Hello to all! I'm coming forth offering some clarity. Hopefully, it'll eliminate any misunderstandings or gossip about myself particularly and any other traveling hobbyist without offending anyone.
I'd like to thank every provider I've met including any within the future, for taking the time of honoring the session(s) with guided assistance for travel and patience, as my commute consists of hours.
Just now recently, me being the well coordinated punctual person I am, preparing a day ahead, I've had to make a cancellation shy of an hour of scheduling, first ever. Unfortunately, it was with one whom I had great interest of reuniting having "stellar" reviews and all the works.
Reason being, I attempted to brainstorm a proper where about for myself to obtain a punctual session arrival. Knowing I'm verified and not a stranger, I sensed an incoming ordeal of insult just for inquiring about any helpful GPS matter after departure or nearing city.
In the mist of insult, it was brought to my attention that "the girls" are talking about you and "this", what a rude awakening. How embarrassing so, it deflated the mood in its entirety. With the previous session of ours, I approached the meeting 15 minutes late, no mercy witnessed, but hey no sweat, yet EXPENSIVE. All that due to being in an unfamiliar area without any sense of timing in a city Vs where I was located particularly in that city when exact location was offered. Pros right?
Honoring an appointment, I suggest providers have at least a nearby location in mind to offer that'll expedite a proper arrival if the exact may be uncomfortable. That simple!
I did not ask to converse during the commute, neither did I mention the GPS must be exact destination although would greatly benefit any road trip anxiety. The 20+ providers I've reviewed or haven't reviewed didn't have a problem offering. If I haven't seen you already, they can enlighten you as my references.
What's the purpose for references if providers decisions are influenced by gossip or if not even contacted at all (another story)? Especially a provider that a hobbyist has never had a session with?
One may boast,"the majority of my clients travel to see me,"...Ok? I guess where I'm confused at is if I'm coming to see you, how on God's green earth, will I get there if you don't explain? To me, doing so offers more sense of the meetings validation, a tad bit of care, and most of all an appreciation of interest at effort to support. Hospitality?
Don't insult a guy and convince him with enough to cancel, then text him later after the phone call was ended later thanking him. A more provider friendly approach would be resolving such to a conclusion resulting a happy ending, then text and thank him later. But when you get a ton of business, I guess the initial approach is easier. As a derivative of that, I'll either mosey or better yet, save.
I was totally unaware that this was an such an issue aired out by providers I haven't even visited, without my knowledge or defense of explanation. Why isn't this brought to light? Why is it hidden. There are solutions. If you're a provider I've met before, did you come to my defense?
Some providers get offended by just being asked basics defending with "resort to my reviews". Apparently it's not included or one doesn't have access. If there is any concern after verifying me, again, resort to whom I've reviewed.
I am aware of a well "stellar" reviewed provider, no names, and if she feels to object she'll intro herself, may have contributed to this. I decided to visit her during the blackout. Due to timing, I wouldn't see her for awhile. Understood. All in all, she voluntarily shot across a pic or two. Beautiful gesture!
Meanwhile, I attempted her offering as a ref a few times, but they all claimed she never responded. One verifying me at the time nearing this refs hosting. Contacted via text with concern about provider reaching out. She tells me she did. It was already to late for me.
We texted a bit about screening and, I informed her about
https://eccie.net/showthread.php?t=2445998
That clearly alone didn't hit base with her after telling her I'd be interested seeing her. Day of intended interest, I discussed when I could possibly make it to the city only. She hadn't even made it yet, but was nearing. Without scheduling an appointment, she gave me her exact location. Hmm? That's different.
So I proceeded to make sure this was her. I told her I would call her with appointment time. She stated her phone didn't have a call feature. Whuuuuuut? So I say to my self, hmm... I comfortably requested a selfie with a specific pose due to her sending of the past. She shoots one across with a humongous emoji covering 65-75% of what I requested. At that point, I was looking for the moon through my ceiling. She says I don't send pics including my face. Whuuuuuuuut?
I immediately thought this wasn't her. I just knew it. I declined respectfully with the reasoning of my safety and thanked her. I was through. She became berated and ridiculed me messages after messages, because I told her otherwise. Comparing me to problems with offering pics to significant people of her RW situation, she told off on herself unknowingly. Went on and on and on to a point where she just had to prove it was her. She told me something only she knows about myself.
So I give in and engage in making the appointment. She then tells me to never contact her again? So I became concerned, she stated for her safety. OK... Huh?
Other than her, I feel that everyone I've reviewed can vouch for me being a traveler. I don't know about anyone else, but if I'm tossing up XXX, driving MILES on top of MILES to a particular session, I expect to arrive in a timely manner for a full duration of session, unless arriving late due to such still permits the full session. IJS
Venting/Clarification: A Traveling Hobbyist
Sorry Luv...
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