question for the gents

[Naomi4u]

Originally Posted by pjpenner

Like I said at the beginning of this post; I'm obviously the abnormal freak. I'm not saying those who measure a session's success in terms of multiple pops are wrong, but it's just not in my nature to treat these ladies as a "wet hole" to get off, and off, and off. I literally shutter just thinking about that type of a date.

My kinda man

[naughtyangel334]

Originally Posted by Naomi4u

Yup!

well, that got me wet

[Abe Normal]

Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

She did warn us she was going to be bitchier than normal.

Oh, you didn't mean "Abe" normal


Carry on !

[CarolinaGent]

I wasn't asking because I felt the times where I have not been able to pop more than once were inferior. I don't judge an encounter by the number of pops by any means. I have had plenty of dates where I spend just as much time talking as messing around that were equal in my mind. Also alot of the time I focus more on her, than myself because I love to ensure they are having a pleasurable experience too. I'm very aware everyone is very different when it comes to orgasms. I had one women I was with many times who would cum 4-8 times in a hour, others only twice, and many in between. I can't say if one type had more fun than the others, but I did my best to try and make sure we made the best of the experience. It's just if I could get another pop out of it, it would be a nice bonus.

[Ed Highlight]

Originally Posted by CarolinaGent

.... It's just if I could get another pop out of it, it would be a nice bonus.

Sorry CG, doesn't look like there are any real answers here for ya...Only very similar experiences (hope there's a little comfort there)....and a common desire for that one more "bonus"!!

[CarolinaGent]

Well, in my experience, it never hurts to ask when in doubt.

[Naomi4u]

Originally Posted by CarolinaGent

Well, in my experience, it never hurts to ask when in doubt.

Sure doesn't.

[MaxiMilyen]

Originally Posted by pjpenner

London, taking your post at face value ... I totally agree. (I know that you thought we'd never agree on ANYTHING!)

OK this thread confirms it; I must be the most abnormal freak around. Popping (once or several times) has never been my objective or concern on a date with one of our special ladies. My primary focus is to enjoy our time together.

I love the company. I enjoy our time together to talk, laugh, tease, play and eventually get seriously down to business if that's how the session flows. (And most of the time it does.) However, there are any number of reasons that will not permit us to get to the "serious business" phase of our time together.

Additionally, I may not even allow the lady time to "work" on me if she is really responsive to my attention and activities directed towards her. I've left many dates in which I spent the entire "sex time" on pleasing her. Many of those times I never even undressed. I've also spent many dates just holding and cuddling the lady while we talked.

I've yet to feel "cheated" because I didn't "get off" if the two of us had a great time together. There will be other dates down the road when we'll have plenty of opportunity to let the physical passion consume us.

Unless I've scheduled a multi-hour date, multiple pops isn't going to happen for me anyway. It's typical for me in a multi-hour date to be too busy enjoying each other doing other things to be concentrating on me having multiple pops. For me, that's just ludicrous.

Like I said at the beginning of this post; I'm obviously the abnormal freak. I'm not saying those who measure a session's success in terms of multiple pops are wrong, but it's just not in my nature to treat these ladies as a "wet hole" to get off, and off, and off. I literally shutter just thinking about that type of a date.

.....I really like this answer.

The guys who measure the session on pops and are too nervous to focus on anything else, well.... I actually don't believe they enjoy the ladies company so much as they want to enjoy her looks and skill set and are very focused on the sexual acts themselves. I can't speak for the other ladies, but I don't compare any one gent to another. I enjoy different kinds of gentlemen and if they all wanted it to be exactly the same as the last, I'd be out! I have noticed it takes me a while to get some to calm down and relax after they first arrive. WALDT and enjoy this world in different ways. Anywho....thank goodness for variety, not just in your choice of different ladies, but also in what you each enjoy.

As for going for a second pop....ya might try boy toys....there are some awesome prostate toys on the market, if you're game to try them.....I like to use the slim, flexible vibrating kind. This has worked on many occasions when a second pop was sought after and being illusive, or even on a first pop that just won't get where it needs to.

Just for the record, while I consider myself a pleaser, if it pleases a gent to please me, then please.....please me.

[Cpalmson]

Okay, this has now become absurd. Dude comes in and asks for advice. Now it is like bash on pop counters day (Sorry London ).

There are some of us who have issues. Always have and always will. I cum quickly. I've sought numerous ways to alleviate the situation-- mostly to no avail. For me, I just accept the fact that I will cum very early in date. I'd actually like to be the type of guy who could take 15 min of BBBJ, then spend another 15 min at DATY, then 10 min 69, then spending the rest of my time in every position before I finally have one huge orgasm. However, that's just not me. I just know going into a session I will cum early. After that, I really don't care if I pop one more time or 4 more times. I am there to spend quality time with a lady that I have chosen to be with. I want to please her more than I am being pleased. There is no contest-- unless of course the encounter is strictly PSE, then I think pop count would matter.

[London Rayne]

I would never bash the OP...he is a gent in more ways than one. I was bashing guys who literally use us as a cum dumpster, and I will NOT see anyone like that period. He was not saying he was ALL about the pops, just that he wanted to know how to achieve more....big difference.

