For single hobbyists and providers: Does the hobby stunt your growth in the civilian dating game by allowing you to stay in your comfort zone?

[pxmcc]

Hobby: help or hindrance in the civilian dating game?

I guess a natural follow-up: for hobbyists or providers who have a SO in the RW, does the hobby make your relationship with your SO better or worse?

[pyramider]

No

No

[Guest111819]

i just have no desire to date.
1) I have learned through many failed relationships that I am just not cut out for it LoL I may be the only person to ever have been truly honest when I said "It's not you, it's me."
2) I prefer to keep my RW life devoid of sex so that I always have a healthy appetite for sessions

So this biz is perfect for me and the lifestyle I have become accustomed to. Not hurting or hindering me in the least.
Very similar to what I say about my children...
"They might drive me crazy sometimes, but they keep me sane!"

[CurvyKatie]

Originally Posted by Krystal_RoseBBW

i just have no desire to date.
1) I have learned through many failed relationships that I am just not cut out for it LoL I may be the only person to ever have been truly honest when I said "It's not you, it's me."
2) I prefer to keep my RW life devoid of sex so that I always have a healthy appetite for sessions

So this biz is perfect for me and the lifestyle I have become accustomed to. Not hurting or hindering me in the least.
Very similar to what I say about my children...
"They might drive me crazy sometimes, but they keep me sane!"

This^^^

The civilian dating game is a hindrance to the hobby. Just say no to relationships.

[Alyssa71]

^^ yep to both Krystal Rose and Curvy Katie.... Relationships are too much work already add being a provider to that and it's double the work. In my experience, some guys just want you for themselves.

[Guest111819]

Although......
I do, on occasion, meet a person in my RW life that makes me think (fleetingly) about giving all of this up and giving "normal" another try.
Specifically tonight, having the most interesting, entertaining, and intelligent conversation I have had in years. With a most attractive gentleman I happened to meet at the bar I stopped at on my home......


And then I notice the tan line on his left third.....


LMAO

[pxmcc]

^^Krystal are you sure you're a bbw? That booty tho... ha ha.
ok I see. Ya I'm in a spinner freak, but you have a great looking booty for a bbw, I must say. What's the tan line reference btw about the civilian?

I'm having so much fun in the hobby, I don't even try civilian dating. Then I feel guilty for not even trying. Hence the thread..

"Well I got to first base on the second date. The third date I tried to steal second but got thrown out before I could tag up. The fourth date.. Oh wait, there was no fourth date. Instead, I called one of my gals and got to hit a couple grand slams, steal home and whathaveyou of general BCD mayhem, ya know"... ha ha.

Btw, I never rate my threads. I think they mostly suck, some worse than others, but I get bored sometimes, you know...

[Guest111819]

Originally Posted by pxmcc

I'm having so much fun in the hobby, I don't even try civilian dating. Then I feel guilty for not even trying. Hence the thread..

"Well I got to first base on the second date. The third date I tried to steal second but got thrown out before I could tag. The fourth date.. Oh wait, there was no fourth date. Instead, I called one of my gals and got to hit a couple grand slams and whatnot, ya know"...

See.....that's the thing that a lot of people don't "get". It takes time, energy, and emotion to cultivate a relationship to the point that they are "ready" for physical intimacy. (The bases)
This hobby is designed for those of us that just don't have the time, patience, or desire for the BS lol

P.S. Sorry for all the quotation marks....on my phone. :-P

[Guest111819]

Yep....5'3" and 260-275 (I don't weigh) I am DEFINITELY a BBW !!
"If you don't like fat chics, you won't like me!"

Oh hey! Looky there! Time restraint doesn't seem to apply to the app version!

Dammit......you keep changing your post!!
I don't have tan lines........

[LexusLover]

Originally Posted by pxmcc

Hobby: help or hindrance in the civilian dating game?

When they contact me to invite me out, I don't discuss it with them.

So, it's a non-issue.

[iquit]

Originally Posted by pxmcc

Hobby: help or hindrance in the civilian dating game?

I guess a natural follow-up: for hobbyists or providers who have a SO in the RW, does the hobby make your relationship with your SO better or worse?

Definitely a hindrance for dating. I am more into the short game rather than the long game - used to enjoy the seductive nature of romance for a week or two before getting her to let me in or come to my place. Now, I just see it as a waste of time. Occasionally though, when my aim is not sex, it is actually fun, then again, if am not attracted to her sexually then it's hard to hook up. Hobby makes it hard to get both to be there.

Secondly, hobby makes real world sex better. I get to know myself more and what makes me tick, and I make it resonate in my real life. If I can't get it in real life, one of u ladies have been kind enough to fill the void.

[tbone2u]

I don't want to drive the same car for more than 2 to 3 years.
The hobby makes it easier.

[CurvyKatie]

Originally Posted by pxmcc

What's the tan line reference btw about the civilian?

tan lines = wedding ring

[Lincoln.F.Stern]

Originally Posted by pxmcc

Hobby: help or hindrance in the civilian dating game?

I guess a natural follow-up: for hobbyists or providers who have a SO in the RW, does the hobby make your relationship with your SO better or worse?

Kinda does both:

It is more of a sexual release / tension reliever for me, like a really good massage.. it relaxes me.

As for dating etc.. it has sharpened my senses as to "gold diggers / sugar babies" and how they act.

[the_gentleman]

I know it hinders me I like the extra stuff like watching a movie, spooning, and just hanging out. Maybe I'm just a softie