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Mojojo · 10-18-2011, 09:49 PM

Thought I'd lively it up in here a bit. Dom or Sub, which are you? What about being either peaks your interest? Is it having control,or being controlled? For those being controlled i.e. cucks, servants, is it the humiliation or pain from your partner?

Since I opened this one up I'll start it up by saying I'm an aggressive male so to me its having control and displaying my dominance over sexy lady is the high point. In the swinger life I enjoyed being the male who'd come around to pound the wife.

enigma878 · 10-18-2011, 11:11 PM

sub all the way.......something about a Woman taking control and while smiling, using me for Her pleasure. The humiliation, degradation, some well placed discomfort all make for a different excitement.

Anita Lay · 10-18-2011, 11:56 PM

I am a DOM all the way... men need a break from all the control and leadership roles they are expected to do in everyday life. They can't go wrong if the Dom is telling them what to do... has its advantages. But I can't force someone to do something they don't like, ohhhh nooooo. In todays porn they mix Domination with S&M and thats a big no no... controlling is one thing but leaving someone physically marked and bruised is not my thang when the S&M part comes up.
Somone asked me what s&m was, its some kind of physical torture and it can be done in different degrees of pain and I won't go there.

Slammer321 · 10-19-2011, 07:17 AM

Dominant here, I don't mind submitting to a woman, it can be fun too. But I enjoy free reign for the most part, there are just too many curves on a woman I have to touch, and so many ways I want to have her

mikkifine · 10-19-2011, 07:19 AM

I am dominant all the way. I like being in control.

yourslave · 10-19-2011, 07:38 AM

I am all the way sub. I can play on top, but I don't like it...

CajunGent · 10-19-2011, 08:57 AM

Alpha male by day but enjoys submitting behind closed doors to a sexy woman.

RickO'shayRabbitt · 10-19-2011, 10:06 AM

These terms have caused me so much trouble. Tell a woman you are submissive and she seems to think it means you want to be tied up and beaten. For me, it's more the mental aspect, of getting inside my head, "forcing" me to do things to please her so that I can be rewarded. It's all roleplay, with play being the key word.

I've been the Dom before, but only in real life. It was play, and it was fun. I think it would be very difficult for a lady here to trust me enough to truly allow me to Dom her. Maybe after lots of sessions it could work.

Anyway, being the "sub" in a roleplay gets me going. I get vanilla in real life all the time. Yawn.

AlisedeSade · 10-19-2011, 11:06 AM

I am a Dom. You are right alot of people do not realize there is a difference between being a sumissive and a masochist.

Lovin50 · 10-19-2011, 12:42 PM

When I’m not flirting or being a tease having vanilla fun I am always happy to be a sub but never a dom. Love for the woman to take control and have her way.

VIPRaniLane · 10-19-2011, 12:54 PM

Switch, baby!

Mojojo · 10-19-2011, 02:39 PM

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Originally Posted by barneyrubble

These terms have caused me so much trouble. Tell a woman you are submissive and she seems to think it means you want to be tied up and beaten. For me, it's more the mental aspect, of getting inside my head, "forcing" me to do things to please her so that I can be rewarded. It's all roleplay, with play being the key word.

I've been the Dom before, but only in real life. It was play, and it was fun. I think it would be very difficult for a lady here to trust me enough to truly allow me to Dom her. Maybe after lots of sessions it could work.

Anyway, being the "sub" in a roleplay gets me going. I get vanilla in real life all the time. Yawn.

Interesting answer, mental aspect is a big portion. Having mind control of a sexy chica in my case allows for me to display my dominance and take charge then have an explosive finish.

whitechocolate · 10-19-2011, 02:58 PM

I generally like to be submissive depending on the situation. With very submissive women, I love to be dominant so I can go both ways. Both can be very hotttt and it depends on the fantasy exploration side of the session.

buzzworm86 · 10-19-2011, 03:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Anita Lay

I am a DOM all the way... men need a break from all the control and leadership roles they are expected to do in everyday life. They can't go wrong if the Dom is telling them what to do... has its advantages. But I can't force someone to do something they don't like, ohhhh nooooo. In todays porn they mix Domination with S&M and thats a big no no... controlling is one thing but leaving someone physically marked and bruised is not my thang when the S&M part comes up.
Somone asked me what s&m was, its some kind of physical torture and it can be done in different degrees of pain and I won't go there.

Mistress Lay, you could force me if you wanted to. You could just demand something, or a little slap, I'm a push over. LOL!

I'm so easy a company recuiter interviewed me today and said "I want you to come and work for me" I just said "OK" so now I have a new job. I'm that easy. I think I need help, lol.

buttlover7777 · 10-19-2011, 03:59 PM

DOM. No interest whatsoever in subbing. Tying and blindfolding a pretty girl then making her have orgasm after orgasm really gets me off. Yes sir no sir, making her beg, that's what I like. I really don't get into giving the sub any substantial pain like you see on some of the sites like at KINK.com. If I think I'm hurting her, I'm gonna go limp. Grab her hair spank her butt as long as she's into it, so am I.