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sue_nami · 08-19-2018, 11:12 AM

would you want your wife or girlfriend to be in this business? what if you have an LTR and she wants to try this job, what would you think and tell her? what about a close friend who you really care about but not a lover and have known each other for years and she comes to you and says i am thinking of trying this out. would you be supportive? with what caveats? would it matter if it was FS or FBSM? what if you got romantically involved with a woman already in this profession, would you want her to quit? just curious about y'all's thoughts on this matter. what if a new woman you met admitted she used to be an escort but that was years ago?

Treetop78759 · 08-19-2018, 11:16 AM

No way I would support someone who was debating or wanting to escort or dance.

It would be much better if she was already an escort or dancer because that's who she is when we met.

Little Monster · 08-19-2018, 12:14 PM

If my wife or gf told me she wanted to let gods know how many other men stick their dicks inside her behind my back, I would slit that goddamn selfish, thoughtless, bitch's throat and then bash her fucking skull in without even thinking twice about it.

Hypothetically speaking of course....

Old-T · 08-19-2018, 01:25 PM

I have some experience with a couple of these

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what about a close friend who you really care about but not a lover and have known each other for years and she comes to you and says i am thinking of trying this out. would you be supportive?
Happened twice. Both times I tried to make sure she was informed about some of the reality vs the hype. I introduced each to a few ladies I trust and were similar to she in personality, age, etc. so they ladies could answer questions I am not in the best place to answer.

One decided not to. One did. I helped the one who got into the business set some things up so she could do it as safely as possible. I wasn't sure it was right for her, but yes, once she decided, I supported her decision as I would anyone I care about.

if you got romantically involved with a woman already in this profession, would you want her to quit?
Yes. She agreed, but it wound up not working out for reasons having nothing to do with this business.

just curious about y'all's thoughts on this matter. what if a new woman you met admitted she used to be an escort but that was years ago?

That would make no difference to me it would be old history.

Whispers · 08-19-2018, 01:56 PM

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Originally Posted by sue_nami

would you want your wife or girlfriend to be in this business?

Absolutely Not.

what if you have an LTR and she wants to try this job, what would you think and tell her?

I would tell her there were other solutions to whatever issue was driving her towards it and help her find a more socially acceptable resolution or say Bye!

what about a close friend who you really care about but not a lover and have known each other for years and she comes to you and says i am thinking of trying this out. would you be supportive? with what caveats? would it matter if it was FS or FBSM?

I would tell her there were other solutions to whatever issue was driving her towards it and help her find a more socially acceptable resolution or say Bye!

what if you got romantically involved with a woman already in this profession, would you want her to quit?

Been there.... I did suggest she quit and that I would help her into a new life but also concluded the feelings were misplaced and the most we could ever be was friends.

just curious about y'all's thoughts on this matter. what if a new woman you met admitted she used to be an escort but that was years ago?

I've known a lot of prostitutes and know a couple of dozen ex-prostitutes. The longest being a girl that left the business 8 years ago but I've known her from before she started in it. A relationship that spans 19 years.

Neither her nor a one of them is involved in a happy, healthy relationship and not one time have they told their love interest the truth and maintained the relationship more than a year before the guy leaves.

being a prostitute is just not an acceptable background for most here in the US raised in this culture. Perhaps if a woman had a partner from a country where prostitution is more a way of life for women.

or if one of you falls for a pimp or guy that had a prostitute for a mother....

Men tend to want a woman like their moms.... and virgins of course.....

A lot of relationships crumble these days as a result of a partner sharing information with the other about their sexual history. Most simply don't want to know.....

58% of relationships (that's the number that keeps getting thrown around.) end in the US and finding out you SO is/was a prostitute is not a typical reason but it's a number that would most likely increase if more started "coming out" to their partners....

Whispers · 08-19-2018, 02:03 PM

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if you got romantically involved with a woman already in this profession, would you want her to quit?

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Yes. She agreed, but it wound up not working out for reasons having nothing to do with this business.

You are a fairly smart man, misguided at times IMO, but smart.

Relationships under the best of circumstances take effort to maintain. Many tend to work harder to make things work as a result of a "need" for the partnership and what it brings.

Not a lot of women have the flexibility to walk away from a relationship and turn 15 tricks to make $4500 in the week immediately following.

If a need for support exists for a woman do you believe that a prostitute, knowing this, is less apt to work through something a woman never having entertained the though of selling her body might work harder to maintain?

Old-T · 08-19-2018, 03:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Whispers

If a need for support exists for a woman do you believe that a prostitute, knowing this, is less apt to work through something a woman never having entertained the though of selling her body might work harder to maintain?

