i have not taken anything said here personally. even osd calling me skinny
. it is what it is. when you said he was aggressively contacting you, that is some thing i have low tolerance of because there has been stalkers in the past and the shit has hit the fan for people. i am glad though that he stepped up and gave his side of the story. it is always good to hear both sides. from his first couple posts i got a decent feel for the guy. it was fairly easy to figure out what happened. it was a mix of emotions, mis communications, and human nature. you will find i tend to not take sides and always stay in the middle. ok now please dont take offense to this and it is not meant as an attack. you said you are in school. if you have the option to take psychology i would highly recommend it. it is some thing that will help you in any career you go into. you both can correct me if i am wrong. he seems like a decent guy with a good heart, that is at least what i picked up on. now on the psyc side males in nature tend to like to get things done quickly. if they feel some thing is very important to take care of, they will try every thing they can to get it done as fast as possible. they need the closure and feeling of completion. now in this situation if he heard that you felt he shorted you and he felt it was very important to make it right. he will keep trying to contact you so he can get it done and fixed as soon as possible. males can be short sighted and have blinders on when it comes to this situation. to them it might be normal of just trying to get it fixed or done, but to outsiders it will look like they are being obsessive and stalkerish. i am sorry for the long post but figured it might give you a little insight that might be a cause and a misunderstanding. if you have time check this out
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=814eR5K7KD8 mark is right on the money with his lectures and he makes them not so boring.
oh and word of advise. aj is very level headed and a straight shooter. she tells you like it is. she is a sweetheart but don't make her mad. i have an emergency freezer filled with bacon and red death just in case i cross the line
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