have to realize that it really doesn't matter what the top hobbyist think of you or how wild you are in bed. What really matters is that you are a soft, sweet woman and to most men that is far more desirable than willingness to do anything for money. Respect yourself and only take clients who are open and honest with screening and the money will follow if you don't have a pimp taking it from you in the first place.

[KodiLace]

Very very well said! I completely agree!

[Sensia]

Totally agree..very well put.

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[GypsyHeart]

Love it and high fiving it!
Just had a chat with a "gentleman" who was very pushy about haggling over rate, then said he had reviews for austin, houston and dallas. I told him politely that I need verification of who he is, are any of the ladies available to message me. He says no and I ask if he has any other way to verify who he is. He was very cocky at this point. Said if I change my mind to hit him up. I told him during this beratement that I dont care if he has slept with 100 girls, it is about the ladies verifying that you are not a douchebag. LADIES WE CANNOT COMPROMISE!! No one can watch over you but you.

[Calista_Syn]

I think the emphasis here is on the fact that they were going to buy meth. Your thoughts are wonderful and I agree with most of it, but you can't let horror stories like this affect you to a deeper degree than the appropriate empathy and pity. Junkies will be junkies, unfortunately that will never change. Besides, someone has to take care of the scum clients that want a 60 dollar thrill so they don't clog my phone line. Fact of the matter is that any provider worth seeing, isn't dealing with these kinds of issues because they aren't putting themselves in these situations. You sound like you're holding the weight of these womens poor choices on your shoulders, unfortunately, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. Theres a reason it's called the oldest profession in the world, there will forever and always be a supply of dumb, naive, and sick junkie girls willing to go at it raw for $60. Always.

[Alan418]

Kinda pisses me off to see top shelf women on Backpages. Mixed in with all the lowlifes. Open to any loser with a cell phone. Yall be safe.

[missouridoc]

I have been attempting to start a business to take associates to and from their clients and help to insure security by walking them to the door and if desired, check out the clients' living arrangments. Am I gullible in thinking that there is a need for such a service? I think maybe the prospective clients think that I'm a pimp. This is just not true. I have my own car, and am just trying to start a small business for myself. I'm in the St Louis, Mo. area, and would appreciate any feedback I can get. Are there any of you who think that this is a good idea? Thanks for reading, Doc