Sugarbaby Sugardaddy: your thoughts?

[terbul]

Originally Posted by Nicolette Bordeauxva

Seems like the guys are playing in both fields SD and escort clients. So, is it acceptable for us ladies to have it both ways? If I wanted a SD, would I need to keep my Nicolette job a secret? Would I need to use my real name or make up a third? I've never been a SB and probably wouldn't see the same level of financial flow, but there is this house I want to buy and I sure could use a co-signer since I have bad credit and no proof of income.

Nicolette is not your real name???

[ferdburf]

Originally Posted by SR Only

You need him to buy it outright and transfer title to you free and clear unencumbered.

That's happened to me at the end of relationships, never at the beginning

[atlcomedy]

Originally Posted by Marcus Aurelius

The thing I'm picking up here and that I don't understand is that it appears that the SD owns the SB. That is not the way I would be. Correct me if I'm wrong.

I think Diver's situation hits it pretty well on the head.

My only real SB relationship was very similar, sans the diving

One of my conditions was that she have a job so what she got from me enabled a nicer life; not pay the rent. I think when there is dependency when things go bad they have the possibility of going REALLY bad. That is why I required her to work.

As for the "SD owns the SB", assuming it is an exclusive relationship & she isn't working, it isn't so much "ownership" but a reliance on a single customer. Very similar to business. There are risks (and rewards) for doing say 80% of your volume thru Wal*Mart.

As for the exclusive relationship & she isn't working or going to school scenario, I really don't see that working either....it would leave her with a lot of time on her hands....that's part of why in that case I really don't see the exclusivity part.

The attraction for me to the SB thing is having a regular "date" whose company I enjoy say once a week or a couple of times a month. Anymore than that I don't have time for.

[pjorourke]

I've had relationships with ladies (escorts) that over time became more SB/SD like -- fixed monthly arrangements and vice versa SB/SD arrangements that involved a payment per visit.

With the variety available through the internet, it really has become more a different arrangement for the same thing -- escorts to SB are really a continuum.

[Guest012211-3]

As I stated earlier, in both circumstances all bills were paid with a small personal allowance. Which could explain the "I own you" mentality.

I have several non escort girlfriends who were SB's with the same arrangement. One even lived with him. They seemed happy at first, but I still remember the look on their face when we are out for drinks and the SD calls.
It's kinda like horror and disappointment all at the same time. They had to stop what they were doing, explain why-when-where, and then run home.
It was like an abusive controlling relationship.

Again, if it works for you great. You can establish ground rules from the start, and please do. Most of the girls I know had boyfriends on the side which got them into plenty of trouble later on. IF you want an SB, and you are over 50 and yet paying for a twenty-something then beware. They just want your money. If there is a real connection then that constitutes a relationship, right? IF you are married, then be prepared for her to be hurt, and/or go Basic Instinct on your ass!

[sugarbaby405]

well i have a sugar daddy and i can def say it is great! im only 22 and im not only there for his money like the gal below had said about twenties girls...it really depends on the girl herself because i know some women who are almost 30 and still act childish...its all how you carry yourself and i for one have poise and carry myself a different style from any other lady and i make a connection with the guys i meet bcuz i just love to be center of attention when i go somewhere...from diners to cinemas, rooms....hell even if im just on a website

[pjorourke]

Originally Posted by Nicole Preston

IF you want an SB, and you are over 50 and yet paying for a twenty-something then beware. They just want your money.

I'm shocked!!!

[sugarbaby405]

"A woman should dress to attract attention. To attract the most attention, a woman should be either nude, or wearing something as expensive as getting her nude is going to be."

i love your quote!! its soooo TRUE!! lol

[pjorourke]

Thank you darlin!

[guest051510-1]

Originally Posted by SR Only

'Colette, you don't want a co-signer. You need him to buy it outright and transfer title to you free and clear unencumbered.

Any volunteers? It would make me very happy and I will never forget it.

[discreetgent]

Have him buy it and then sell it to you with a self-financed mortgage that is in-line with current rates.

[WTF]

Originally Posted by Nicole Preston

Again, if it works for you great. You can establish ground rules from the start, and please do. Most of the girls I know had boyfriends on the side which got them into plenty of trouble later on. IF you want an SB, and you are over 50 and yet paying for a twenty-something then beware. They just want your money. If there is a real connection then that constitutes a relationship, right? IF you are married, then be prepared for her to be hurt, and/or go Basic Instinct on your ass!

Nicole if I weren't getting married to Nina, I'd be courting you for my SB! LOL That is what I love about the Southern girls....they cut to the chase!

Originally Posted by NinaMorgan

I am in Vegas there is a Chapel on every corner, let me know when you are arriving I will send a limo

Please hire Elvis

[Sydneyb]

Originally Posted by atlcomedy

That is why I required her to work.

You're kidding, Right? "I required her to work"????

Originally Posted by atlcomedy

As for the "SD owns the SB", assuming it is an exclusive relationship & she isn't working, it isn't so much "ownership" but a reliance on a single customer. Very similar to business. There are risks (and rewards) for doing say 80% of your volume thru Wal*Mart.

Any type of exclusive arrangement I've ever been involved in, "walmart" is not in my worldview - or his, thankfully.

Originally Posted by atlcomedy

....it would leave her with a lot of time on her hands....that's part of why in that case I really don't see the exclusivity part.

And how is this attitude NOT one that encompasses control over property?

My experience with exclusive arrangements (not SB or SD arrangements - I'm 41 for gawd's sake!) has been based on mutual respect and desire to make one another's lives more fulfilling. Most recently, it was a person who saw that I was striving for good - professionally and philanthropically - and he did everything possible to help me achieve these things. And I did. With his generous help that was always given freely without a paternalistic bent. I wouldn't have accepted it with it. Maybe its the difference between being a child who can be controlled by $600 bucks a month or a man who truly desires to do good while getting his needs met.

[Guest083011]

Originally Posted by discreetgent

Have him buy it and then sell it to you with a self-financed mortgage that is in-line with current rates.

He can buy it out right, but a transfer (quit claim however you want to call it) for $1.00 wouldn't hold in a court. Transfer for $100. and a court would consider it "value." One dollar is too low and deemed invalid.

[atlcomedy]

Wow, Sydney, you make me sound like a bad guy.....

...you've taken my thoughts so far out of context I won't bother to respond...and I've heard you are relatively bright....?????