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MistressOlympia · 11-03-2010, 04:38 AM

I am just beginning to explore how my fetishes can be included in future escorting, but I was curious as to whether there were people who were into combining the two? I see women advertising that they are comfortable with fetishes, but I assume they mean things like Greek and Facials...where I am asking about stuff like Golden/Brown showers, Roleplay (Raceplay as well) , Bondage, and other things.

I'm new here, so this may have been asked before is so let me know.

Thanks so much!

Krunkman · 11-03-2010, 08:47 AM

There seems to be a divide between "true" dommes, and provider dommes. That divide carries over to clients as well as the dommes/providers. There have been some threads on here lately that have talked about that, and people have expressed their opinions.

Ultimately you need to decide for yourself how it should work for you, just as clients will decide how they wish to see and partake of it. I think there is also an element of equipment, training and experience that sets apart the "true" dommes from provider dommes. Those who are "fetish friendly" don't really go that extra mile when it comes to a well-equipped dungeon and bondage skills. And those dommes who have invested the time into being highly skilled with bondage gear and assembling a well-equipped dungeon do not tend to offer sexual services. Though this is NOT a hard and fast rule, but the dommes I know (assuming they do sometime indulge the sub with sexual favors) keep it very much on the down low.

Bondage is a common fetish, as is roleplay. I have only seen a very few ads that deal with showers (golden, brown, roman or otherwise). That does not seem to be a highly sought-after fetish, and for the most part I think a lot of people's squeamishness with that sort of thing keep it pretty limited.

Oh, welcome to our little corner of the web!

daberkow · 11-03-2010, 09:02 AM

Speaking for myself, I believe bdsm can never be separated from sexuality- a domme wears corset and whatnot for a reason. For me I see it as wanting to please a sexually powerful mistress in every way- especially if gets off on teasing and torturing me to an extreme degree. I like seeing how far she will push me and how far I am willing to go for her. I want the domme to sincerely enjoy using me however she sees fit- so if a domme wants me to pleasure her in any way of course I am willing.

Teasing and denial are very popular, and if you look at what meninpain puts out there are people who want to see (and likely experience) a domme using them as a sex object.

For me personally I would love for a domme to tie me up on the floor and throw a condom on and use me as her living vibrator, and be as rough as she wants. But I would feel weird about explicitly asking for it- again most of my enjoyment as a submissive comes from giving the domme what she wants, so I like it to be the domme's idea. For whatever reason most pros clearly state this is verboten.(or maybe I'm too newbiesh, but it seems it's not just for LE) Some won't even tease with hand or footjob or do naked smothering, but I'm sure that many that would enjoy it.

On the other hand there are plenty who just want to be punished and humiliated, and for those types any sex would be too much of a reward for them as they want to remain a worthless slave.

Krunkman · 11-03-2010, 09:48 AM

There seems to be an unwritten rule that says pro-dommes shall not shag their submissives (unless its with a strap-on) nor engage in oral sex with them. Or else they get ostrasized by the community as being a hooker domme.

I can understand with those feelings that any domme that would have sex with their client keeps it under the radar and out of the news.

MistressOlympia · 11-03-2010, 05:13 PM

Thanks for your responses!

The reason I asked is because I've been working as a Domme for quite a while and have found that it limits me. I like to think that sessions should be done the way they would be if you were playing with a man who wasn't paying you, i.e., in a way that actually gets you off. While I love just using a man as a toilet, or just using my strap on on him (in the context of a scene) I would also like to be able to use them as sex toys, so I decided it would be smart to expand into the Escort market...I definitely will have to tailor it to my own needs and desires, but I am essentially looking to transition into full service domination, if that makes any sense.

Again, thanks for your answers, I appreciate them.

Krunkman · 11-03-2010, 08:44 PM

You have the right idea there Olympia. Sessions should be between the two affected parties, and as long as two consenting adults are enjoying their time together, all should be well!

Unfortunately, reality isn't quite like that. But it's a nice thing to think about.

