Jealousy/Arousal

[mitch p]

Sometimes when I read a review about one of my regulars I get a little jealous and extremely aroused. Does this happen to any body else or am I just a sick son of a bitch.

[CoverMe]

The arousal part is fine. It means that you like to think about the way she treats you BCD. The jealousy part is potentially a problem. It means that you may be getting emotionally attached, which is a red flag. This is what she does for at least part of her living and it is something you need to completely accept. It is a slippery slope when jealousy or some sense of possessiveness enters the picture. I’ve been there and learned my lesson.

[mitch p]

I accept what a provider does for a living and I know this is just a fantasy. There's just something extremely exciting to me.

[HedonisticFool]

males are pre-wired for dominance. when a male suspects or knows a vixen has been mounted by another male, our primal instinct is to flood her with our seed. we become overwhelmed with arousal, will fuk her brains out and will dump the biggest load at that time while experiencing a mind blowing climax. unbelievably, under different circumstances of course, if both acts were unprotected, opposing sperm literally go to war.

so, mitch p, if ur head spins when ur reading about an ATF sharing that good-good lovin’ with another monger...it’s not unnatural. and don’t believe that feelings for the provider are the cause...but by all means, don’t let it get to u when ur with any of them!

Originally Posted by mitch p

Sometimes when I read a review about one of my regulars I get a little jealous and extremely aroused. Does this happen to any body else or am I just a sick son of a bitch.

[lovelyevelyn]

There's a regular I have who likes to ask while in the act how many I've seen this week... Lol I just giggle.

You're fine Mitch as long as you don't cross any boundaries. Maybe you can set up something with her and watch

[LuvSex]

You need to get a reality check or stop seeing that provider. You better hope she is a decent person or else you are about to get played.

[Kimber Rose]

I was going to say it’s natural but you just get jealous reading reviews on one specific provider? That could become a problem. My advice is stop reading her reviews or be happy for her. Root her on! Then the next time you see her make her yours all over again!

[mitch p]

When I said jealous I did not mean in a negative way. Maybe I should have used the word envious. So just to be clear it's a turn on to me. No anger or negative thoughts. Just the urge for pleasure. I think HedonisticFool nailed it. LovelyEvelyn understands as long as there are boundaries.

Luvsex, thanks for your coment. However it seems really paranoid if your really that afraid of providers you should rethink this hobby. Every time a hobbiest sees a provider their has to be some element of trust or else the whole system collapses. Not saying there aren't some bad apples out there. That's what this board is for, helping us weed out the bad ones. With that said if you do your research well you will realize there are some awesome provider in SA with a ton of integrity. I we all got a reality check we would stop and save our $ and meet woman the old fashioned way. Who has time that.

CoverMe, extreme arousal is hardly emotional attachment. I'm just one extremely horney SOB. I get wood every time the wind blows. The fact that I visit a provider on a regular basis tells me she is extremely good at what she does.

[Dr Grey]

Mitch, you may not think that way right now. I've been there and done that also. Turned out I was more emotionally vested than I should of been, and perhaps both ways all the same. I never even read her reviews but would comment time to time thanking guys for reviewing her. Just think about this, if she were to tell you tomorrow she doesn't think you all should see each other anymore, how would you feel? That will tell you more than feeling aroused seeing other men's stories of being with her. Just don't hurt yourself. It's not fun. I'm really starting to see why guys have more variety than regulars. Sex is very emotional, you're kidding yourself if its not.

Reviews are just that, a tool to make a buying decision with your time and money. If you're prying into them after having seen a lady, unless of course it's a special event like a doubles or orgy, than you've become emotionally vested and simply turn those emotions into lust/arousal to be with that woman again. Or if you had a bad time, maybe read to see if a guy had as bad of time as you had. Why else would you read her review if you know time with her would be great?

Also, instincts very rarely play a role in humans as we are very complex and sentient creatures. Your behavior towards the reviews are a learned tool, and not something you picked up automatically to feel that way. Instincts play a minimal role in us compares to other animals. So you might explore your emotions and hope they are healthy ones for you, or if you should slow down and see others for a while. The fact you are questioning your actions makes them emotional, otherwise it would be instinct for all of us to do that with reviews and would be normal behavior or instinctual. But it's not. Especially due to this profession and what it represents.

What you're doing is not wrong. Just keep your emotions in check and realize if things go south, you're totally ok with it. Believe me, I think reviews can be the most entertaining things on the web. And many are arousing. Especially strip club reviews. Just be careful is all.

[Guest010619]

it is a turn on to watch a favorite lady with another man. That’s why MFM’s are so much fun.

[mitch p]

Amen ugotme10, weather I'm reading a review or watching a friend go down on a awesome lady. The excitement levels go through the roof and the urge for this lady is extremely heightened. Not sure what triggers it, jealousy, selfishness, desire, or my over active libido. This thread was never about falling in love or loosing touch with reality. I have the emotions of a rock so I guess I picked the wrong word for my feelings. Was trying to find out if other people had the same experience.
DrGrey, you wrote a review similar to this scenario only on a grander scale with Evanmoore.
Kimber Rose, thanks for your input. You have a sexy avatar, wish you had a showcase.

[Dr Grey]

That I did. She wasn't an atf or regular girl I see by any means. She had posted a thread for cuckold fantasy so we planned a date around it, just role play. Was fun, but by no means jealous at the othe other man fucking her. It was a turn on sure! Live porn is always fun. If that's the kinda arousal you're getting is a cuck kinda thing, whatever floats your boat. But she's not your real girlfriend so I dunno what I'd call it. But when you write jealousy, people get mixed ideas about it i guess. Whatever turns you on. Just be careful. It's no not bad to be turned on by her sexiness and bedside manner.

[strawberry skye]

This will probably come as a huge shock to everyone so you may want to sit down for this... drum roll...

JEALOUSY IS HUGE IN THE HOBBY. How baffling and mind-blowing to read that someone got jealous OMG no wayLMAO!!

Every second of every day here guys are getting jealous and the women are no different. oh boy it can be a real shitshow at times. I did not say every woman but a significant amount whether they admit it or not get jealous to the point that Provider references are like a roll of the dice. Some ladies like to start drama over a reference request with the client, offer a better deal, call the client and demand the $20 she didn't get for the extra 10 minutes she stayed or whatever scenario you can imagine. This makes screening via references not very appealing but luckily there are many other ways to screen so jealous Nelly or envious Emerald don't salt everybody else's game.

And for the OP- You Are Not Alone with the jealousy review reading conundrum. I recently lost a wonderful intelligent kind quick-witted client that had been a favorite, because he was falling in love with me and said so. I understood, wish him the best and if he happens to still be lurking I hope he finally got that rest and relaxation out there in your happy place like we discussed during so many of our naked therapy sessions. I miss him very much. It still makes me laugh when I hear a certain Led Zep song which carried a very funny tale from his graduate years....


This may be a hooker board fueled by hatred Venom gossip and vile feuding in some parts of the board but for those of us who are here for its intended purpose there is indeed a Humanity aspect and feelings are not an anomaly

[KlassyKelliAnn]

Originally Posted by HedonisticFool

males are pre-wired for dominance. when a male suspects or knows a vixen has been mounted by another male, our primal instinct is to flood her with our seed. we become overwhelmed with arousal, will fuk her brains out and will dump the biggest load at that time while experiencing a mind blowing climax.

This is totally HOT!


KKA

[pickupkid]

It is very easy to develop feelings for a provider, particularly if see her often.Sometimes this will lead to a relationship.Other times it won't and one person becomes jealous. Take a step back. See someone else