If You Are Differently Abled, Unwell, or Otherwise Incapacitated

[Guest020719]

This is a pretty fucked up thread, even for eccie coed.

[Guest111819]

I guess you would have to be a provider that has had this kind of surprise at the door to understand this thread.

I imagine I would be pretty "thrown off my game" if at the appointed time for a session was when I first learned that a client would need special assistance due to a physical disability or injury.

[Victoria of Houston]

Originally Posted by GlobeSpotter

Op was super surprised when the trick showed up with three legs.

Originally Posted by Bigjohnson1

Shouldn't be a huge deal. If a guy is in wheel chair because he had his legs blown off in Iraq I can see a girl in RL thinking long term relationship might be a lot to handle but for an hour session I don't see how why it should be an issue

Originally Posted by Trey

. Would you serve someone on say dialysis or in a wheelchair? Whats the stopping point?

My point is, it's different from the "norm". So yes, BJ1, it is a big deal. I, personally, am not a nurse and do not want to have to deal with such things, if even for an hour at a time. Call me out if you will, but it is just how I feel about the issue.

Trey, good points. I think every provider has their own limit with such things. My point was that we should be given the courtesy of being told priorly, so we can inform the client if we are ready and willing to handle whatever they have going on.

I didn't like the fact that I wasn't given such courtesy and that said gent also got indignant over the fact that I took issue with it.

Originally Posted by nikkivikkisix

I've seen many disabled or ,"other needs" clients. They were always kind enough to let me know ahead of time. With enough information and my former medical background I feel confident I can handle what they need. I understand the OP's position though. Some disabilities require changes to a providers routine, and if its a surprise, then we can't accommodate their needs

Exactly my point, as said above. Every provider feels differently about the issue, so we deserve to know what we would be willing deal with, beforehand.

Originally Posted by Mythos

This is a pretty fucked up thread, even for eccie coed.

Why?

Originally Posted by Krystal_RoseBBW

I guess you would have to be a provider that has had this kind of surprise at the door to understand this thread.

I imagine I would be pretty "thrown off my game" if at the appointed time for a session was when I first learned that a client would need special assistance due to a physical disability or injury.

Exactly. It's an unexpected surprise, and not the kind I am thankful for.

[Guest020719]

Originally Posted by Victoria of Houston

Why?

Because it reads more like a rant than a polite psa. That is why. Anyone with a disability to the extreme your speaking of is most likely not too happy about it either

With that said;

I can understand the situation you bring up but this is your fault. As a provider you can simply ask, "do you have any special needs or considerations that I should be aware of?" You are already asking screening questions anyway. This is a provider protect thyself issue.

I agree in theory that a mangletard should mention ahead of time that he carries his penis in a thermos but ultimatly your protection is on you.

[TryWeakly]

Mangletard? Thats harrrrsh....

[Tony Gambino]

wow lets treat people with a handicap, like stray dogs or cats........that's straight evil.........theres something wrong with you.....and i'm sure that's the case......but you get on with your bad self......

[Odysseus696969]

Originally Posted by Mythos

Because it reads more like a rant than a polite psa. That is why. Anyone with a disability to the extreme your speaking of is most likely not too happy about it either

With that said;

I can understand the situation you bring up but this is your fault. As a provider you can simply ask, "do you have any special needs or considerations that I should be aware of?" You are already asking screening questions anyway. This is a provider protect thyself issue.

I agree in theory that a mangletard should mention ahead of time that he carries his penis in a thermos but ultimatly your protection is on you.

Mangletard? Oh shit, move over Sarah Palin. Hey, Big Billy Shake-my-spear, step aside. We got a new Sheriff-wordtard in town.

[Don T. Lukbak]

Simply amend your showcase to add: "CRIPPLES AND OTHER DISCARDS NEED NOT APPLY HERE". Your problem solved.

[Guest111819]

Originally Posted by Don T. Lukbak

Simply amend your showcase to add: "CRIPPLES AND OTHER DISCARDS NEED NOT APPLY HERE". Your problem solved.

Not something I would EVER post in my showcase. But maybe something like....

"If you have a disability that will require the use of a ramp to my door, please let me know in advance of scheduling so that I may request a ground floor room."

Or

"If you have a prosthetic that will take time to remove before we get to have some fun, please let me know in advance that I may schedule the time accordingly."

Notice that these are not saying that I refuse to see a gentleman with disability or prosthetic. Just asking that I be shown a little respect for my time. No more than I would ask of any gentleman that desires my company.

[Guest020719]

^^^ imo that is over the top, a simple "please inform me if you have any special needs"

The average joetard will think you mean shackles & chains or something along those lines but an actual special needs "should" understand without any overt mood changing your showcase. THEN - follow up when doing private screening

[TryWeakly]

Its OK Mythos.. you already bought the word, Mangletard, .might as well own it....

[Guest020719]

Originally Posted by TryWeakly

Its OK Mythos.. you already bought the word, Mangletard, .might as well own it....

Bought? No, coined. I know what I own. Thank you. Would you like to buy some comprehensive depth? Rhetorical. Next caller please. Line 3, you had comment?

[ICU 812]

Differently abled?
For men in general, the visual reality is a significant part of the Hobby fantasy. While it may not be a deal breaker, I'd sure like to know if she is missing a limb or two. Intellectually Challanged might be less of a problem as an unannounced issue prior to the session.

I myself am visually impaired. Providers and Agencies have been very understanding, patient and helpful in working around that.

[Fancyinheels]

Originally Posted by ICU 812

Differently abled?
For men in general, the visual reality is a significant part of the Hobby fantasy. While it may not be a deal breaker, I'd sure like to know if she is missing a limb or two. Intellectually Challanged might be less of a problem as an unannounced issue prior to the session.

I myself am visually impaired. Providers and Agencies have been very understanding, patient and helpful in working around that.

Heh.

I like surprises -- wrapped in pretty paper inside a box with a ribbon on top. I'm a laid-back lassie who's quite adaptable, but I prefer to know up front if there are "special needs" I should accommodate. I've always said "Yes" unless someone gave me reason otherwise to decline.

These days, when I host I reserve handicapped-accessible rooms anyway. Love those big walk-in bath enclosures with the handheld massaging shower heads for clean and dirty fun!

And as long as we're talking... I might now be considered "handicapped" or "differently-abled." A fall I took in New Orleans a couple of years ago (I've mentioned it on here) left lasting damage to my left ankle, so from time to time I limp a wee bit, and even sport a Fancy cane for extra support after the old leg has been put through the ringer. (Some gents have seen me at the Texas Renaissance Fair with a walking stick but assumed it was part of the "garb.") It's barely noticeable unless made obvious by the cane's occasional presence, but climbing stairs (especially with a suitcase) is a witch when it acts up. (I still dance, but can't jig quite as high or as long.) My family pesters me to get a government-issued placard so I can park closer to stores and my doc would sign off, but heck, I need the exercise, and let the people who REALLY need those spaces use them.

I continue to wear high heels for limited period of admiration, but not so much for actual walking anymore. Heavy sigh, Fancyinflats sounds so... unattractively pedestrian.

[tbone2u]

I would want to know if the provider had a disability for several reasons.
Why shouldn't the provider know if I have a disability...or not.

I don't like surprises and I'm sure they don't either.
It's easy to be honest.