I will however offer a guy with the right attitude a PSE, which would consist of a pop based date where I really don't care if he is about me or not. If I know going into it what to expect, I can accommodate. I just can't stand guys who book the cheapest possible option then get pissed when we can't stay there for twice the time they paid for.

[charlestudor2005]

Originally Posted by M A X

but I don't compare any one gent to another.

I call BS on this statement. How can you not??? Especially with the range of guys you get?

[MaxiMilyen]

Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

I call BS on this statement. How can you not??? Especially with the range of guys you get?

Hmmm......I just don't and can't. I use the exact thing you think prevents me from doing what I do. The range of guys you mention are all individual unique beings, who think, feel, react and even perform differently. I'm not quite sure how to explain it to you, but I'll try. Please ask further questions if I don't get my point across.

When I set an appointment with you....it really is you I am concentrating on. The first time we meet, I obviously have no clue what ya look like before hand, in most cases. I don't hope you look like Mr X, or hope you flick your tongue like Mr Y, or have a wonderful penis like Mr Z. I do my research and try to find out as much about you as I can and have time to. I don't ask another lady about performance when requesting a reference. Others have asked me, but I'm rarely inclined to share anything other than stats and personality traits I notice about a gent, unless there are things that he did or tried that made me uncomfortable and I think might also make her feel so. She needs to know....right?

I'm not going to say that some men are not better lovers than others are for me, because of course that would be untrue. I just don't sit around and compare the acts we experienced together with what I experience with others. Mr X, Mr Y and you may all have different likes, dislikes and approaches, but that doesn't mean I won't enjoy each of those encounters thoroughly nor does it mean I wished you performed the tongue flick thingy that Mr Y does...LOL I either enjoy our experience together, as yes, I have enjoyed quite a few previous experiences with others and would see them again, or I don't enjoy it as much as I thought or hoped I would. The latter has been pretty rare for me. I'm either lucky that way, or it's because I am low volume, and I actually do screen and research as much as I can if and when possible.

Will I judge you as a lover for myself because ya did or didn't have the "magic touch" when it came to our encounter, I'll just say, if I didn't enjoy our encounter at some point than I would be surprised and that would be a rare thing for me! Will I judge you as a lover for me because you didn't flick your tongue the way I enjoyed it when Mr Y did it or looked as good as Mr X.? Nope. The way Mr Y flicks his tongue is NOT the only enjoyable act to be encountered. You may do something else that rocks my world in other ways. You are you, I am me, and our experience together will be unique. We either have chemistry between us that works and we found our way around each others' bodies and desires in an orgasmic and hopefully passionate manner, or we didn't.

Should I compare every encounter with the best? the worst? If I did that, I'm not sure I could continue doing this. I want the encounter to be what you want it to be and hopefully you will be comfortable enough with yourself and with me, which almost always ensures a really good, if not a great time for both of us. It's one of the really good reasons a lot of the ladies who are good at what we do, prefer the longer visits. That extra time can make a huge difference in the experience and often has for me.

I hope that made sense and I don't think I was BSing anyone, Charles. Not on purpose, anyway. If I were on the other end of this biz, I might look at it differently.

The point is, we are all different and most have something pretty awesome to offer. This is how I feel and how I approach my encounters. If it appears I compare the gents to one another concerning performance, then I am not seeing it. If ya think I am still wrong about that statement, please make a better argument than simply calling BS and stating the very reason for being able to do what I do, as being the reason that should keep me from being able to do it. LOL

[Cpalmson]

Originally Posted by London Rayne

I would never bash the OP...he is a gent in more ways than one. I was bashing guys who literally use us as a cum dumpster, and I will NOT see anyone like that period. He was not saying he was ALL about the pops, just that he wanted to know how to achieve more....big difference.

I will however offer a guy with the right attitude a PSE, which would consist of a pop based date where I really don't care if he is about me or not. If I know going into it what to expect, I can accommodate. I just can't stand guys who book the cheapest possible option then get pissed when we can't stay there for twice the time they paid for.

Okay, I can understand your POV. Just so you know, there are some of us guys out there for whatever reason cum quickly and are relying on a quality provider to accept that short-giving. For me, once I get relaxed, I enjoy spending quality time with the provider and not treat her like my personal sperm bank Actually, I want the provider I'm with to have just as many Os as I do-- if not more.

[topsgt38801]

Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

There is so much wrong with this statement, I don't know where to begin.

It is a race. You've only booked a certain amount of time, and you're trying to get as much in during that time as possible.

It may not be a pop counting contest, but it is a valid way of measuring the session.

And it's not all about ME. I get as much pleasure from giving pleasure as I do from receiving it. It really is about US.

And relax? I've got money riding on this session. How am I going to relax? Plus, I want to feel I'm kinda successful in bed. There's pressure there, too. Especially when I'm with a lady I'm sure has experienced the best of the best in bed, and most of us are either terrible or drab in comparison.

Ditto for me!

[MaxiMilyen]

@Charles and topsgt....what or who are you comparing being terrible or drab to?

I know it's not all those reviews we ladies put up and please don't say porn.