Curious

[papadee]

I had asked this in a comment on a review. Didn't want to hijack the review, so I'm posting it here.


This is a general question, not about this particular provider.


How does the sub "explain, inform, tell" the Domme what the sub is into, looking for, etc. I know once the session starts, the Domme is in control. But do you go over the details beforehand? After the session, do you discuss equally what occurred & what adjustments to make for next time? I have specific ideas of what I want, and don't know if I should tell her specifically or generally, and hope she's skilled enough to read my intentions.

[All-tied-up]

From my experience many Dommes will have a short discussion going over limits, safe words, rules, interests and goals. This can be anywhere from 5 to 30 minutes depending on the Domme. Often they may have a detailed questionnaire or request detailed emails prior to meeting then you have to trust that they can bring you where you want or need to go.

I have had some good ones who can do this and still leave me wanting more, I have had some that felt like they were going through the motions.

To your original question, there are some exceptions I am sure, but in my experience, Dommes that are willing to have sex with a client are more a kinky escort then a true Domme, they may take charge but will not have all the services or equipment of a pro. If your goal is to explore kink or live out a fantasy then an escort will be able to accommodate. If you want to truly submit and be dominated then a pro is your best bet.

[papadee]

Originally Posted by All-tied-up

From my experience many Dommes will have a short discussion going over limits, safe words, rules, interests and goals. This can be anywhere from 5 to 30 minutes depending on the Domme. Often they may have a detailed questionnaire or request detailed emails prior to meeting then you have to trust that they can bring you where you want or need to go.

I have had some good ones who can do this and still leave me wanting more, I have had some that felt like they were going through the motions.

To your original question, there are some exceptions I am sure, but in my experience, Dommes that are willing to have sex with a client are more a kinky escort then a true Domme, they may take charge but will not have all the services or equipment of a pro. If your goal is to explore kink or live out a fantasy then an escort will be able to accommodate. If you want to truly submit and be dominated then a pro is your best bet.

Thanks. You gave me some good tips/ideas. I know I'm looking more for a kinky escort than true Domme. It's been hard to find that.

[Jannisary]

Originally Posted by papadee

Thanks. You gave me some good tips/ideas. I know I'm looking more for a kinky escort than true Domme. It's been hard to find that.

I've not had personal experience with either lady but in the St. Louis are there is:

Shy - 1shybombshell https://eccie.net/member.php?u=417245 Who I believe offers a kinky experience with strap on play and bdsm stuff along with full service escort experience.

If you are a member of P411, NikkiForFun, still has an active profile there and back in the day when she was more publicly active she was known for doing domme including strap on play, spanking, and other stuff. P411 seems to be the only place she has a current ad up and the only way to contact her.