Providers with Attitude

[MOCHAakaMOCHA]

I've been called everything from rude (oh please lol) to no-nonsense to sassy to feisty lol. I'm probably a little bit of each tbh but above all else I'm sweeter than a bag of sugar and well most people I meet really like me (I think) lol. Normally I think if I did say something you took as rude well you probably didn't something or several things wrong in the first place. I could be wrong ... could be not. lol

I've been told probably by as many providers/females and guys/guests alike that I either seem extremely friendly, helpful and all of that good stuff or that I have a little of a hard edge. *shrugs*. In person i've gotten "oh wow you're MUCH NICER than I thought you'd be" (guessing by maybe a few of my comments on who knows which board I'm on that they saw me on) and I'm normally like O_O whaaaatttt (lol). I'm totally nice I swear! . *Gimme kiss* lol

Originally Posted by sexymaid_69

First off,

Hope everyone's having a good start to it at least.....

OK now.
"Attitude"
Also referred to as sass, twist, point of view, standpoint, demeanor, opinion, and stance.

I have often read reviews and comments wherein a gentleman will mention that a particular provider has an "attitude" about her.
Sometimes, he says it in a positive way,
ie. she's got that "come fuck me attitude and that's hott!"
And sometimes, not so positive, or even in a completely negative way.......
" She's really hot, but with her attitude I'd rather date my hand"

A lot of the time though these "attitudes" are perceived by what is written on these boards.
People do judge by the written (posted) word and usually can and do interject their own feelings at the time into what they're reading.
If you had a pissy day, you're more likely to perceive posts as being negative even if they weren't meant to be.

So that being said.
Have you ever met with someone simply because you like their attitude? Their posting style or perhaps something they've written in a blog or on their website that really impressed you and made that part of your brain say "I have to meet this person!

Or.
Have you ever met with, read up on or corresponded with someone whom despite their outward appeal had an attitude that just rubs you the wrong way?

And finally,
Can a providers attitude truly be gleaned by her online posts? Or do you reserve any judgement until you're in RL with that person?

[joesmo888]

attitude is very important.

1. don't turn me down for a service when I saw in your reviews that you do it with other guys.. I had a provider tell me "oh I only do that with established clients" when a first time client had said in a review she had done that with him. I tie this in with attitude because its a lie!
2. don't boss me around and give me orders during our session I really can't stand that. instead of " I want you to do me doggie style".. ask "you would feel great in doggie, would you like to move to doggie?"

now some guys like bossy women because they are wussies I guess, however considering many of us have a SO we have been with for years where we lack that nurturing and romance that's why we hobby to begin with. so if you can give us what we are missing that's a +1

also remember guys are very visual and we don't want distractions.. this means turn the tv/music down or off.. also don't pee in front of us.. don't mention your kids or that you have a sugar daddy.. we don't want to hear that!

[Guest062114-5]

Originally Posted by joesmo888

attitude is very important.

1. don't turn me down for a service when I saw in your reviews that you do it with other guys.. I had a provider tell me "oh I only do that with established clients" when a first time client had said in a review she had done that with him. I tie this in with attitude because its a lie!
2. don't boss me around and give me orders during our session I really can't stand that. instead of " I want you to do me doggie style".. ask "you would feel great in doggie, would you like to move to doggie?"

now some guys like bossy women because they are wussies I guess, however considering many of us have a SO we have been with for years where we lack that nurturing and romance that's why we hobby to begin with. so if you can give us what we are missing that's a +1

also remember guys are very visual and we don't want distractions.. this means turn the tv/music down or off.. also don't pee in front of us.. don't mention your kids or that you have a sugar daddy.. we don't want to hear that!

Hummmm, interesting post. Thanks for sharing. I'll be honest, neither of those scenarios sound like an attitude problem, per se.

My gut feeling is that some ladies are perceiving YOU as pushy and bossy and are not comfortable. In turn, they are reacting to you in a way that you then perceive as them being unaccommodating. Or, like you said because of your SO, you may be overly sensitive to somewhen being more vocal or assertive.

I may well be wrong, just offering an outside opinion of how I might feel. You might want to specifically look for ladies who are described as being sweet, soft-spoken, accommodating, submissive, etc.

Just a thought.

xoxo,
LMx

[Eccie Addict]

joesmo

"Don't turn you down" lol

So you are one of those that would freak out if you found out a lady didn't cum 10 times like she made you believe she did

This is all supposed to be a fantasy ya know. If some things turn out real then it's just a bonus...... (Sometimes it may not be a bonus you want)

[Unique_Carpenter]

Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

This is all supposed to be a fantasy ya know.

A stuffed bunny talking about a fantasy?
Ignoring movie jokes, the bar would have been declared open early for that, except that he hit the nail square on the head.
The fantasy starts with an initial perception, based on how folks present themselves, either on the boards (prior to a picture or showcase lookup), or in the first phone, or other contact. There are a lot of folks in hobbyland. Thus, quite a few will get bypassed, as other folks would be of more interest for the current daydream, due to that first perception.