I think for any woman the decision to stay in a relationship involves weighing the work & odds of fixing it vs the benefit of leaving. Any lady who has this experience, or any marketable experience, sees less risk in leaving and therefor may not work as hard to maintain it.

I think a lot depends upon how much of her reasons for getting into the relationship were financial support vs emotional or other things. The more it was financial, the more your point is valid.

At one extreme are the battered women who refuse to leave a man--whether it is near total emotional dependency, or a great fear that they can make it on their own--or both.

In my case, money was not the issue. Her standard of living would have been roughly the same no matter which choice she made. Only a little of her income came from escorting.

Unique_Carpenter · 08-19-2018, 07:10 PM

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Originally Posted by sue_nami

would you want your wife or girlfriend to be in this business?
Nope
what if you have an LTR and she wants to try this job, what would you think and tell her?
You'll lose me
what about a close friend who you really care about but not a lover and have known each other for years and she comes to you and says i am thinking of trying this out. would you be supportive? with what caveats? would it matter if it was FS or FBSM?
Try talk her out of it, supportive regardless, make sure she understands the safety and emotional implications. BTW, been there.
what if you got romantically involved with a woman already in this profession, would you want her to quit?
Not gonna happen, perspective prevents. She might become a close friend though. BTW, been there
just curious about y'all's thoughts on this matter.
what if a new woman you met admitted she used to be an escort but that was years ago?
A civie is a civie regardless of past.

sue,
A very interesting rack of questions, and, not hypothetical.
I introduced the emotional implications concept as IMO the effort of being "on stage" for hours a day is emotionally draining.

Guest082318 · 08-19-2018, 09:21 PM

My first wife stripped her way through college. We were young and it didn’t bother me. I enjoyed the fringe benefits of partying with dancers and the occasional 3 way. Current SO is former provider and it was discussed up front along with my participation in the hobby. No, I would probably not be ok with her going back to it but she has no desire to either.

I’ve also been in a relationship with someone whom I met while hobbying. It was mutually beneficial relationship but we both caught feelings and she moved in with me. At first I didn’t want her to continue working but woukd have been supportive either way. She also felt weird about it and stopped seeing clients but we both realized that even though I supported us financially, she needed to earn her own money and be more independent for her own self worth. She started seeing a few clients mainly to support her very expensive makeup, lingerie and skincare product habit. Lol. It didn’t work out but but not because of her line of work. We are still very close she knows I always have her back and whenever she needs male talent for a porn shoot or a friend to hang out with.

Hypothetically speaking that is. Any overlapping of situations are not going to be explained, hypothetically shit got and is very complicated.

discreetx · 08-21-2018, 03:27 AM

I would support the lady, but I would have some concerns about where we were headed. Certainly a better option then the lady have a secret affair behind my back. Been there, done that.

Treetop78759 · 09-07-2018, 02:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Old-T

I think for any woman the decision to stay in a relationship involves weighing the work & odds of fixing it vs the benefit of leaving. Any lady who has this experience, or any marketable experience, sees less risk in leaving and therefor may not work as hard to maintain it.

I think a lot depends upon how much of her reasons for getting into the relationship were financial support vs emotional or other things. The more it was financial, the more your point is valid.

At one extreme are the battered women who refuse to leave a man--whether it is near total emotional dependency, or a great fear that they can make it on their own--or both.

In my case, money was not the issue. Her standard of living would have been roughly the same no matter which choice she made. Only a little of her income came from escorting.

Always enjoy reading your words of wisdom.

Dev Null · 09-17-2018, 07:39 AM

Everything has its pros and cons. On the up side, you would have a very experienced partner, but on the down side, sex might not be her top priority off the clock.

If you really enjoy having a cook-out and flipping burgers on the grill, that can be a lot of fun. Maybe not so much if you just did a shift at Whataburger.

Ollie Pop · 09-17-2018, 10:32 AM

I’m sort of curious how the ladies feel about this and what experiences, similar to the above conversation or not, they have had.

For once, a thread with some civil discourse.

HiHopes · 09-17-2018, 11:20 AM

It is very common in the amps that are considered L1 only, these girls and owner's are married or have boyfriend's. They see 5 to 8 client's a day, 7 days a week. Anything from HJ, daty with each Customer, some will have FS at Least once a day, their partner's do not care. They don't ask. It is a rule. They bring home the money, the partner is Happy. The girls have no real feelings for the Customer , boyfriend it husband. They are so immune to sex and feelings it is just about the money. They all make u believe it is for their family, but they are racking up to the money. The older white Knights believe they have a special relationship with their favorite. The answer to the question is if you are ok with your partner making a lot if money, and can not ask any questions it is probably ok. Chinese women look at it as a job , nothing more, no feeling or emotionally connection to anyone except money. They probably have it right.