Cathrine - Vi - Valerie... I got outted :( now what do I do?

[billw1032]

Originally Posted by !VI!

If I out him, doesn't that make me just as bad as him...

Originally Posted by bobo1cg

revenge is never a good thing. Only makes things worse.

Good observations. But it's hard to understand how he could out you without giving away a lot about himself. I would think that the people who he told are probably already suspicious of him and how he knows the info that he spilled.

[!VI!]

Honestly I may have to leave Texas soon in order to continue hobbling

As long as I don't get DD I can just do IST until end of contract.

My big failure is I used my Catholic given name. Which I should have stayed away from... But I wanted a piece of the real me in the hobby, so I would just be a fake chick

[!VI!]

Originally Posted by bored@home

I don't get it...you posted a moment ago so you read the advice (good advice btw) then you got the opposite route with your BP post 2 minutes later.


Good luck to you... The CO angle though...if they gave you a "unoffical" pass (looking the other way) and you are still doing this, then you have to expect the bounce coming.

I need to edit my ads they are scheduled for auto posting, it's just same as that is just getting paid to be brought to top, I'm not even going to see anyone this week

[TinMan]

Vi, I appreciate the need to "come clean" with the folks in your real life, but YOU want to control when and how that happens. By having your real identity out there for anyone to see, you no longer control that conversation. Don't let this guy take that away from you.

[Luke Skywalker]

^^^^^^
That.

There is no upside to revealing your identity and face online. You only stand to lose. Stick to !VI!

On another note, if this low life has an ECCIE id, you should present whatever proof you have to the mods.

[TrailBlazer]

Sorry this has happened to you Vi. TinMan gives some excellent advice in his posts....same advice I would have given.
My own advice? Go UTR completely. Your attention should be on damage control with your relatives unless you don't care what they think anyway.
The asshat that outed you will hopefully get his.

[threepeckeredbillygoat]

Posts multiple full face pics on BP and othe escort websites..... acts suprised somebody figured out who she was.

You aren't the sharpest crayon in the box, are ya?




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[chevtruck20]

Sorry this happened Vi. I have to agree with Tinman's advice. Do what you feel is right and stay true to yourself!

[FunInDFW]

Originally Posted by moonshiner

Go to church and out him in front of the congregation.

[SimpleSam]

Well they can only take what they want once they outted you and now your family knows they can't out you again you took it and you owned it

Good for you

No need to run or hide if your family knows

[Luke Skywalker]

!VI!,

Another reason to avoid putting your identity out there is to avoid stalkers or worse.

Just another thought.

[Remote]

You must separate the hobby from the military. If your CO gave you a pass this time. Do not get caught again or you will get a DD RE4 on your DD 214.

Sorry this happened to you, but you must make use of the this chance to figure out what you are going to do with your future. Unfortunately these are some hard choices.

If the outer is reading this I hope you die a slow, painful, lonely death soon.


Remote

[Spdbird]

Probably not the wisest idea to post ALL your info (name, pics, phone etc) just from a Law Enforcement action opportunity either, should they be so inclined. Why make it easier for them to pounce?

[Golden Man]

!V!, You should probably step away from your computer and take some time to think things over. This debacle has been created by you and your rebellious persona.

1. Your parents namely your dad was critical of your lifestyle after being tipped off by some asshole. Your response, you post an ad on Bp in your hometown using your birth name and actual face pictures out of spite of your dad to embarrass your family. Not smart or cool.

2. You start this thread alerting readers most who would not have known otherwise of your birth name, or of the Bp ad further outing yourself.

3. Running ads with your real name which can be used to also find your address, price for services deemed to be illegal, and actual facial pictures is a gift to law enforcement. This should be a real concern for you.

You essentially took a matter that could have been contained between you, your parents and a limited number of others and put it out here for the entire world to see and know. While it was foul for the person to have outed you to your parents, you and you alone are responsible for the major shit storm it has become for you.

[Boltfan]

Originally Posted by !VI!

If I out him, doesn't that make me just as bad as him...

Yup. Stick with TinMan advice. Your info may be outted to your parents but no need to make it worse.