Christmas, birthdays: Why don't women get it?

[Sir Lancehernot]

Musing while having nothing to do except look out my office window ...

As I was picking up my car in the garage the other day, I stopped to say hi to the cutie in the casheir's booth, whose smile has lately been brightening my days. One of the attendants was having a conversation with her.

As I drew near, the context of the conversation appeared to suggest that she had asked him for advice on what to get her BF for Christmas, for the attendant was telling her, "There ain't nothing a man wants for Christmas 'cept for one thing." They went back and forth for a few seconds, with her expressing skepticism at his repeated insistence.

When they noticed me at the window, the attendant looked at me and said, "Ain't that right?" I replied, "I've been telling my wife for years, 'You don't have to BUY me anything for Christmas,' and she pays no attention.'" He looked at her and said, "See?"

From my admittedly limited experience, the skepticism that the cashier was expressing appears to be fairly common. For birthdays and Christmas (forget Steak and BJ Day), over the years the women in my life have given me cakes, shoes, ties, books ... everything except the one thing that in my mind would genuinely show appreciation or affection.

Why don't women seem the simple truth about a gift for the men in their lives?

[sparrow1122]

I'm the wrong person to leave a reply. I get clothes that she wants me to wear. I by myself birthday presents. This year it was CD3! What (who) do I want for Christmas?!?!?!

[oldbutstillgoing]

I take it your not talking about your two front teeth?

[sparrow1122]

DATY is interesting without the front teeth, but no.

[pmdelites]

sir lancehernot, you asked (prolly rhetorically)
"Why don't women seem the simple truth about a gift for the men in their lives?"

maybe cos we dont clearly communicate it to them?? [a party humorous and party serious comment]

if you dont ask, the probability of getting it is lower and lower.
and if you dont get "'cept for one thing", in spite of subtle or not-so-subtle hints, get it elsewhere or for yourself (like sparrow).


p.s., depending on who's talking, "one thing" could be a backrub, foot rub, cock rub, oral cock rub, oral face run, tab A into slot B, crock pot dinner, chocolate eclair, 50 yd line tickets to the next super bowl, ..... see what i mean about not clearly communicating it to them? :^)

[Tetas]

My first Ex-wife woke me on my birthday every year with a Birthday Blowjob.
That there was a woman who gets it!
Not sure why i divorced her...lol

[johnclark]

I dated a girl for years, and every time I was asked what I wanted for Bday or Christmas the answer was always "time with you". She never made that time, always bought me useless stuff off some bargain rack instead. Having fun with her friends was more important. She should have listened.

[EZ.]

Are you saying that you are married and not getting it on a daily basis?

[sparrow1122]

EZ, that is why I am here.....

[EZ.]

Originally Posted by sparrow1122

EZ, that is why I am here.....

You need to tell her about this. Maybe you will reach a new understanding.
It worked for me.

[Sir Lancehernot]

Originally Posted by johnclark

I dated a girl for years, and every time I was asked what I wanted for Bday or Christmas the answer was always "time with you". She never made that time, always bought me useless stuff off some bargain rack instead. Having fun with her friends was more important. She should have listened.

Funny. Many years ago, an escort I was seeing gave me a plaque -- one of those you get at Things Remembered -- that said, "Time. The precious gift that friends give to one another." Not only was she for some reason not doing with me what she was doing with half the men in Dallas, before she gave me the plaque, she hadn't made any OTC time for me in two months. She didn't see the irony.

I kept hoping things would change, but they didn't, and a month later I told her I was outta there.

Back to the question posed by someone earlier (I am on my phone and can’t see), any woman who goes to bed every night with a hard cock poking her in the rear and does nothing about it 364 of those nights ought to have a pretty good idea of what "You don't have to BUY me anything means." And any woman who accepts money from a guy for BCD activities certainly knows what an appropriate gift is --provided of course that she in a giving frame of mind for Christmas or his birthday. Lastly, some of us just can't say to a woman, "What I really want is your mouth on my dick."

[FireKitten]

Isn't that a bit like calling the kettle black, when you asked about why a lady (ATF even) here would want an appointment as a Christmas gift????

http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=1190494


Nevermind that at least most ladies here think much more like men.


---Why do you insist on buying them baubles and gadgets and junk they never use, when they just want your time and loyalty?

Good for a chuckle.

[Sir Lancehernot]

The difference, at least to me, is that there's nothing special about paying for an appointment at Christmas that distinguishes it from any other time of the year. It takes nothing for me to make one and indicates no special degree of appreciation.

On the other hand, giving a man the gift of intimate contact is different. Because it's something she doesn't have to do (and probably doesn't want to do) it would indeed be a meaningful gift. And if it were in a professional relationship, well, her giving something that both she and you have agreed has a significant monetary value carries a similar connotation.

And I don't like to give baubles, gadgets and junk as gifts, either. To anyone. I try to put a lot of thought into my gifts. If I can't think of anything really good, there are always the old standvys: gift cards, liquor, and chocolate.

[FireKitten]

Nothing special about it? Then you are taking yourself or her for granted. Somehow spending the intimate time over XMAS, esp vs any other time, means nothing special. Really? Isn't that what you said you want most from a woman? And sometimes the hardest time of the year to plan.


But using that logic, your SO, ATF etc, is perfectly in the right giving you a gift card, liquor or other manly item, in lieu of a BJ. Monetary and significant value for something she doesn't perhaps want to do. I'd like to see a provider get away with that one, pat you on the ass and send you out the door with her best bottle of spirits, instead of blowing you.


We want mostly the same things, just go about it differently. "Gifts" make up for what we think we can't give or have.

[EZ.]

How did we get from "the women in our lives" to providers?