Help me understand

[lipsandhipster]

Why do so many providers not even acknowledge they receive your Pms? Why have an account and want your hard earned $$ and cant even be courteous enough to respond, even if it is a thank you, just not interested right now, or I need more references, or even FO buddy, your aren't for me. Of course once the glimmer runs off and the lines run out, they want you to come running right before the rent is due. To me this tells me I want nothing to do with that kind of service regardless. I can go to Walmart if that is what I want.

[slubby]

Originally Posted by lipsandhipster

Why do so many providers not even acknowledge they receive your Pms? Why have an account and want your hard earned $$ and cant even be courteous enough to respond, even if it is a thank you, just not interested right now, or I need more references, or even FO buddy, your aren't for me. Of course once the glimmer runs off and the lines run out, they want you to come running right before the rent is due. To me this tells me I want nothing to do with that kind of service regardless. I can go to Walmart if that is what I want.

You need to look at it from their angle. If you send a provider an email (and I'm not saying you do, but guys do do this) and that email is:

1) Very vague (Hey, what's up? Hey, you available?).
2) You don't tell the girl what you're looking for (how long you want to see her, when you want to see her, what kind of session you want).
3) You don't send her a list of your references.
4) You don't send her a way to contact you (other than an Eccie message)
5) You don't tell her directly "I want to book a session with you".

....then she probably won't take you serious at all. Women on this site probably get 30-50 emails per day. Do something to stand out so your email gets answered AND the lady knows you are serious about wanting to book a session with her.

They don't have the time to answer every-single-email.

[pmdelites]

it can be frustrating when all you get is silence.
i’ve experienced my fair share, even w/ my “reliable” favs.

”Why do so many providers not even acknowledge they receive your Pms?”
cos they can. and cos there is little downside if & when they do.

but what slubby said is spot on! some providers are innundated w/ pvtmsgs, emails, txts, calls, tweets or toots.
let’s say your msg is “properly” crafted and you dont hear anything back in a day or two. there’s your answer - pass on her and move on. (a day or two to give her time to respond)

there’s a whole lot of “i wish/hope/expect/want ....” about this crazy sub-culture that i wish were “my way.”

but there is not an enforcement agency much less rules or regulations about how we operate/behave.

so, i suggest you scale back your expectations to lessen the frustrations.

then, when it works for you, be glad & thankful you got some delites!
and when it doesnt work for you, be glad & thankful you still have your money and dont have a less than deliteful memory.

good luck in your next attempt at delites!

[cinderbella]

Hi, raises hand. I am guilty of this. I totally admit it.



Sometimes the requests can be more than one provider can deal with. Never take it personally. I can see why it is so frustrating. Would not want to be on the guy side of this equation. Hope you find a hottie who makes you happy.

I realize this post was not about me. I just wanted to chime in and provide some sort of explanation. Until they wise up and decriminalize this business, you will always find yourself dealing with unorthodox people who tend to be a bit difficult to figure out.

[mrredcat43]

OP, you gotta stand out. CinderBella knows what the deal is. Any guy can send a pm, saying "hey", or "are you available".

Write a little paragraph about what makes her stand out to you. Mention something along the lines of intellect, make note of her likes and dislikes in her profile. If you're outside her spectrum of things that she excludes, example, guys over 40 only, if you're outside that, let her know you that respect her guidelines. You never know, they just might bend the rules for you IF you are NOT part of the stereotype.

[BLM69]

I say F them and move on, nobody has time to play games when it comes to business $

[TheOracle]

I think you may need to curtail your expectations. There is no real screening process, or prerequisites, to be a provider other than being of legal age and having a desire to make easy money. Any girl (18 & up) can literally wake up tomorrow morning and decide they want to sell themselves to make money. Unfortunately, that also means she can have no business savvy, professionalism, or courtesy, whatsoever, and it doesn't stop her from entering the "hobby" world. In a lot of cases, it doesn't even stop them from getting consistent business. If she has those qualities that's great, but it's not mandatory. It's the same reason why damn near every other day there is a thread where some guy drove across town only for the girl to stop answering his calls or texts when he arrived at her incall.