[Monica13]

I have had a lot of clients say that it why they picked me, my no nonsense sense of style. I tend to get right to the point lol

[Eccie Addict]

Originally Posted by joesmo888

attitude is very important.

1. don't turn me down for a service when I saw in your reviews that you do it with other guys.. I had a provider tell me "oh I only do that with established clients" when a first time client had said in a review she had done that with him. I tie this in with attitude because its a lie!
2. don't boss me around and give me orders during our session I really can't stand that. instead of " I want you to do me doggie style".. ask "you would feel great in doggie, would you like to move to doggie?"

now some guys like bossy women because they are wussies I guess, however considering many of us have a SO we have been with for years where we lack that nurturing and romance that's why we hobby to begin with. so if you can give us what we are missing that's a +1

also remember guys are very visual and we don't want distractions.. this means turn the tv/music down or off.. also don't pee in front of us.. don't mention your kids or that you have a sugar daddy.. we don't want to hear that!

Oh and another thing, try not to speak as if you are speaking for all guys.

You say guys are wussies if they like a bossy woman yet you say you need "nurturing and romance" lol.

[Tiffani Jameson]

Originally Posted by LilMynx69

Hummmm, interesting post. Thanks for sharing. I'll be honest, neither of those scenarios sound like an attitude problem, per se.

My gut feeling is that some ladies are perceiving YOU as pushy and bossy and are not comfortable. In turn, they are reacting to you in a way that you then perceive as them being unaccommodating. Or, like you said because of your SO, you may be overly sensitive to somewhen being more vocal or assertive.

I may well be wrong, just offering an outside opinion of how I might feel. You might want to specifically look for ladies who are described as being sweet, soft-spoken, accommodating, submissive, etc.

Just a thought.

xoxo,
LMx

My thoughts exactly, Minx...

Sometimes what happens with a gentleman depends on how he makes us feel. And there could be a whole slew of underlying factors that make a lady say no to a man. That doesn't necessarily make her Dominant or even unaccommodating.

That one guy who reviewed her probably fingered her very well. So when you go in with gusto to do the same thing, she pulls back and says, 'no fingers,' she has every right.

You might've been eating steak all week, and are a smoker, and she doesn't swallow with you like she did with the non-smoker in her review. She has that right.

Back on topic.
Honestly, my attitude is much sweeter and warmer than what you read. While I have my opinions and beliefs, I don't think I even convey them the same in person.

[Guest092216]

Originally Posted by joesmo888

attitude is very important.

1. don't turn me down for a service when I saw in your reviews that you do it with other guys.. I had a provider tell me "oh I only do that with established clients" when a first time client had said in a review she had done that with him. I tie this in with attitude because its a lie!
2. don't boss me around and give me orders during our session I really can't stand that. instead of " I want you to do me doggie style".. ask "you would feel great in doggie, would you like to move to doggie?"

now some guys like bossy women because they are wussies I guess, however considering many of us have a SO we have been with for years where we lack that nurturing and romance that's why we hobby to begin with. so if you can give us what we are missing that's a +1

also remember guys are very visual and we don't want distractions.. this means turn the tv/music down or off.. also don't pee in front of us.. don't mention your kids or that you have a sugar daddy.. we don't want to hear that!

+1 on what lilmynx69 already stated and might I also be so bold as to add...if my review says I did something - so the fcuk what?! First off, just bc it says so doesn't mean it happened. I know this may come as a shock to you but ppl sometimes embellished or even lie about their sexual escapades and providers have no recourse for disputing the contents of a review (without posting a drama inducing rebuttle that only brings on more attention) especially if the info is in the ROS.

Secondly, even if I do something with someone else does NOT entitle you to the same. If you read how I licked, hummed, sucked and tongue-toyed some guys nutsack for an hour and then only motorboated your boys with my mouth shut for a hot minute its probably due to the condition of your balls (i personally have no idea of your nutsack status but smooth and soft wins over hairy and course hands down). I could go on but those are a few things that came to mind.

I'm not sure if you meant to come off the way you did but after reading your post I'd be concerned about seeing you. I think lm69 is absolutely right, you may need to stick with subs.

[joesmo888]

[Hummmm, interesting post. Thanks for sharing. I'll be honest, neither of those scenarios sound like an attitude problem, per se.

My gut feeling is that some ladies are perceiving YOU as pushy and bossy and are not comfortable. In turn, they are reacting to you in a way that you then perceive as them being unaccommodating. Or, like you said because of your SO, you may be overly sensitive to somewhen being more vocal or assertive.

I may well be wrong, just offering an outside opinion of how I might feel. You might want to specifically look for ladies who are described as being sweet, soft-spoken, accommodating, submissive, etc.

Just a thought.

xoxo,
LMx ]


I was merely answering the OP's question giving my opinion.. I find it odd how some of you are getting butt hurt (not you MX but others) over my opinion of what I find to be 'poor attitude'

by all means if a lady is not comfortable doing something I 100% do not want her to do it.