MistressOlympia · 11-03-2010, 08:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Krunkman

You have the right idea there Olympia. Sessions should be between the two affected parties, and as long as two consenting adults are enjoying their time together, all should be well!

Unfortunately, reality isn't quite like that. But it's a nice thing to think about.

I KNOW! It's such a shame! I just want to have fun, I abhor doing anything I don't truly enjoy, you know? I will have to figure out a way to attract the clients looking for what I want.

Easier said than done.

MistressOlympia · 11-03-2010, 08:58 PM

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Originally Posted by daberkow

Speaking for myself, I believe bdsm can never be separated from sexuality- a domme wears corset and whatnot for a reason. For me I see it as wanting to please a sexually powerful mistress in every way- especially if gets off on teasing and torturing me to an extreme degree. I like seeing how far she will push me and how far I am willing to go for her. I want the domme to sincerely enjoy using me however she sees fit- so if a domme wants me to pleasure her in any way of course I am willing.

Teasing and denial are very popular, and if you look at what meninpain puts out there are people who want to see (and likely experience) a domme using them as a sex object.

For me personally I would love for a domme to tie me up on the floor and throw a condom on and use me as her living vibrator, and be as rough as she wants. But I would feel weird about explicitly asking for it- again most of my enjoyment as a submissive comes from giving the domme what she wants, so I like it to be the domme's idea. For whatever reason most pros clearly state this is verboten.(or maybe I'm too newbiesh, but it seems it's not just for LE) Some won't even tease with hand or footjob or do naked smothering, but I'm sure that many that would enjoy it.

On the other hand there are plenty who just want to be punished and humiliated, and for those types any sex would be too much of a reward for them as they want to remain a worthless slave.

We'd get along just fine!

I encourage my clients to send me an email after they've red through what I offer and be honest about what they're looking for, to see if we synch up. I understand that it'd be nervewracking to do that because there will be women who won't respond or won't be into it, but I've found that when a client is ultra honest and we are both interested....well.... the session is that much better.

JadeNow · 11-03-2010, 09:31 PM

I have a close fried who used to work as a Domme. She NEVER fully satisfied her clients, that was all part of the "teasing and denial", she called it. I guess there's many kinds of Dommes, just like anything else, but in my understanding, Escorts and Dommes are usually separate roles. It is hard to cover such a wide market, as one person, and attract all the right people.
My friend told me she marketed herself as two different people to be able to advertise two different services, in different places. It became too much for her, and she finally retired. I guess you need to specialize, and focus your advertising so you can reach your target markets. I think it is awesome what you are doing, there's a need for EVERY different type pf person!
Go for it!

MistressOlympia · 11-03-2010, 09:44 PM

Thanks! I would be up for advertising as two different folks if I didn't want to do both kinds of work in my sessions...I would be unfulfilled with just escorting.

lilsmurf · 11-04-2010, 02:21 AM

Dommes are out for me then, damn!

MistressOlympia · 11-04-2010, 02:38 AM

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Originally Posted by lilsmurf

Dommes are out for me then, damn!

What do you mean?

JadeNow · 11-04-2010, 04:09 AM

I'm sorry, I didn't mean to tell you what to do in your business, just sharing my only experience, which was vicarious! LOL!
I do wish you luck!

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Originally Posted by MistressOlympia

Thanks! I would be up for advertising as two different folks if I didn't want to do both kinds of work in my sessions...I would be unfulfilled with just escorting.

lilsmurf · 11-04-2010, 05:13 AM

Well I love how erotic it is to be dominated.
But without some kinda release for me sometime,
I just wouldnt be interested at all.

MistressOlympia · 11-04-2010, 05:54 AM

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Originally Posted by JadeNow

I'm sorry, I didn't mean to tell you what to do in your business, just sharing my only experience, which was vicarious! LOL!
I do wish you luck!

I was totally not offended, don't worry! You were right on the money, I just know it would make me sad to be boxed in.