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Seedy · 12-12-2011, 09:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Diomidis

Glad to see you took everyone's comments to heart. Love is something that evolves over time.

It will take you a lot of internal reflection as well as being able to talk to a counselor, priest, etc. As others have said, this is more about your child than it is about you. You said your wife is your best friend, that's how it should be. It may sound sappy or trite, but would you give yourself to save her life? As long as you can say yes to that question on a daily basis, you love her...regardless of how you may feel temporarily. That's not to say you need to ask yourself that, but my SO will always be more important to me than my life is.

Some profound words Diomidis,, as much of a smartass as I am, I would to this very day trade my life for any of my wives, or fiance, at the drop of a hat..... when I was with them being with someone else, never entered my mind.

Guest032414-2 · 12-12-2011, 11:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Sarunga

I must say, this is a very interesting discussion....probably more of a philosophical one....that I would just love to have with you. But considering the privacy issues, we probably cannot have a good one. I do know of another member, who hobbies and loves his SO in a similar manner...in fact, I believe he met his SO through hobbying.

Well, I've never done it....that is, hobby while having a SO that I would be loving to this extent (or no extent)....so, I really wouldn't want to form an opinion about your situation.

Considering my relationships, I have probably felt this kind of true love only during certain phases....but never throughout. And it's highly commendable that you manage to sustain this kind of selfless love throughout your relationship. It must be a VERY SPECIAL bond between you and your wife. My best wishes to you and your wife for ever lasting true love.

It really feels good to know such love can exist between two human beings.

Yeah, it's certainly one of those philosophical topics that man has been discussing for millennia. I understand and appreciate those that choose not to hobby while in a relationship, their respect of true monogamy is quite admirable. Opinions will be formed, thoughts and comment may be made, but nobody will ever be a harsher judge of my own character than I am. I thank you for being above board and making this a true discussion instead of what it could have become. I allowed myself to post after a few too many drinks and I need to be man enough to stand behind things said when the filters are turned off.

Seedman, thanks for your kind words also. We are...

dearhunter · 12-13-2011, 08:03 AM

The key is to not have any illusions as to who and what you are........it is what it is.

Abigail (Source of JOY) · 12-13-2011, 11:18 AM

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Originally Posted by dearhunter

The key is to not have any illusions as to who and what you are........it is what it is.

Also.... Keep in mind that we hooktards create a fantasy, or an illusion if you will, and tell you what you want to hear! The ugly truth goes a step further when you realize your wife truly loves you, whereas, the hooktards truly love the compensatin left for the hour or two of fluffing and stroking your ego and cock!

Guest071217-1 · 12-13-2011, 11:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Abigail (Source of JOY)

Also.... Keep in mind that we hooktards create a fantasy, or an illusion if you will, and tell you what you want to hear! The ugly truth goes a step further when you realize your wife truly loves you, whereas, the hooktards truly love the compensatin left for the hour or two of fluffing and stroking your ego and cock!

I for one am shocked!!!!!

Abigail (Source of JOY) · 12-13-2011, 11:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Goatnipples

I for one am shocked!!!!!

Except for you babe.... Everything I tell you is the truth!!!! ;-)

Guest071217-1 · 12-13-2011, 11:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Abigail (Source of JOY)

Except for you babe.... Everything I tell you is the truth!!!! ;-)

Okay, now I feel better.

Abigail (Source of JOY) · 12-13-2011, 12:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Goatnipples

Okay, now I feel better.

Dangit!!! Stop posting!!! I wanna be on bottom for a while!!! Always making me work my ass off!!!.. Where is my Gatorade?!?!

Oh wait.... Seems as though we have gotten off topic.... Sorry OP!

Nick11796 · 12-13-2011, 12:52 PM

I married an escort who is quite a bit younger than I am and very pretty. After some problems that were caused by others, she began having sex with other men. We have had lots of conversations on the subject, but she says that she will continue having sex with other men and will leave me if I do not accept it. She says that I can see escorts once a week if I want to.

The arrangement is not great but it keeps us married.

Tetas · 12-13-2011, 05:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Nick11796

I married an escort who is quite a bit younger than I am and very pretty. After some problems that were caused by others, she began having sex with other men. We have had lots of conversations on the subject, but she says that she will continue having sex with other men and will leave me if I do not accept it. She says that I can see escorts once a week if I want to.

The arrangement is not great but it keeps us married.

Oh, YOU again?
Advice is totally different for you, kick the bitch to the curb.

inmypants44

Good decision, I can truthfully say that every romantic relationship I have ever been in hasn't worked out because I'm a poor communicator.
I'm a fun-loving good-time guy and love to joke and laugh, but when it really comes down to talking about matters of the heart...I tend to swell up like a toad and swallow all the emotions.
Don't let this happen to you, be a husband to your friend, be a daddy to your little girl and most of all...be a man.

Maybe someday I'll be able to say that I've been the same.

Phil A.Cheaux · 12-14-2011, 07:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Abigail (Source of JOY)

Also.... Keep in mind that we hooktards create a fantasy, or an illusion if you will, and tell you what you want to hear! The ugly truth goes a step further when you realize your wife truly loves you, whereas, the hooktards truly love the compensatin left for the hour or two of fluffing and stroking your ego and cock!

OMG I thought all of this was real. Now that I have been deceived what am I to do?

Abigail (Source of JOY) · 12-14-2011, 07:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Phil A.Cheaux

OMG I thought all of this was real. Now that I have been deceived what am I to do?

I will keep lying to you hunny.... Don't worry, I will help you get through this. You don't have to do it alone!!

TexasGator · 12-14-2011, 11:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Abigail (Source of JOY)

Where is my Gatorade?!?!

I'm still around, but you don't need my "ade" - you're doing just fine.
Keep 'em coming. It's finally getting entertaining around here.

jphcbpa · 12-14-2011, 11:55 AM

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Originally Posted by mikkifine

You have only been married for 2 years and you have a baby. Please don't get divorced.

Most of my clients love their wives but the sex just isn't there. If you get divorced, 20 years later you will kick yourself for getting a divorce because of lack of pussy.

this. hey at least you are having sex with your wife allbeit "boring"

jphcbpa · 12-14-2011, 11:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Nick11796

I married an escort who is quite a bit younger than I am and very pretty. After some problems that were caused by others, she began having sex with other men. We have had lots of conversations on the subject, but she says that she will continue having sex with other men and will leave me if I do not accept it. She says that I can see escorts once a week if I want to.

The arrangement is not great but it keeps us married.

sounds like you signed up for it. seems like a win win to me.