Paid for overnight, provider left me at restaurant

[toogood_not2]

I apologize if I'm in the wrong forum. This is my first post of this type.

I saw this provider two times for 3 hours each and we hit it off. Great chemistry and we always had plenty to talk about before and after. The third time we got together we agreed on an overnight rate and she said she would stay from 10pm to around lunchtime, longer than she usually would stay with another client. She came over and I rode with her to have dinner at a local spot we had been before. Twenty minutes into the meal she looks uncomfortable and says she needs to go get some advil and will be right back.

Maybe intuition or 6th sense, who knows...but I just knew she was going to take off. I couldn't confront her or make a scene because the restaurant/bar we were at was having a special event and I'm known by half of the staff. So I basically watched her drive off with my money and 2 jackets, one which I can't replace. (I had gone back inside my house to get the other jacket for her because her legs were cold)
I have tried calling her several times and sent a few texts but I know it's a waste of time...I mean, she got me and it's my fault. My question is this: she is posting locally and I can easily set up an incall with her using a spare cell phone then show up with a

"SURPRISE! Can I please have my jackets and money back sweetheart?"

Can someone more experienced give me some advice here? I would NEVER make any type of threatening statement or gesture no matter what happened. Honestly I really want my jackets back more than the money. I was stupid enough to give it to her and I learned an expensive lesson. (I won't turn the money down or the overnight I paid for, don't get me wrong!)

I'm not ready to name the provider because I would like to try this recovery first. Maybe if she makes it right and has an ironclad excuse (rushed herself to the ER and has receipts?) I would hold my tongue but that isn't likely to happen.

What do I do? Let it go and kiss the jackets and money goodbye? Or arrange to be face to face and politely ask that she return my stolen property? I suppose I could always report her to the police-I have the atm receipt and the cash was actually in my jacket pocket...but that is a step I can't take back.

Help! and thanks in advance...

[Laz]

She is a thief. Try to recover your stuff first. Notify second.

[toogood_not2]

Thanks Laz!

[Chica Chaser]

Originally Posted by Laz

She is a thief. Try to recover your stuff first. Notify second.

Correct. Let her know she has 48 hours to return your property and money or you will have to publicly post an alert on her. That will usually get their attention and hopefully a sincere apology along with an offer to make it right with you. I would not pull a surprise visit at her incall, too many unknowns walking into a unknown location.

If it comes down to it, that alert needs to be place in the Alerts Forum in your local area.

[toogood_not2]

Thanks ChicaChaser. What other forums/sites should I post an alert on? If I rattle off the names of all the usual sites she is using to support herself and tell her they will all get alerts about her, it will get her attention better than approaching her with only eccie and p411. (no slight on eccie, this is my home base!).

I know she also works in Austin frequently--I suppose I can post the same alerts there as well?

Thanks again!

[Chica Chaser]

Good point. Couple things....if she is a P411 lady file a report with Gina there. She has a very low tolerance for this type of stuff.

As far as where to post the info, Eccie and TER will cover the biggest area. Once posted, the info will is searchable here. I don't think you would actually be able to post anything on P411. Just notify Gina there.

[Capt. Lincoln F. Stern]

let the world know about her on p411, here etc.... then if you feel like tossing her the curve ball, do the incall, show up and ask for your stuff. If you can prove the stuff is yours, tell her to her face, she calls the cops, you can prove she stole your jackets (the money is probably gone) and even thought she might spend time in jail, she will get a ride downtown

Sometimes just unlocking pandora's box is all one needs to do.

[Sweet N Little]

Surely the threat to blast her on here and TER will change her mind quickly & she will make it right .....the threat to her biz should be enough to make her do the right thing.
sorry that happened toogood. NOT RIGHT at all.
Good luck hun

[Genevieves Lust]

sorry to hear this happen to you darlin... hope all turns out good for you and you get at least the jacket back!... good luck

[Likinikki]

Very sorry to hear about your bad experience...how horrible! When you say that she's posting locally...do you mean that you have seen her post and is active? if not...maybe something did happen to her...you never know.

I would keep all correspondence *friendly,* even if you're mad as hell! (lol) You don't want to push her further away...if you know what I mean. I wouldn't take any irrational steps...take a few days to be able to think clearly. If she's a con-artist, you don't know what type of company she keeps...and, being she knows where you live...I would be very careful as to how you handle this.

You always have the locker room to post her information...and, if she did pull a fast one...I hope she has enough heart to make this up to you somehow. She should know that if she doesn't...she has bad karma coming to her. Good-luck!

[Guest021012]

....Loser. Plain and simple. No wonder so many gents are jaded about paying up front, deposits and such.

Now, I'll be the first to say that there are instances where taking off with payment without rendering services is ok in my book. I've been in situations myself where, if I had the intestinal fortitude I would have. (drunk, abusive, being very loud, disrespectful, drug use, ect).. But I rely heavily on positive reviews and lets face it, one saying I "stole" money, even if he's at fault will reflect negatively on me. So I will usually put the donation down, walk away, cut my loses, and file him under "issues" in my phone. (if it's soon after I arrive) Otherwise I keep a portion (for time spent) and leave the rest. Fair is fair after all.

That being said, if she is an established provider, I'd try to reason with her and get your things back at the least. Unfortunately, someone who would do this to begin with will probably not return the cash; but maybe she will leave your things somewhere public with the promise you won't out her? The threat of public outing should bring her around. If she is just a passer through, junkie, or scam artist though, I'm sorry to say babe but chances are you're SOL.

Lesson learned.. Only deal with established, professional, well reviewed providers!

[coefficient]

That's what always gets me leary about this industry and who really "likes" you.

Two 3 hour sessions and you'd think she like you right? Naw, they always find a way of showing their true colors

[toogood_not2]

Exactly. And I didn't mention that this was the third appointment in two weeks...I'd still be seeing her if she hadn't imploded with dumb.

[toogood_not2]

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[AllisonofHouston]

What a rotten thing to do...some girls are completely classless Im sorry this happened to you darlin , but just remember there are still some classy sweet ladies out here that know how things are supposed to be ..I hope you get your belongings back ...