Entry into a swingers club and single and p4p???

[Zena]

Ok - First of all, thank you to so so many of you for not judging me or telling me WHERE I CAN GO! on many of my posts and threads ... I love the friendship that I feel from you all here ... I am nervous about asking this BECAUSE I DONT EVEN KNOW H O W to ask this question .... I'm Single. Most Swingers clubs want you to come as a couple .... I'm a Companion ( lets face it ....lol ) I would love to do a type of p4p in a Swingers club - but only with a man who chose ME for that .....I'm only about 40% interested in the $.... I'm 60% or MUCH MORE interested in the Hot Hot Hot sex you all have there!!!! Yeah !

I want that too !!! I'm a Freak and a Nympho ! I admit ! ! Guilty !!!!

lol !!!! . I would never never try to pick up a client or clients there ! Totally unprofessional ! Totally uncool and I would be kicked out in 20 seconds or less .... Is there a way to do P 4 p at a Swingers club ??? and to be Single ? at one .... if the organizer or group found out what I am.... I might be kicked out immediately and VERY embarassed....
I'm a TOTAL Virgin at Swingers club FUN & activities & ALL OF IT ..... but yet I find it VERY very very erotic and FUN and possibly very SATISFYING!!!!

I'm an EXHIBITIONIST - BIG BIG TIME !!! slightly embarassed yes ...because im a NEWBIE...and yes just a touch of voyeur in me too. I'm in Wacko, Tx..... no no ...just ..no. . . not doing it in Waco .... ( lol )

Better to go to Dallas or Austin for this - I'm guessing -

yeah .......sigh... so that is my question... How the hell would I do ANY of this

stuff??? since I just asked 3 or 4 weird questions in my long crazy post here ??

Or should I just say - Fuck it and give up on the idea....

or do it a few times OTC ( NO p4p ) THERE are some advantages to that, and some disadvantages as its not JUST ABOUT $$ to me.... but I don't like it that I didn't screen them ....they are strangers off the street , I could be at risk for std's, forced Bb, being exposed to drugs, drug use , etc etc ....

I don't think I'm wrong for being cautious , but is it stupid for me to ask these questions to see if there IS A WAY I COULD DO THIS ??? THANKS EVERYONE - for not judging me.

If your answer is long or private you can p m it to me instead...

[GypsyHeart]

Women set the rules in the lifestyle and no means no. Period.

Single females are coveted and usually have a free or really cheap cover.

Swingers are gossips and usually very clean. If Bob gets something from Carol then everyone in the circle will know in 2 days.

To set up a p4p, just make it a date. The club/party venue need not know your arrangement.

I have been in it for 14 years

[Guest083119]

What Gypsy said. As long as you don’t proposition people at the club, the proprietor won’t care. Plenty of dancers and escorts are into the scene. Some couples will not like that you aren’t in a committed relationship with your date, so it’s better to go on nights with single guys because the people on those nights are usually not as uptight. Definitely don’t let on if you’re being compensated for your time. Also, set realistic expectations for your date. You’re going for the experience, not specific activities. YMMV on any given night at any given club.

Clubs are fun, even when you don’t hook up. Especially if you’re a voyeur. Enjoy!

[mikehammer002001]

Yep, you can normally get in for free and just test the waters

[Ms. Athena]

Just remember you will be using your real ID to enter. Since I was in the swinger lifestyle way before the hobby, everyone at the club knew my real name and life. So going with a client meant I had to trust him more then just meeting BCD. I also set a flat rate to go and never promised anything beyond our playing together. Which is what I did with a real life date as well. He was open to explore and enjoy the club with me on his arm to open doors...I always warned these are my friends so please don't approach them if you return...works great if client is from out of town. But I suggest you go with a real life friend to get your feet wet and know your surroundings prior to a p4p date there. Side note many clubs are changing on site play with new laws

[Zena]

Amazing Awesome comments here ! Thank you!!!!

[pathfinder420]

As others have said, ladies rules the scene. If you're uncomfortable with anyone or if anyone tries to force you into anything, people will back you up and shun the creep.

[SweetSuzanna]

I want that too. I hear women can go single but not men? Is that common? I am worried that i wont be attracted to anyone. Then they will think im a snob. So anyplace in Kansas city?

[pmdelites]

the clubs in dallas i’ve been to always admitted single women (by themself or two+ gal pals). on thur & fri nites, they admitted single men (nites may vary by club). just chk w/ the club beforehand. phone numbers and/or websites are a websearch away.

of all the times i went, i took a provider (or two or three) with me. usually not much interaction on first visit - i gathered swingers want to know you somewhat. we never let on who we were and thus, never had any problems.

when one goes, one may or may not be attracted to anyone. that’s okay. just be friendly and respectful. say yes only if you want to get intimate w/ that person or couple.

finally, DO NOT go there to look for a paying client. that’s not what the lifestyle is all about. you could arrange to meet your client there - you could do a role play: two single people meeting by chance at a swingers club. but get agreement between you two on fees, alcoholic beverages, who can do what and with whom. and who leaves with whom.
communucation is key.

they dont call it “intercourse” for nothing :^}

[Ms. Athena]

Great advice from a sweet hot man

[pmdelites]

Originally Posted by Ms. Athena

Great advice from a sweet hot man

assuming you’re referencing me,
MERCI BEAUCOUP, MON AMOUR <3

[ghost]

We are in the lifestyle, and the first rule of the lifestyle is NO MEANS NO, as in YOU set the limits of all activity. There are many single females in the lifestyle and they are in total control. You’ll be welcomed into any decent club with open arms.

Being from Seattle and Denver we’ve had many expertise’s in GREAT clubs. In Texas we’ve not gone to any yet, but there are some here in DFW.

If you’d like more answers feel free to ask via PM, I don't truly feel comfortable giving information here as it might be seen as completion etc....there are also several websites around for swingers, often offering discounts to single women.

PS even as a single male I went to clubs, fortunately I’m not a pariah and many couples have adopted me in a way. Because I travel seeing couples has been my outlet, and fortunately I’ve a permanent hall pass to do so.

[yourdesire]

We can go as a couple just to get a feel of the place, I'm game. Nothing says you can't be a gay couple just couples 😀