Suggestions for a Newbie

[Nunyabiznas]

Good Morning guys and gals. I have posted a few times about the lack of providers in the NEA area, and now I am thinking about making a trip either Central or NWA. I am obviously new to the hobby, so I was wondering if anyone might have the inside track on a provider that would be newbie friendly and a safe introduction to the hobby. Any advice would be welcome.

[Baconman]

Probably all the ladies are newbie friendly if you present yourself right. Contact someone you would like to see and explain your situation and most likely she'll go out of her way to help you if give off a good vibe.

[Nunyabiznas]

Thanks Baconman. Noted

[g0lfnutt]

Agreed. Just talk to them like a person deserving of respect. That and a good vibe will go a long way to put them at ease.

Originally Posted by Baconman

Probably all the ladies are newbie friendly if you present yourself right. Contact someone you would like to see and explain your situation and most likely she'll go out of her way to help you if give off a good vibe.

[Vannah]

From a provider's point of view, I was never newbie friendly just because someone can have a squeaky clean record and still be a serial killer, but I also watch too much SVU, so I digress.

On a serious note, just be very sweet and respectful from first contact. Please realize that without being an established hobbyist in the community, different ladies will require different screening information, with some being more detailed than others to feel safe. If someone asks you for information that you don't feel comfortable giving, just respectfully decline and move on to the next name on your list. Best of luck!

Xoxo,
Vannah

[Nunyabiznas]

Thanks for the insight Vannah. That makes sense. I would think that in order for everyone to be able to have a good time both parties are going to have to feel comfortable.

[SlowHand50]

Trust is something that is earned, and it's a two-way street in this hobby. Thanks for your perspective, Vannah. I've always found that being as open as possible with someone can help a lot, but one has to listen to their senses sometimes and try someone else if things don't seem right. It's a tricky hobby that way. Pun intended.

[Nunyabiznas]

Open and honest communication is something I have always been a big believer in. It just seems to be a pretty delicate balancing act deciding how much trust to have in people when dealing with these sensitive subjects. I was really happy to find this forum because it seems to take a lot of the guessing out of it.

[CH Luke]

I agree with everything offered above.

One more word of advice is that you might think of this as building a resume. You might want to go with the more premium providers to start: a) they are more likely to provide a reference, and b) her reference will be respected by other ladies.

Good luck and feel free to reach out by PM if you ever have a question about a situation, provider, etc.

[Vannah]

Originally Posted by CH Luke

One more word of advice is that you might think of this as building a resume. You might want to go with the more premium providers to start: a) they are more likely to provide a reference, and b) her reference will be respected by other ladies.

Excellent advice, Austin!

I can't speak for others, but I personally do not accept references from STG or Tryst only providers that are not members on here or P411 with excellent reputations. I'm not at all saying there aren't good providers on those sites, but I only feel comfortable accepting references from well known, highly respected ladies that I regularly have the opprtunity to interract with. I feel that the providers a gentleman lists as his references says a lot more about him than he may realize.

[Southernnavyvet]

Originally Posted by Vannah

Excellent advice, Austin!

I can't speak for others, but I personally do not accept references from STG or Tryst only providers that are not members on here or P411 with excellent reputations. I'm not at all saying there aren't good providers on those sites, but I only feel comfortable accepting references from well known, highly respected ladies that I regularly have the opprtunity to interract with. I feel that the providers a gentleman lists as his references says a lot more about him than he may realize.

So thankful for p411 meself

[Murf76]

Originally Posted by Southernnavyvet

So thankful for p411 meself

Copy That!!!!!

[Nunyabiznas]

Originally Posted by CH Luke

I agree with everything offered above.

One more word of advice is that you might think of this as building a resume. You might want to go with the more premium providers to start: a) they are more likely to provide a reference, and b) her reference will be respected by other ladies.

Good luck and feel free to reach out by PM if you ever have a question about a situation, provider, etc.

Thanks Luke! I really appreciate the advice and offer of additional support. I’m sure I’ll have need of it at some point.

[DallasRain]

make a trip to Tulsa and see GypsyHeart

good luck baby!!!

[Baconman]

Before you contact any ladies do some research on the ones your interested in. It will save you and their time with questions that are already known. If you ever need any help. I know a few of them that are pretty friendly.