[pyramider]

Sensitive little fucktard ...

[joesmo888]

Originally Posted by thathottnurse

I know this may come as a shock to you but ppl sometimes embellished or even lie about their sexual escapades and providers have no recourse for disputing the contents of a review (without posting a drama inducing rebuttle that only brings on more attention) especially if the info is in the ROS.

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you sound upset.

90% of my experiences have been great, 10% have not been but that is because I was dumb and went the BP route.

whenever I have did my proper homework its always been a positive experience..

[B_stedman]

Originally Posted by joesmo888

attitude is very important.

1. don't turn me down for a service when I saw in your reviews that you do it with other guys.. I had a provider tell me "oh I only do that with established clients" when a first time client had said in a review she had done that with him. I tie this in with attitude because its a lie!
2. don't boss me around and give me orders during our session I really can't stand that. instead of " I want you to do me doggie style".. ask "you would feel great in doggie, would you like to move to doggie?"

now some guys like bossy women because they are wussies I guess, however considering many of us have a SO we have been with for years where we lack that nurturing and romance that's why we hobby to begin with. so if you can give us what we are missing that's a +1

also remember guys are very visual and we don't want distractions.. this means turn the tv/music down or off.. also don't pee in front of us.. don't mention your kids or that you have a sugar daddy.. we don't want to hear that!

great post sir!

the providers who are genuine and honest are the ones who always get my repeat business.

[joesmo888]

Originally Posted by Unique_Carpenter

A stuffed bunny talking about a fantasy?
Ignoring movie jokes, the bar would have been declared open early for that, except that he hit the nail square on the head.
The fantasy starts with an initial perception, based on how folks present themselves, either on the boards (prior to a picture or showcase lookup), or in the first phone, or other contact. There are a lot of folks in hobbyland. Thus, quite a few will get bypassed, as other folks would be of more interest for the current daydream, due to that first perception.

glad to see you get where I am coming from.

a provider who claims she is GFE I found on BP.. but then only offers a dance or a CBJ. I view this as scamming also. this is where I myself fell victim, and after doing more research I come to find out she has done the same thing to many others as well.. that's why I avoid BP and always do my homework.

[Old-T]

Originally Posted by joesmo888

attitude is very important.

1. don't turn me down for a service when I saw in your reviews that you do it with other guys.. I had a provider tell me "oh I only do that with established clients" when a first time client had said in a review she had done that with him. I tie this in with attitude because its a lie!

Not necessarily true, and I need to comment on this one. I know you find it hard to believe but SOME REVIEWERS LIE!!!! Just because "a first time client had said in a review she had done that with him" doesn't mean it happened. I had a friend who was brutally beaten by a guy because she wouldn't do anal with him. The truth was she didn't do anal, but one fake review said she did it, and that was the basis of the asshole beating her bad enough to put her in intensive care. On a less severe but more common note, a lot of ladies will do BBBJs only if the guy is clean, or will do anal only if he isn't too big, or heaven forbid, she may have changed how she does things from a 2 year old review. There are lots of valid reasons, but still the biggest issue is you are automatically believing an anonymous reviewer (who may or may not have actually met her) and automatically saying any discrepancy between that and what she says is a lie.

2. don't boss me around and give me orders during our session I really can't stand that. instead of " I want you to do me doggie style".. ask "you would feel great in doggie, would you like to move to doggie?"

I understand what you are saying, but to some degree I think this is linked to doing the appropriate research before deciding who to see. There are ladies who are more submissive, those who are more aggressive. To expect them to act the same is unrealistic, and to know what you want often requires communication. I'm not saying you don't communicate--I just can't tell either way from your post. However the exact scenario you mention that you don't like is exactly what other guys DO want, a woman who will take charge and actively lust after them.

In some ways it's like the guy who trashes a woman for being "fat" when her Title might be "BBW Sue" and her photos are accurate. Or complains "she wasn't a blonde" when her photos show a full head of black hair. If a certain attitude is important to a guy it is HIS responsibility to find the right match (unless she has misrepresented herself).

also remember guys are very visual and we don't want distractions.. this means turn the tv/music down or off.. also don't pee in front of us.. don't mention your kids or that you have a sugar daddy.. we don't want to hear that!

Personally, I'm in agreement with you about the TV--but look at the porn thread: there are guys who prefer it. To me music is an 'it depends"; it fits some sessions, it doesn't fit others. I mostly do multi-hours and overnights, and somewhere in there we will typically spend some time on the couch with some wine and music, or on the bed with music and massage oil. Finally, the issue of kids, etc., depends upon the specific relationship with that lady. There are some where it is expected between us because we have known each other a long time. There is even one lady I have babysat her kids when she had an emergency that she had to take care of. But for a first or second session, no, I would typically agree with you.

I think your post just reinforces there are a lot of people looking for and offering a lot of different things, and doing good research greatly improved the chances of a good date. If I go into McD's and walk out upset that I didn't get a great cioppino, that is MY fault.