Then there are some who genuinely may be bombarded with messages and it's an honest oversight. Although rare, I have seen some cases where a girl never opened the PM I sent.

Like BLM69 said, just move on to the next one. All this jumping through hoops and trying to "make yourself stand out" like you're submitting a resume or employment application is doing waaaaay too much imo. There's way too many girls to subject yourself to that. After all, YOU are the paying customer. Trust me, there's no shortage of women willing to help you part with your money. Lol.

[Souper]

Example of what NOT to say:
Hey Babe, Just got over wart sugary on my genitals and need relief.

[Guest0220]

Originally Posted by lipsandhipster

I can go to Walmart if that is what I want.

Now Walmart has crossed the damn line. If Walmart is selling mediocre pussy now a lot of ladies better learn to pad a resume, quick! Are there any other local small businesses left for Walmart to surcease?
😁

[lipsandhipster]

Originally Posted by Infamous BJ

Now Walmart has crossed the damn line. If Walmart is selling mediocre pussy now a lot of ladies better learn to pad a resume, quick! Are there any other local small businesses left for Walmart to surcease?
😁

Hey BJ, I am waiting on Amazon Prime to just drop some pussy of at my door. LOL
Just kidding, I am in pursuit of quality only. Hence my comments.

[pmdelites]

Originally Posted by mrredcat43

OP, you gotta stand out. CinderBella knows what the deal is. Any guy can send a pm, saying "hey", or "are you available".

Write a little paragraph about what makes her stand out to you. Mention something along the lines of intellect, make note of her likes and dislikes in her profile. If you're outside her spectrum of things that she excludes, example, guys over 40 only, if you're outside that, let her know you that respect her guidelines. You never know, they just might bend the rules for you IF you are NOT part of the stereotype.

even if a guy does all that, there’s little or no correlation that such an approach will result in a response.

just inquire politely w/ when you wanna meet and that you’re willing to provide references (either in msg or later). any firm of flattery ir “ooooooh baby, you’re sexy! let’s do it to it!!” is just gravy :^}

good luck!!

[Laura Lynn]

Originally Posted by lipsandhipster

Why do so many providers not even acknowledge they receive your Pms? Why have an account and want your hard earned $$ and cant even be courteous enough to respond, even if it is a thank you, just not interested right now, or I need more references, or even FO buddy, your aren't for me. Of course once the glimmer runs off and the lines run out, they want you to come running right before the rent is due. To me this tells me I want nothing to do with that kind of service regardless. I can go to Walmart if that is what I want.

In my opinion, it's not professional to completely ignore a message; however for some of us, real life just gets in the way and hobby gets placed on the back burner. Just like you, our actual job interferes with our playtime or our family obligations require our full attention. I generally leave my hobby phone behind when I'm wearing my mommy hat, so I'm not distracted.

Typically, I respond to messages or emails from current friends first (perks of being a membwr of the Laura Lynn fan club Lol) before looking at messages from gents that are unknown to me.

[MT Pockets]

I had this happen to me yesterday. I had a window of time to play and sent a PM to a provider and she responded right away that she could not make it.
I thanked her and sent one to someone I have been dying to meet but she is a bit out of my area. I manipulated my time so I could make it if she said yes. I did not hear from her. By the time I felt she was not going to respond it was too late to set anything up.
I called a few that I had a number for and nothing panned out. So I hit a Sub Amp. I had fun but it was not what I was looking for.

I noticed she looked at my PM bud did not respond. I really want to meet her but I am not gonna beg. I would rather she just say sorry I am busy or tell me she does not want to see me.

[ValenTX]

Originally Posted by TheOracle

There is no real screening process, or prerequisites, to be a provider other than being of legal age and having a desire to make easy money. Any girl (18 & up) can literally wake up tomorrow morning and decide they want to sell themselves to make money.

What? You mean they do not have to spend 8 years in college and get a PHD to make 10 times what average guy does? LOL

[TheOracle]

Originally Posted by ValenTX

What? You mean they do not have to spend 8 years in college and get a PHD to make 10 times what average guy does? LOL

Lol. I'm assuming you're being a bit facetious and hyperbolic, because if the average provider was making that type of money the talent pool of women would be exponentially larger than it is.